<p>@Dave_N – S had to sign a waiver of liability for the post-graduation party at a private home. You’d think they were going to do paintball or something.</p>
<p>@Dave_N - We had waiver/release forms drafted and executed by parents and students over 18 for an after prom weekend at a beach house for my S. It was an incredibly well organized event - from food to the parent chaperone schedule, and the kids had a great time! I agree with 2014Novamom, however, that the forms are often unenforceable.</p>
<p>It was a long cold winter so I have a feeling that we will be in for a long hot summer too!</p>
<p>Less than 2 weeks until graduation! Can I ask you all if you would speak up and say anything? D goes to a Catholic school, though we aren’t Catholic. She takes an Honors Philosophy class, which has a religious bent. This teacher is a piece of work. I think he’s stepped over the line. She has a boyfriend also in that class. He’s a good kid too headed off to a school 9 hours away from d, and they’ve both been a bit anxious and upset. This teacher has now made several inappropriate comments - he found out D wants to look into sororities. This teacher has made a class discussion on how sororities are only for girls looking to have sex parties with fraternity guys. And he’s told her boyfriend that he really doesn’t see them staying together since d is so different from the boy because they have much different values (■■■?) Nearly everyday now he’s making some kind of disparaging comment about d and she’s getting really ticked off. This guy is like 19 kids and counting and very much espouses that you follow his line of thinking or you are morally suspect. He didn’t even go to a college with sororities so he’s talking out his rear end. Even if that’s what you think, maybe approach her respectfully and speak of your concerns, not just announce that essentially she’s just a ho-bag looking to hook up with other guys.</p>
<p>I’d be doing a slow burn, eyemamom. Would D feel comfortable going up to him after class and saying that she knows he’s just voicing his own thoughts and opinions but she feels very uncomfortable in his class because of the pointed personal comments he’s making and up until now she really enjoyed it and she wants to end the year with positive thoughts about her experience in his classroom? Assuming that’s actually the case…</p>
<p>He wants to make a personal comment? Tell her she has the prettiest eyes ever! :)</p>
<p>Update from San Diego. The wind picked up again and while the fire yesterday was almost contained, another fire started just a while ago in Carlsbad (about 20 miles north from the fire yesterday). Families are under evacuation order and 2 homes were already lost.</p>
<p>My husband can see the Carlsbad fire from his office. Many of his co-workers have gone to evacuate. Hoping the firefighters can get the upper hand.</p>
<p>So now there are 4 fires (including the fire yesterday):
Bernardo
Carlsbad
Camp Pendleton
Fallbrook</p>
<p><a href=“Map: Wildfires Burning in San Diego County – NBC 7 San Diego”>Map: Wildfires Burning in San Diego County – NBC 7 San Diego;
<p>@eyemamom - That teacher is WAY out of line and I would step in if your daughter feels she is unable to advocate for herself. His behavior is not okay and he needs to stop. Who knows how many other kids he’s treated this way. Plus, you pay for your child to be educated. Not ridiculed.</p>
<p>The Spykids attend a private Catholic high school and we are not Catholic. Well, technically Max is but he stopped going to mass decades ago. We are quite fortunate that this school is open and welcoming to everyone. </p>
<p>@2018dad - Unfortunately Fallbrook always seems to be in the path of fires. Although as someone upthread mentioned, this is quite early for fire season. So sad to hear it’s now spread to Carlsbad. I love that place. </p>
<p>@eyemamom, this teacher is WAY out of line. I usually encourage the student to speak with the teacher, but he’s so far out of line that I don’t think she’d get anywhere. IMO, this is a situation for the parent to step in. I’d talk to the teacher first and if the comment don’t stop I’d speak with the principal. This is outrageous. </p>
<p>@2018dad - I’ve been following the news and continuing to pray for you. The winds up here (north of LA) are horrendous. Our sky is smoky from a brushfire several towns over. I really hate these Santa Anas when the hills are so dry.</p>
<p>ETA: didn’t read Agent99’s comment before posting mine. We’re on the same page!</p>
