<p>Shaw~my friend is selling an apartment in B not sure how big of a flat you are looking for? his has a killer view :D</p>
<p>Fog~S1 is moving off campus and S2 is picking tomorrow. Thanks for asking ;)</p>
<p>MM~Sending prayers your way. Please be kind to yourself. I would not concern myself with academics, and focus all my energy on your D’s health at this point.</p>
<p>MM: I’m very sorry to hear about your D. I hope you get a diagnosis soon.</p>
<p>Hugs to MM and her DD- I hope you hear something definitive soon…</p>
<p>Fogfog, S2’s draw was last week, so they’re set. It looks like other colleges are happening this week, so your kiddos is probably happening soon. My guess is since you’ve heard nothing from him, then everything is fine. With my guy I only hear from him when there’s a crisis. Probably two nice guys like your kiddo and his roomie got scooped up pretty fast into another group. Hope you hear soon. :)</p>
<p>MM: you are a brave and strong woman. Prayers to you and to your DD.</p>
<p>fogfog: Housing drama seems to be part of the landscape. D thought she was all set with current suite mates, but they dumped her part way into the process and were too embarrassed to tell her. By the time she found out, it was a week before Break and she had no roommates for next year. But (several tearful calls later) she did everything right, asked around, worked with the housing coordinator, and is now in a new suite with people who seem calm and reasonable. But yes, I think decisions are due soon, so your S should probably be figuring it out.</p>
<p>MM: how scary! I hope your D will get a proper diagnosis soon so she can concentrate on healing. Meanwhile as others have said, do not be shy about reaching out to your local network. They will want to help if only you can let them know how!</p>
<p>MM- Hugs to you. I hope that they figure out the proper diagnosis so that she can be treated.</p>
<p>MM - I’m sure you have access to good hospitals, but if not, I’m sure a number of people on CC are connected and could help you find doctors in their areas. We had two years when we thought our daughter was going blind and it required unfortunately lots of effort on our part to find the right doctors. I’m not sure I can be of much help, but I’d be happy to try.</p>
<p>MM - has your daughter had a full neuro work up with MRIs - cervical, thoracic and lumbar. A tumor in her spinal cord could cause these symptoms.</p>
<p>MM - Here’s wishing you and DD a quick and accurate diagnosis so that the problem can be properly treated and resolved. As others have posted, please reach out and use all the resources you have available to you.</p>
<p>MM: Praying for your dd. I do hope that you can find someone quickly that can diagnose her problem and restore her health. Such a rapid decline is scary! As others have said, I would set aside her school issues for now and focus on her healing. The academics will be easy for her to tackle when she is well.</p>
<p>MM - hugs. Difficult time for all of you - hopefully, they will have a diagnosis soon. I agree with those that said forget the school issues for now - you can always pick them up later. Please, please do take care of yourself - it’s very easy to forget about yourself when you are the primary caregiver for someone else that’s sick…</p>
<p>More hugs and prayers for MM and her D. I hope you get the diagnosis you need. Please take care of yourself, too. Can you get some help from a local resource (military, church, etc.)?</p>
<p>MM - yikes. I am so sorry to read about your D’s condition. The worse is not knowing. I hope you get some answers soon.</p>
<p>VaMom- while I like my Kindle, I want my phone to fit in my pants pocket.</p>
<p>Fog- S had room draw yesterday. He will be in a triple with two friends next year. I think they were hoping for another dorm, but are happy with the one they ended up with. I get no info from this kid. I know one of the boys he will be rooming with but when I ask about the 3rd S answers, “he is just a friend, you don’t know him.” OK, but can’t I get a name. (Alright so I want more than a name, I want background, pictures, etc, but lets start with a name and maybe google will help me with the rest) LOL. </p>
<p>Highhead - based on the class of 2015 FB page for S’s school, it seems quite a few kids were left in the lurch at the last minute. I give them credit for raising their hand on FB (amoung others) and letting folks know they need a last minute room mate. I think S would just bury his head in the sand.</p>
<p>page 2 rescue.</p>
<p>Haven’t heard yet when the room lottery is for D. Was supposed to be sometime now. She annoyed a few friends when she decided she didn’t want to be in a suite with both boys and girls. But she did find other girls that she could room with - apparently, they are trying to get an entire floor (4 suites?), all filled with their group.</p>
<p>on the housing front for our rising sophmores…
this is all I got from kiddo via Fb messaging</p>
<p>…“housing is almost done, roommate and I are gonna be in a very large double in a suite of 8, this way worked the best,we were gonna try to get a double all to ourselves but it wasnt going to work out.”</p>
<p>So I guess it has been worked out. I asked about the other roommates (majors/? athletes? etc) idk…</p>
<p>I bought them a large fridge at the beginning of the year–nicer than the rentals…and a large fan, lamps, rugs etc…with plans to replace the rug next year.
