<p>It is hard for me to keep up with all the post! I will be glad when a decision will made but I worry thar it might not be the right decision. My S refuses to look at the school websites. He likes to see and hear things first hand. I know he is very impressionable and I worry that I will influence his decision ( not meaning to),…I feel he doesn’t see himself in the drivers seat because I have been doing so much for him. I have to trust that it will all work out.
Tomorrow we are off to see 3 different types of schools - a LAC , a medium size State U and an Engineering school. </p>
<p>@3 tallblondes - I don’t think I could pass up full tuition x 2! You still have to pay for everything else x2 and it adds up. </p>
<p>@Bardnardmom - your son and my nephew are in the same situation. Tomorrow they are flying out to see Wisconsin, Case Western and Oberlin - first visits. My nephew wait listed at Case but he was told that he has a good chance of getting off but he wants to see the school before putting his name on the list. I know he will add his name to MIT and Michigan WLs but both schools are long shoot! Hopefully, your Son and my nephew will be happy with one of the two choices available to them. </p>
<p>Good luck everyone with finals decisions and congrats to those who have already docked! </p>
<p>overtheedge – thank you! We’ll get that blond boy down to the Cistern one way or another! I’m going to practice saying “that’s ni-i–i-i-i-i-i-i-i-ce” to H. :)</p>
<p>agenty99 – thanks for the support. I have a sick feeling this has nothing to do with S’s choice but it just a power play/grandstanding and will end in “I’ll let him go there if you give me $$$”. Hoping it doesn’t come to that.</p>
<p>crowlady – thanks for the boost to upstate summers and falls – they are lovely – and I have to say, when you grow up in the snow belt, everyone is friendly because you never know who might help you getting your car dug out.</p>
<p>barnardmom – is it time for the “toss a coin” approach? Supposedly when it’s in the air, you realize which one you really want. That must be agonizing, not seeing him warm up to either choice.</p>
<p>^^^classof 2015 - If I remember correctly you are considering HWS? I love that school - it is so beautiful right on a lake…I really wanted my S to apply but he didn’t want to apply to any school that did not offer Neuroscience. </p>
<p>He did indicate that he’s leaning toward Michigan but since that time, all college talk has been banned until after the ASDs- April 18 & April 21. I’m hoping for Michigan for a lot of reasons at this point. On April 23rd, he leaves for a Spring Break trip to NYC with the marching band. He’s not in the marching band but most of his friends are and the band director likes him so they’re letting him go with them. (My D was in marching band and I was on the band boosters board and my son is in theater so the band director knows him well). I’m going to push for a decision before he leaves because I don’t want to wait until April 28th when he gets back! </p>
<p>We have a decision!!! Paid deposit last night for U of Alabama! The two Michigan schools were tempting, but would cause substantial loans. Glad he thought it through and decided graduating without debt was the way to go!!</p>
<p>I guess I’m on the serving staff now. Can I get a Mimosa for anyone???</p>
<p>@5boys - My D also applied to Kenyon (denied). She got the exact same response to Kenyon when asked where she was applying. Too funny! </p>
<p>@Agentninetynine - LMAO!</p>
<p>@3tallblonds - Congratulations on the additional scholarship! That is especially wonderful (and I imagine very welcome) with 2 going off to college at once.</p>
<p>So the plot thickens at our house. After a sleepness night, I don’t really know where to begin. While we should be doing last visits (narrowed to 2 with a clear first choice), we are instead focused on health issues and graduation. D is derailed. The clock is ticking. It’s next week before she sees the endocrinologist. In addition to existing issues (which who knows if they will be able to fix), her body has also stopped absorbing any B12. She is so tired, the work is piling up, AP exams (required here for course credit) are looming, and her anxiety level is through the roof. Last night she told me through tears that she didn’t know if she would be able to complete her work for graduation. I don’t know what to do. I have to get her better and figure out her options. Too much stress.</p>
<p>^^overtheedge, I am sorry to hear about your D health issues. I would set up an appt ( today or tomorrow) and discuss the situation. I would ask for a waiver for the AP exams to get class credit. Also, ask for a team meeting with her teachers and Guidance to get a reduced work load so she can graduate on time. They can bend the rules if needed. </p>
<p>@Beadymom - hooray for the decision. You’ll be at the “other” Alabama school ;)<br> @overtheedge - time to call in for reinforcements and get her healthy and feeling under control of things. I’m guessing there could be waivers for the AP’s, and with life in the last quarter, is it really necessary to be charging full steam ahead? I vote for calling guidance or the head of school or whomever and getting some help. And maybe a nice long weekend to just rest and relax.</p>
<p>I think we all worry if the kid made the right decision. I know that’s why I had d’14 sit on the tuition exchange offers for a little while before declining. It’s all over for us now (3 offers rejected, 1 accepted), but I still worry. </p>
<p>D gets a real spring break, too, next week. Her assignment is to clean that landfill of a room. </p>
<p>@overtheedge How much time left in the semester? The closer you are to the end, the better your chances of the high school letting her record the grades she has now and letting her stop. </p>