<p>Hope everyone in san diego is safe. thinking about you. My brother lives in mission hills and his office is near la jolla. How close are these fires to those locations?</p>
<p>@Renaissancemom - your brother should be just fine. The fire yesterday could have eventually threatened La Jolla, but it did not get close. Today’s fires are nowhere near either of those areas.</p>
<p>^ thanks Gertrude. During this dreadful winter in NY, I repeatedly told my brother that I wanted to move to CA. But it seems no matter where we live, Mother Nature has her mercurial moments.</p>
<p>Agreed - we had a lovely warm & dry winter and now we will pay the price in wildfires. Here’s hoping for a bit of rain in what’s left of May & June.</p>
<p>Praying for all those affected by the wild fires. I sent a FB message to a childhood friend who is in San Diego- hope she and her family are all ok. </p>
<p>@eymamom I’d definitely step in unless your daughter asks you not to. And I’d be inclined to go straight over his head, to be honest. The administration should want to know if a teacher is behaving like that, and if you go directly to the teacher, he might stop picking on your daughter, but continue to behave appropriately toward other students.</p>
<p>eyemamom: I agree that this teacher is way out of line with his remarks to your daughter and her BF. It is not his place to say anything about what your daughter plans – why, is he upset that no sorority girl ever dated him? My son has lots of friends who were Greek, and it is not about the partying and sex. Many of these young people are interested in the kinship Greek life brings – my son is quite close to some of his fraternity brothers. He also worked with some of sorority girls on community service projects and other school-related things. </p>
<p>That said, Son '14 has been the victim of several “remarks” from his teachers. Some question his college choice, claiming that no one can be smart in Alabama. Others go after his political leanings – and yes, he truly believes because he had a different opinion than one of his teachers last year, she marked him down in the class. A girl who was the typical brown noser type professed undying love for this same teacher, had a grade point average three points lower than Son '14, but somehow, she got an A, and he got a B. He has heard classmates say he must be a racist if he wants to attend a southern school.</p>
<p>I could go on and on. My son cannot wait to graduate. </p>
<p>The point is, the teacher is wrong and needs to apologize to your daughter, her BF and his class.</p>
<p>The funny thing is d is actually very straight laced, so these comments are really out of left field. She’s questioned him before and she says there are a group of “followers” of him and if you aren’t in this group of kids, you are out. She asked me not to say anything, but I said I’ll hold it together until graduation unless I run into him sooner. She’s a little more worldly than lots of the kids so she doesn’t just fall into this hero worship stuff. When I email I’ll be cc’ing the head of the school and the head of the department. </p>
<p>OK, now the situation is getting a bit serious here. We have fires to the North, West, Southeast and Southwest of us. Schools throughout the county are cancelled tomorrow. Cal State San Marcos has been evacuated & the dorms emptied. People are talking about a possible arsonist at work here - 9 completely separate fires at last count. We’ll have to keep an eye on the news all night & I’ll work from home tomorrow in case we need to evacuate & get our pets out. </p>
<p>Oh my Gertrude….hoping for safe escape for all. Wow.</p>
<p>@GertrudeMcFuzz keeping you and all Californians in my prayers tonight! How horrible to think it might be arson!</p>
<p>@eyemamom I’m sorry your daughter has to deal with such a foul teacher. As a teacher at a Catholic school, I am horrified by the behavior of this person. He must have missed the lessons on the Golden Rule and the second commandment! I think it is important to let the administration at the school know what is going on. Sadly, I do agree with your daughter, too. Vindictive teachers can hurt students even more once parents complain. I’ve had an experience with such a teacher vs. my son. However, it wasn’t his CHARACTER being dragged through the mud. If you are the first to voice a complaint, it is likely nothing will happen, but people need to speak up so eventually administration realizes there is a real problem. So my opinion is to definitely complain, but after grades are finalized. </p>