The roommate did the sofa–which is very very nice, as well as a flat screen tv. (beyond my wallet)</p>
<p>I wonder how they will put all this together in the suite next year, the common room etc. Maybe my kid and the roommate got included because they have some of the nicer stuff hahaha I do know that alot of the kids on the hall area really liked the way the suite was set up and I know kiddo and roommate were glad they (we parents) went the extra mile. Hope the stuff transports well to the next suite–that gets done in early May. I think they can leave their sofa, fridge, lamps and a couple boxes a piece in the suite.</p>
<p>I have waaaaaay too much drama on the homefront with my younger kiddo whose grades are a mess after being so illl and having such a hard time making it all up…this quarter will include an F instead of the C in that class, and a C in a class that is normally an A+…and this is after a great smemester of grades/exams etc…
this third quarter is a total mess.</p>
<p>Plus I had to pull the technology, laptop, cell etc…can you say “ballistic”<br>
oh man teenage angst</p>
<p>Fog–hugs for the rough quarter–it’s so hard to catch up after missed days (weeks?) of school. Though if you pulled the electronics, maybe there are other issues too? Hang in there.</p>
<p>So I’m worried about DS2’s surgery on Friday. There was a call on the answering machine tonight where someone from the surgeon’s office called to schedule his surgery. What the heck??? I scheduled it almost a month ago to insure it was at the beginning of spring break so he wouldn’t miss much school. I’m going to be a very unhappy camper if they somehow messed that up!!! Arghhhhh. I have to wait until tomorrow to call since I got the message after COB today. Sigh. :(</p>
<p>Vamom- I wouldn’t worry, I think the doctors office usually call to go over insurance, health care proxy, alergies, etc. Iknow sometimes my H (who has had a few surgeries) has had to go in a few days prior to give blood, etc. </p>
<p>Fog - have you talked to the GC to seeif somehow S can do a makeup, go to summer school, etc to bring the grades up, or even just drop the class?</p>
<p>Morning.</p>
<p>Kiddo2s educational challenges are in part to a LD…kiddo has time and half from College Board. </p>
<p>Right now the hs is stomping all the kids with ridiculous amounts of work. Other parents have commented that their students have spent inordinate amounts of time on hw.
So for a kid like mine who takes longer to finish the work, on top of the being ill for weeks …means the quarter got scr3w’d. Sorry for that–yet its true.</p>
<p>I am really frustrated because some of it is busy work. Some is important. The busy work takes time away from the other stuff…Because teachers want stuff on time…Kiddo2 went back to what was late and started trying to hand it in…and so all current work was late. Quite a linear kid…kiddo2 didn’t discuss with the teacher that doing current work first and then makeup was the way to go…Why the teacher didn’t comment to kiddo 2 weeks ago about the order she wanted stuf, idk.
I got an email from the math teacher suggesting a tutor for a math-marathon weekend this weekend. Okay…sooooo…so where do I find one who works weekends AND will work around my kids need to finish the Term history paper draft which is due Monday that kiddo2 allocated time for. making that up2…
kwim…
Sent back an email asking the teacher for help and could she help us find a tutor or help herself. Haven’t heard back. The safety net for kids with medical crisis isn’t there.</p>
<p>To drop this class means kiddo2 would have to repeat the grade!!! Yes really. It is possible that if the class ends in an F, that summer school for that one course can be done…what a mess that would be because there are plans in the works for kiddo2 to be doing something else…and Dh is a chaperone…and all the $ is paid out…</p>
<p>So right now we have to shore kiddo2 up emotionally and get kiddo2 to see the 4th quarter as an opportunity to regain the ground lost etc. Kiddo2 was sobbing–just sobbing-- last night when the news about the recent math grade was revealed…and how the hard fought A for the yr would be lost due to the C for this quarter…</p>
<p>Can’t tell you how heartbroken I feel for kiddo2 right now.</p>
<p>On the other hand I realize this isn’t nearly as devastating as Military Mom’s news and her sweet DD.
So thanks for listening. I am trying to keep this in perspective.
Lets face it, issues like sorority rush, roommates and housing drama…pale in comparision to academic issues that might have major consequences…
And those academic struggles pale in comparision to health issues. </p>
<p>So big picture perspective here…</p>
<p>Much love and a giant cup of coffee all around!</p>
<p>Fogfog - hugs to you. I wish some teachers did a better job dropping the busy work so the kids could get some learning “return” on their time. </p>
<p>You and I are might be in similar situations: older child academics a breeze compared to younger child. New territory for the parents and probably pretty hard for the younger sib. </p>
<p>My frosh son has work ethic and organizational issues; he’ll be the kid with high test scores/average GPA. Second semester is big improvement over first, but I turn into “nag mom” on a regular basis which is fun for noone.</p>
<p>Love the kid on the couch and keep it in perspective, as you noted. My frosh son probably won’t be applying to the same schools as his big sister, but that is FINE and appropriate. Also, we live in the community of Jack Jablonski (paralyzed HS hockey player). My son has friends who were on the ice at the time of the injury. That story certainly helped me put a couple of Bs on the transcript in perspective. </p>
<p>MM and VAmom - keep us posted; hoping for good news for you.</p>
<p>FogFog - Almost all college apps have a place to describe unusual circumstances during a HS career. My D bombed a semester from complication of appendicitis. It took two quarters for her to rebound…we used tutors to help her through the tough parts…but she eventually worked her way out of it and was back on track the last quarter of the year. It did impact her overall GPA but definitely not to the extent that we had expected. And you can see on her transcript a dip during the several months of recovery…but it is explainable. Our kids are human after all and one dip is not going to determine their long term success. Getting a C or even an F is not the end point, it is really how they work themselves out of the down turn that matters. <em>Hugs</em></p>