<p>drmom123 - not much to add above what has already been said other than to encourage your daughter to move forward with what is certain and to embrace new opportunities as they are presented.</p>
<p>“Physics House” project completed and turned in today. I think that’s pretty much it except for the parade of graduation parties, banquets and so on.</p>
<p>Tonight DS will be honored with the Golden Eagle Award at his school! This is his second Golden Eagle Medal and we are so proud of him! The Golden Eagle is our school’s highest honor and only a very select group of students are selected each year. The award goes to those who “exemplify the highest ideals of education”. It is a very personal ceremony with the nominating teacher reading a letter about the student and the student thanking the teacher who nominated them. It is an awesome way to kick off awards week here:)</p>
<p>awards night is sometime this week. DD is not part of that. I am hoping she does not know…she’ll be crushed.<br>
Congratulations to all who are graduating/graduated/awarded/excited/etc!!! :)</p>
<p>Good morning! The rest of the school is doing state testing, so technically the seniors are off. DS had to go in at 7:30 to try out for giving a speech at graduation and he had to present his senior project (to a panel) at 1:30 pm (followed by tennis practice). THEN, we got an automated call that he was flagged by his teacher as having missing assignments so he has to go to the library at 7:55AM. This makes me laugh. He does have missing assignments in AP Physics that I have been nagging at him to finish (she does not penalize for late work). He is one of 6 valedictorians (spring grades will not be taken into consideration), he has an 85% in the class without the assignments, but I think it is a good lesson for him to have to go. Maybe he should listen to his mother!!!</p>
<p>drmom: Good luck to your daughter! I would definitely encourage her to engage in the school she was admitted to and assume she is not going to get off the waitlist. If she gets off, then cross that bridge when you come to it. I can’t imagine a waitlist school getting mad at a student for not accepting so late in the game. DS was waitlisted at 2 schools. He opted in to both before he got all of his results in. He fairly quickly got in at one, but it was too late so he declined. He opted out of the second.</p>
<p>Both of my children were only allowed to tell one school that it was their “top” choice - even though it would have benefited them to tell that to everyone. Why? Because that was the truth - you can only have one #1, if that is what you are telling the school. if everyone did this instead of trying to game the system, I think admissions would be much less of a game. Schools are less than open because students are playing games too! On the subject of waitlists, I really don’t understand staying on the waitilist if you are not going to attend. The schools want this process to be over just as much as the students do. The only reason you would stay on a waitlist (that I can think of) when you know you are going somewhere else is so you can tell everyone you got in. It’s time to give up the game. It’s now about letting families get on with their lives and getting excited about where their child will attend. Please let those chances to get off the waitlist go to those kids who really truely would LOVE to go to that school still, and have been emailing admissions to let them know that. This isn’t about keeping score any longer, it’s about letting the school and the right child get matched up, and staying on a waitlist for a school you won’t attend is just making that process difficult for everyone!</p>
<p>To speak on my situation, my niece stayed on the waitlist because her number one choice waitlisted her. When they called and asked if she would attend if they offered her a spot, she said yes, because she really wanted to attend. We hadn’t received their financial aid package at that time. She didn’t enroll there because we couldn’t afford to attend. I don’t believe that was gaming the system.</p>
<p>I think in my sons case, #1 the financial aid was not what we needed and #2 he didn’t know how he would feel when he finally got in, and it wasn’t until he got in and had to make a decision that he realized he actually liked the school he SIR’d to better.</p>
<p>my D is on the waitlist of the schools she believed she’d love to attend since the beginning–she decided to stay on them because she thinks she’ll like it best. ONe of them is her very first choice and she told them that. Unfortunately, they are all very unlikely to go to the waitlist. AND, because she really has felt that she’d go there, she is finding it difficult to bond with the one she’s “with” (that song “love the one your’e with”)–so, that is what is troubling me…while everyone else seems to allow for excitement…she’s still feeling down and grumpy because she’s not with the one she wants…but, I do believe, she could very much LOVE THE ONE SHE’S with…if she’d just let herself do it…because even if she REALLY wants her #1 WL school…she’s feeling unloved… does that make any sense to you?</p>
