Parents of the HS Class of 2014

<p>There has been so much news since I last checked in. Congratulations to everyone whose child has made a decision! </p>

<p>@staceyneil - my thoughts and prayers are with you for a successful surgery and speedy recovery!</p>

<p>@eyemamom and @Gigem86 - why don’t you post the names of the sorority recs you need on the chance that someone on CC can help you out? Southern rush is insanity, especially at SEC schools. </p>

<p>@Gigem86 - tough choice, close to my heart, but your D couldn’t go wrong with either school. Hook em horns!</p>

<p>@1dilecon - totally impressed with your post. If I’m more than 30 posts behind, I lose track of the individual posts!</p>

<p>Well D had her appointment with the endocrinologist this week. Unfortunately, there are no clear answers…only more tests and trial and error. It seems that some of her existing meds may be complicating the picture. School resumes on Monday and hope I can make some progress on that front. D’s college decision had virtually been made, but the medical issues are complicating that as well. Looks like we’re going to the wire. </p>

<p>Is anyone else’s child melting down because of studying for AP tests? S was in tears when he got in the car today. These practice tests for all 3 classes are getting him, and another teacher assigned a major project which is due AP week. I’m starting to wonder if he’ll make it through the year. Only 5 weeks left but such pressure. </p>

<p>Yes, we are planning a family vacation before sending DS to college. We didn’t have a family vacation last summer since DS was gone the entire break. First, he was in an internship for 10 weeks. The day after he came home, he flew to the other side of the world for a two-week international exchange program.
So this summer, we are wanting a big trip… But first, I need to get off this cruise…our decision day is next Thursday…Can’t wait!</p>

<p>@seattle_mom‌ - I’m sorry to hear of S’s season ending injury. That’s a disappointing way to finish a HS career. I hope the college decision is easier!</p>

<p>@2016BarnardMom‌ - And just when I thought it was U of Mich. Both great choices. I’ll fetch you another drink!</p>

<p>@go2mom and 3tallblonds - good luck with the decisions and possible sorority rush preparations!</p>

<p>@calla1 my d seems to have taken the opposite tactic. Instead of stressing out, I think she’s assuming if she ignores them, they go away! I guess it doesn’t matter. She’s not getting useful credit for the AP she’s got this year anyway.</p>

<p>Just 12 days to go until “D” Day (Decision Day & Deposit Due Day). The cruise is nearly 2/3rd’s over. Final ports of call will be here very quickly.</p>

<p>Isn’t it strange how quickly April is passing while it seemed forever for January, February and March to pass?</p>

<p>@‌2014novamom - How fun to run into the students from your DS’s school at Stonehenge - what a small world! Seems pretty amazing the Latin teacher would recognize him considering he’s not a Latin student and you’re an ocean away from school.</p>

<p>@2014ProfDad - Wow, can’t imagine having to wait another week for the final ASD! Glad she sounds like she’s having fun now. Hope for both of you that she will know when she goes to her final ASD next week, and you can put the deposit down by the end of next weekend.</p>

<p>@go2mom - Hope no texts from go2girl is a sign she’s having a great time!</p>

<p>@seattle_mom - so sorry to hear about your son’s injury! Wishing you safe travels and a good visit next week!</p>

<p>@2016BarnardMom - I was thinking U of Michigan too. Hard to believe that in a week and a half (or hopefully sooner), we’ll all know where our kids will be in the Fall!</p>

<p>@Overtheedge - I’m so sorry the medical tests haven’t provided any clear answers yet, and you and your daughter are having to go through so much stress right now. Praying those answers will come soon, and the doctors can help your D’s energy level to return quickly and her stress to dissipate. Also hope everything goes smoothly working with the school next week.</p>

<p>My mom is gifting us with a family trip (and coming along - which is good). We scheduled it for the week right before youngest gets dropped off at college. That way, he just needs to end his job a week early. I’m fortunate that I don’t work over the summer. H is self-employed so can take off even though it’s his busy season. Middle son has been told of the dates… and will be trying to make sure it works for him. It’s ok with his school needs - even with having to return early to be an RA.</p>

<p>Where? We opted for Disney as a nostalgia trip. We all went there when youngest was 3. Now he’s 18. We were there once in-between (without grandma), but in general, it should be nice - esp since she’s paying. After Disney we’re on the beach near where we’re dropping youngest off. It’s going to be a fun road trip (at least, that’s the plan). The last road trip we all did was out west (National Parks, etc) back in 2006 and we had a blast.</p>

<p>Then… after it’s done… we’ll be starting our empty nest lives. Time will tell what that’s like.</p>

<p>We had considered a final family vacation but DS has a summer job he loves and it’s the final summer he can work it. DS17 will be in driver’s ed and will have practices for hs soccer (not official practices but he hates to miss). So we will probably just do a weekend or two in the city (Chicago). We’re planning a trip for next summer that includes my sister’s family and hopefully DS can make it since it’ll be his God-daughters first Disney trip!</p>