<p>I know how you feel @2016barnardMom – my S leaves for a spring break Europe trip tomorrow (I know, rough life!) and I’d really like to get the housing application in before he goes (it will require some short essays). But we are waiting for confirmation of his deposit to proceed to the next step. </p>
<p>@overtheedge A doctors’ note would likely be helpful. Sorry for all the stress your family is under.</p>
<p>Beadymom: Roll Tide! If you have any questions about Alabama, let me know. If I cannot help you, I can always ask the older son, a Bama graduate. In fact, he will be flying down there today to see some friends who will be graduating and working in other parts of the country. </p>
<p>@overtheedge - hopefully the school will work with you. I agree that a doctors note will probably help. Any way to push for an earlier appointment?</p>
<p>@Overtheedge, I am so sorry about your daughter’s health worries and stress. Hopefully someone at her school can help you lessen the load a bit right now…they must make some allowances for health issues.</p>
<p>We are off for our first “admitted students” open house at what is likely my D’s choice, so hope to see that confirmed by the end of the weekend.</p>
<p>Congratulations to all who have made a decision. I wish we can say the same. </p>
<p>Today, I’m dropping my D to UCLA for Regents Scholars 2-night overnight hosting then we’ll fly to Cornell Saturday night. She will attend Cornell Days and she will have overnight hosting Monday night. We are going to Cornell with open mind. It seems unaffordable for now, but she at least has the oppurtunity to see the Ivy that admitted her.</p>
<p>We’re flying to Syracuse and then drive to Ithaca. Flights to Ithaca from SoCal is twice the price compared to Syracuse. This is my first time in NY so I’m excited.</p>
<p>@Overtheedge I wish you the best navigating this health issue – hopefully the school officials will work with you. Don’t know what her situation is, but is know that stress exacerbates many endocrine conditions, so getting her calm is a priority. </p>
<p>@3tallblonds – If you really want to send the girls to USC on their own it’s very do-able. As you know, the school is in a really lousy area, but there is a Radisson literally across the street (like 20 yds away from the campus entrance gate). They could fly in, take a cab to the hotel, and be right there.
USC was at one point #1 on my son’s list. A lot of kids do fall in love with it on first sight, although I think a lot of that is the southern CA ambience. It is a great school academically and offers incredible opportunities to its students. But it is huge, and there are hundreds and hundreds of pre-meds in each class. I forget the exact number, but when we toured and were told the fraction of each class that was pre-med it blew us away. And my sense is that a lot of the pre-meds there are really competitive driven kids. In addition, their performing arts departments attract top top kids from all over the world (after all, it is L.A.), and I don’t know if the girls would have the same opportunity to get involved in theater at USC as they might elsewhere. Again, to a great extent it would be a numbers issue.
Just my two cents. Of course, feel free to ignore. </p>
<p>Still in a holding pattern out here. S is in British Columbia on a school trip this week. Told me he plans to take up curling (they had a chance to do some). I told him that it’s too bad he didn’t take it up earlier – would’ve looked good on his college apps!! Anyway, it’s great that he has this week away from all the make-a-college-choice pressure. Next week is spring break for us, and we have 3 college visits planned, in Boston, Miami, and Atlanta. I think that we’re really down to two schools, but that could change. And like many other parents here I’m concerned that my S may not exactly make a mature and carefully considered decision. . Am jealous of all families that are no longer on the Indecision Cruise, but genuinely happy for you!!</p>
<p>We are off to ASD tomorrow. D is registered for the Lehigh session on Saturday and then she wants to revisit Villanova which is an hour away. We can make it but it will be tight. She was 100% for Nova but now she reports that her visits to their Class of 18 FB page is not giving her as good of a feeling about the other accepted kids as fas ar social issues, cliques, etc. She has also resurrected her 3rd choice but their FA package arrived in yesterday’s mail and they want 10K more from us than than her original first choice. We are still waiting on the FA letter from her second choice. Sent them an email on Tuesday as it’s now 10 days late.</p>
<p>Glad to see more kids are selecting their port of choice. We are now one-third of the way through this year’s Indecision voyage and things are starting to settle into place.</p>
<p>Overtheedge: Is your D at a public school? If so, see about getting her on a 504 plan ASAP. It’s part of a federal law that requires academic accomodations for kids with certain conditions, including medical situations. My ds’12 got very sick at the end of his junior year and it persisted for 9 months. The school put him on a 504 plan and that meant that many of the rules could be adapted so that he could successfully graduate and go on to college. You and your d need to be able to concentrate on her health and this added stress is not going to help!</p>
<p>Hope her situation turns around. There’s not much that’s more stressful than a kid with health issues, so take care of yourself as well as her.</p>
<p>@2018dad Good luck to your D on making a decision between UCLA and Cornell. Hopefully she will feel much more comfortable at one campus or the other and find her people. My S went to an admitted student day at his first choice and it just confirmed everything he had been thinking. I was so relieved to see him interacting with kids so similar to and compatible with him after a couple of visits to other schools that had accepted him where he did not seem to fit in with the kids at all.</p>
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