<p>The wait list situation happened with my D1 for HS. She was waitlisted for one of the top HS/prep schools in the country. She decided to stay on the wait list and wouldn’t you know, towards the end of August, she got the call. We have a great public high school…when the call came, she had already tried out for a fall sports team and had just learned that she got a spot on the team. She had started to make new friends and all of sudden the wait listed school didn’t look that great any more…she was mad that they waited so long to accept her and the public school embraced her talent quickly and was happy to have her on the team. So, she chose to stay with the public HS, she did well and now attend a top 50 school…just like she would have done if she went to the expensive top private.</p>
<p>Dr. Mom it totally makes sense. There’s a sense of disappointment when you’re waitlisted. Especially at a school you’ve been dreaming about since you submitted the application. On the one hand you’re thinking I still have a chance, but on the other you can’t help wondering why you weren’t admitted in the first round. Its hard on the kids when the reality is there just aren’t enough spots at a given school. That its no reflection on them.</p>
<p>Yes, Dr. Mom, that makes a lot of sense. My D wasn’t waitlisted but she definitely felt more wanted at the school she decided to attend. Our state flagship was very unwelcoming both in terms of getting into the majors she wants and financial aid. She would have attended the state flagship if the financial aid didn’t work out at the school she’ll be attending but she would have had trouble embracing it since it isn’t a perfect fit.</p>
<p>Congrats sophiendlola!</p>
<p>So I remember we talked about good songs for end of the year slideshows. But of course I can’t remember what you guys said. What were some good songs? YDS? SOG?</p>
<p>It makes a lot of sense, Dr. Mom and others - thanks for enlightening me! My son has a friend that is going slightly insane waiting to see if he will get off a waitlist at his first choice - reading about kids that got off the list there and turned it down had me puzzled. How quickly I forgot how much emotion goes with all of this, especially when your child isn’t 110% certain about the school they are currently slated to attend.</p>
<p>Tx5, there’s a thread going now in the Cafe about this …</p>
<p>D was one of 20 kids honored last night in a scholarship banquet for her Science Fair participation. Since D’s school does not observe “rewards” this was a nice opportunity for all her hard work to be recognized. </p>
<p>Less than 3 weeks now before she leaves to go to her campus for the summer. Yikes - better get ourselves in gear.</p>
<p>S is going to take the last IB exam Music this afternoon and then done. </p>
<p>The Saturday will be the dinner and dance night. I’ve been pushing S to find a girl to be his Prom partner. He’s too shy to even ask any. I talked to a neighbor’s girl who’s grade 11. She’s more than happy to go on red carpet with S because S is the only one getting into the Ivy college from his school. </p>
<p>S wasn’t happy for my arrangement. He felt shame for mom finding him a prom partner. Eventually he found his own partner yesterday instantly under my pressure. I started worry about he may have difficulty to find his future wife. Should I worry about that?</p>
<p>Never too soon to start worrying, in my opinion. For example, I worry about how good my kids’ gerontologists will be. </p>
<p>And will they be taken in by reverse mortgage brokers?!</p>
<p>drmom-- I read all of your WL dilemma and while I understand that you want her to love where she’s at now, I was thinking that as those schools start trying to find a kid on their WL to accept a spot, many of them won’t because they have moved on. Maybe your DD is the perfect example of the type of kid who is meant to get off the WL! I don’t mean to steer you in a different direction, but it’s not over yet and a lot can change in the next two months! I think you have to let her handle this in her own way as hard as it is for you!</p>
<p>pigmom, you are just now starting to worry about that??!!! What took you so long? That’s long been on my list of worries!!</p>
<p>DS13a found out that he received a local science scholarship. I’m very happy for him that he will be awarded something at the Senior scholarship event. I couldn’t stand the idea of one kid getting something and the other one not! Now we are all good. Just have to worry about those future wives!</p>