<p>I was thinking “last vacation” and then a friend of mine told me what a great time they had with their 20-something sons in Italy – they rented a two bedroom apartment with a kitchen. Family life need not end – though I’m sure it gets more difficult.</p>

<p>Not doing a family vacation. Husband works out of state and travels all summer with his job – we’re lucky he can make it for Son '14’s graduation. The older son is working two jobs in preparation for law school. So it’s me and Son ‘14. We’ll do orientation and then head to my folks’ home for a visit. My summer (I have time off after teaching) includes lots and lots of cleaning out! We started the other day with Son '14’s closet. He will donate some stuff to various groups locally, but also put together a nice pile for one of my co-workers who has a grandson who is right around his size. If he does not like what my son offers, they can donate it to someone at church. The one thing Son '14 did was clean out too much, so I took some of the jackets and shirts and put them away. He may need something to wear when he’s home from college and does not want to bring everything here. </p>

<p>As some of the discussion here drifts on to graduation parties and family vacations we’re trying to avoid full-scale panic as we’ve got 11days left to make a decision. We have one final ASD on Monday, after which we’ll fly back home to the left coast and figure it out. It appears to be coming down to two schools that are completely different in many many ways, including radically different majors at each school (due to their academic strengths). My son at times starts to melt down, talks about how much this decision will determine the course of his life --he can tend towards drama, but it is a pretty significant decision. We’ll, he can’t decide from a reasonable basis until after Monday. We’re trying to relax for a few days between these last two visits. </p>

<p>Stacy and Overtheedge. – warmest thoughts for quick recovery and resolution for you. At some point this will be but a speck in the rearview mirror, but that doesn’t make the here and now any easier. </p>

<p>Good Morning!</p>

<p>Thank you for the advice for my nephew. He was admitted to Chase yesterday with a 22K merit scholarship. He is very happy ! He left yesterday for a class trip to Italy - they landed at 2:30 this am - sent my brother a txt that he was admitted to Chase. I am happy for him. He is a great kid who worked really hard in school. </p>

<p>My boy ( who is also a great kid;) - will most likely be attending UVM but we have not paid the deposit. I am very thankful for the advice I received on this board. I have been able to take a deep breath and wait it out. He and I chatted last night and he said “well I guess it will be UVM”. I told him I understood that this is a big decision and probably the biggest decision he has ever had to make. We discussed research at UVM vs Muhlenberg. This is the most important aspect for S. It is a tough call - each has told him that he would have better opportunities at their institution vs the other…I am not sure what to tell him …There are a lot of research opportunities at UVM especially for the honors students but UVM has a well established graduate program for Neursoscience, (fairly new (4 yr) undergrad program) does that mean that he will be competing with grad. students for research opportunities? On the other hand Muhlenberg has a well established undergraduate Neuroscience program. The chair of the department at Berg told S he would have plenty of opportunities for research …Of course they said the same at UVM. </p>

<p>Family trip -I wasn’t planning on it- but we usually go to midcoast Maine every year and unplug for a week and will probably do the same this year.</p>

<p>Grad party - we are planning on it but haven’t got it together to do any planning …probably an open house kind of thing …</p>

<p>I wish everyone a happy Easter - I am home in Maine this week and hope to spend some quality time with the my boy, my hubby, and my dog. It has been a long 6 months working in Providence. The job has been tough and at this point I am rethinking the move…time to update the résumé again! </p>

<p>I think we did our family vacation last summer because BarnardGirl isn’t really coming home this summer. I am kind of assuming that once they are all done with school and I’m no longer paying out all this tuition money, I will pay for us to do some fun vacations- like a family cruise or all inclusive resort- every few years, even once grandchildren are in the mix. </p>

<p>I was super tired last night so I didn’t write much about our Visit The Zoo experience. While Kalamazoo College isn’t discussed a whole lot here on CC, it is definitely the most selective and rigorous LAC in Michigan. They operate on quarters and they were in the book about Colleges that Change Lives. They do draw a lot of kids from the Chicago area- about 2 hours away but there were kids from all over at the ASD yesterday.</p>

<p>It really is a small, very nurturing environment where each student is kind of expected to study abroad (80% do - the other 20% almost always engage in a “study away” experience in the US). They had an alumni panel yesterday with alumni from every decade who are all doing very interesting things including one who went to grad school and got Master’s degrees from both Dartmouth and Columbia. It is the only colllege visit we attended where they had an open house with the department heads from each academic department at tables so students could talk with each one. S14 asked each of the department heads from his areas of interest what kind of research their departments were doing. </p>

<p>He attended a class, which is the first time he has chosen to do that, although other schools did offer the opportunity, they didn’t make it as easy. He went to an Intro Sociology class that a girl he went to high school with is in. He participated in the class discussion and enjoyed it. What he really enjoyed is that every person in the class participated in the discussion. He said it was so refreshing because in his high school, only a handful of kids ever voluntarily participate. </p>

