So, who has the latest move in dates? We’re the last weekend of August. I believe dorm assignments and roommates will be posted this week. As I said awhile back, my girl knows her first year course, but everything else is ‘a work in progress’. I think she has 2 of her other 3 classes tentatively assigned, just waiting for them to plug in the last one. Only one class has books listed, but I’m hesitant to let her order anything yet since her schedule’s not set in stone.
I don’t think I have the latest move in date but pretty sure I have the least time with a 2016 kid. DD is working at a Girl Scout Camp in MA and doesn’t fly home until very late night of 8/14 and we have to leave for move in day on 8/17 giving her a whole two days to spend with the family and deal with anything that has to be done/purchased/signed before we leave!
Holy cow! I don’t think I would be okay with that except maybe a little part of me would like being able to just get things done without having to either coordinate with him or nag/remind him to get things done. But that is a lot of work!
@dyiu13 It is weird but most of my regrets about working outside the home have vanished the older my kids have gotten. They have turned out great and they are happy. All those fears in the early years turned out to be wasted worry- which most worry is.
@3scoutsmom, CC needs a sad emoji instead of a like button for your post!
With three kids ranging from 16-31, I have done it all-SAHM, working PT, working FT, going to school FT, going to school PT. I’m here to say that honestly, working or not working isn’t what determines how a kids turns out. I worked the most with my D16 and she is plenty dialed into the community and plenty close to me-and her dad. She is very happy. The one I stayed at home for? There were issues. The one who got time with me as a SAHM and as a WOHM? The most issues, but they didn’t come up at all as a result of my working.
I think kids are very resilient and that only a lucky subset of them get to have a SAHM who is there 24/7. But there are plenty of THOSE kids who are not as happy and more the loner types. I’m sorry you feel your D was not as happy as she might have been, @dyiu13 , but I’ll bet she didn’t mind you working.
@bookmom7 and @psychmomma Thanks so much for the practical advice! I’m trying to concentrate on being prepared for the practical aspects of move-in so that I’ll be better able to handle the emotional parts when we get there. We’re driving D - an only - 11 hours away to college and, while I know that she made a great choice and the school seems like a great fit, I am at this moment wishing that I had set tighter distance parameters!
DD’s move-in date is probably one of the latest–don’t know the exact date but sometime between Sept. 15-18. It’s made for one of the longest summer vacations she’s ever had (she graduated on June 1)!
@sseamom Oh! I didn’t mean that FT work makes kids unhappy. My FT work did get in the way of my ability to provide direct care to my DD and she was placed in sub-optimum before- and after-school care rather than being able to participate in desired activities and relationships. It’s a problem specific to my family situation and community. She also coped with a disability that complicated our situation. Personally, I’m glad I’ve always worked FT, although the logistics for DD were very difficult and despite my regrets. This transition time is giving me a moment to think about all the decisions and their impact. But, my saving grace is that I’m viewing through the lens of the story of the Taoist Farmer. 
http://consumerreports.org/health/help-your-college-age-child-in-a-medical-emergency/
Just a last minute reminder. This article was recently shared on the CofC List serv page to remind parents what can happen if you don’t have the proper forms filled out and your child is legally an adult. Very helpful. I have my forms, I just need to get them completed . It’s not a pleasant task to think that you may actually need these forms , it’s very important to have them in place just in case.
Regarding working- My mom has always worked full time outside the home. And it hasn’t had any negative impact. She’s still always been there for us. And now that I’m older I’m able to understand her working outside the home is necessary to our lives, as she makes more than my dad and we are all on her health insurance.
@carolinamom2boys - Yes. I also have them & need to get them filled out.
From the article- “Once the forms are completed, it’s a good idea to scan and save them so that they are readily available on a smartphone or home computer.” I hadn’t thought of this but, will definitely make a point to do this!
Did anyone post a link to these (generic) forms?
Glad to hear the CofC event went well @carolinamom2boys !
@psychmomma Because they typically are state specific, you can google POA forms for the state you live in and the state that your child will be attending school in. They’re not hard to find.
Also, check to see if your or your mate’s EAP offers free prep of such legal forms and/or free consult with an attorney. We are going to do that to have a lawyer look over our documents. We (DH & I) also need new wills, now that DD is turning 18 among other factors.
This site can also helpful: http://www.gyst.com/
If you are taking or co-signing a private student loan, life insurance for child (and signer-parent, of course) is highly recommended by experts.
Whoop! D16 got her roommate assignment for her double in a two-double suite. No word about the other room’s students who will be sharing the bathroom with D16 and her roommate. Well, D16 is taking a plunger and toilet brush, per my insistence. So, at least that’s covered.
Thanks, I found them.
So very happy this morning to have my DS sleeping in his own bed! Returned last night (12:30) from his trip to India for the Linguistics Olympiad. Also proud he returned with a Bronze Medal! <:-P
I did miss him terribly while he was gone & realize that his leaving in less than 3 weeks is going to be hard. Well, at least he will only be 3 hours away & not half way around the world!
Savour every last minute you have with your DC in the next days & weeks!
Congrats to you and your son @bookmom7