<p>They had a catered lunch, which was disappointing, because we didn’t get to check out the cafeteria. It was a beautiful Spring day though and there were students hanging out, studying together under trees, tossing around a frisbee and being social. </p>

<p>Since it was Easter weekend and we were already there, the girl from our town asked if we could give her a ride home. She had been planning on taking the train. We happily drove her home. She was in BarnardGirl’s section in the band and had hung out with S14’s group before she graduated so we know her pretty well. She gave S14 more insight into student organizations, events that happen on campus, and things like that. She talked a lot about a poetry class she is in now and how a lot of the poets they have studied actually came to class. She also expressed feeling pretty much the same as BarnardGirl and her friend at Wellesley- our high school does not prepare them for rigorous colleges and the writing expectations are a big adjustment. </p>

<p>I did talk to the Director of Admissions and Financial Aid and explained that S14 is down to K and Michigan but that Michigan’s aid part of the package is much lower in loans and family contribution. K’s Lux Esto merit scholarship brings the cost down to the base price of Michigan but the aid packages after that are really disparate. He said I could call the financial aid office and talk with them to make sure they have the all the information they need but he did say they don’t match packages. I mentioned during that conversation he was a Lux Esto scholarship recipient because that is their highest scholarship awarded. We can do K if we have to, it will just be less comfortable and S14 would graduate with more loans (still less than $30K though).</p>

<p>The massive emphasis on Study Abroad is NOT a huge selling point to S14. It isn’t something he’s that interested in but I suspect in this environment, he’d get used to the idea and perhaps embrace it when it is time for him to do it. </p>

<p>K has a pre-orientation program called LandSea where they spend a week backpacking, a week canoeing, two days of “reflection and service” where they can either spend it solo camping or doing a service project and then they also learn technical climbing. They do this in the Adirondacks and this is right up his alley but it is also very expensive so I told him we’d have to figure out how to fund it- through graduation gifts or if he gets a JOB (hard push at this point that S14 needs to work this summer). </p>

<p>So, kids from K do get into Ivy grad schools. Kids from K have many opportunities to work with their professors on research. Kids from K get a lot of nurturing in their early years and a lot of assistance in setting up their study abroad. They all call it “K College”. </p>

<p>There are cons- the price, for one, if they don’t work with us. If they do work with us, will it just be for the first year? Or will they continue to be more generous in subsequent years? That will be an unknown. There’s a good chance we’ll be full pay when BarnardGirl graduates, but he would still have the Lux Esto scholarship as long as he keeps a 2.5. One dining hall and a sandwich shop as opposed to 25 places where you can use your meal card on campus- including the safe bets of Taco Bell, Subway and Wendy’s. As a D3 school, there isn’t a big football program with lots of school spirit as you find in the Big 10. </p>

<p>We visit Michigan on Monday. He has been accepted to the Residential College which is a smaller living/learning community. Many of their RC classes are also smaller, in the same dorm where they live and there is a very strong language and fine arts component.</p>

<p>^^^^great detail! I would say our DS have similar trade offs - one difference is that Muhlenberg is lower cost than UVM but not by much…good luck with FA package. You never know…</p>

<p>We have found that LAC’s offer the availability for research as an undergrad. They do not have to compete with grad students. The students work with professors on their research and are invited to present papers, posters, etc. at national and in some cases international conferences. There is a more nuturing nature of the professors at LAC’s to introduce their students into professional organizations and it affords them the opportunity to meet with professors, scientist and grad school representatives. Many undergrads have the opportunity to publish. This all is a huge boost if they plan on attending grad school. We have a couple of friends whose children attending Kalamazoo and were quite pleased with the opportunities and quality of education, (one student turned down an Ivy admission). One family found the school through the CTCL books and told the other family. Best of luck in the decisions.</p>

<p>@2016BarnardMom: My older D looked at K College, so I know a little bit about it. Even though it’s a small D3 school, WMU is a short walk away for a bigger campus experience (sports, parties, etc.) It seems like there was fast food in walking distance - not part of the meal plan, but available when he’d need a break from the dining hall.</p>

<p>The Residential College at U of M is a great option, also. If your S is like my D, he will be glad to make the tough decision between two excellent options, because he will always know that he had a choice.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

<p>Oops …I want correct my early post I kept referring to Case Western as Chase …not sure why…</p>

<p>I need a stiff drink. Go2girl was awarded the Seaver full-tuition scholarhsip at Claremont-McKenna. I have no idea which school she is going to choose. I am limiting my input to her–she is overwhelmed. She has amazing choices–full tuition options at Vandy and CMC. Schools are very different but also both fit her to a “t.” That probably sounds crazy but each has characteristics that would suit her beautifully. So blessed to have these amazing options. It’s going to be nail-biter.</p>

<p>@go2mom I totally understand!
@ECMotherx2 I know it is a great school!
@MImama Most definitely- he has two great options! I have no idea how he’s going to pick! </p>

<p>If it isn’t clear after his visit to Michigan that Michigan is IT, then I’ll talk to K College about the financial aid package. </p>