They still have few days of fun until Labor Day @texaspg
College financial aid offices across the country that use call centers that are in the hurricaneās weather path are being closed down for the duration. So weird.
Iām sad to hear that the two-doubles with a shared bath suite hasnāt created the best roommate/dormmates situation for D16. Just as I feared. A threesome has formed and left D16 as the odd man out. Theyāre seemingly a certain type that D16 is not and they arenāt drawing a wider circle. So much for embracing diversity. D16 is seeking positive connection elsewhere on campus, and reports she really enjoys the school newspaper staffers, but the dorm situation breaks my heart a bit. I hope she finds some like-minded and intentional peers on campus. This is one reason I think the long hallway of doubles with a single communal bathroom tends to have better outcomes for relationship building. Nothing is guaranteed, of course, but I was hoping the universe would toss her a bone for once. Still, I understand what will be, will be ā and all things happen as they need to, none better or worse, if I want to be philosophical about it. And I do.
Sorry to hear that @dyiu13 I can understand how upsetting it must be for you. Probably even more than for her. Hopefully she will find likeminded people outside the dorm. Did this school use roommates survey? Is it possible to move dorms?
Do sorry to hear that it is not working out @dyiu13 , but glad to hear she is looking elsewhere for connections. It is early yet. She will find her way. Hugs to you both.
@dyiu13 This happened to me when I was in college. The difference was I didnāt talk to my mom about it. Sheās blessed to have you in her corner. It took me longer to figure out that the three of them werenāt the only students on campus. I came to learn that it was actually one insecure young lady who needed to be in control and the others followed. God handled itā¦He blessed me with an internship as a second semester freshmen. That internship turned into a career which has led to my retiring next year.
Iām 8,800 miles away and starting to struggle with the lack of comms Iām having with DS since he flew to College.
Heāll have been gone 4 weeks tomorrow - he spoke to this cousins and brother on loud speaker the other day (he didnāt know I was there) and he seemed to be having an excellent time, told them heās loving it, loves the uni and the vibe and has made lots of new friends, he sounded so well. Thereās a lot of humour about his accent of course, his newfound friends say he sounds English/Australian, he loves that idea! He spoke to my mum, his granny, and told her heās settling in well and has been a little homesick but is dealing with it and no point dwelling on it and chatted to her about a few other things. Whenever Iāve tried to contact him heās either had an excuse that heās too busy or sleeping (which I can understand) or the two occasions Iāve spoken to him he just gives me one word answers, sounds exasperated by having to talk to me and leaves me wishing Iād never called him in the first place. I have decided to leave him alone until he wants to actually talk to me, sooo hard, trying to keep busy but I guess itās only natural that my mind flicks back to him constantly. Feeling sad and missing him desperately.
He may be missing you just as bad @zimmum and thatās why he can only speak to you in small, fairly superficial exchanges. I understand thatās very hard though. at least heās communicating with other family members so you can keep track of how heās doing . It truly is great that heās settling in though. Hang in there.
DS told me after arriving last night: āI love it here. Everything I see, even the buildings, makes me happy.ā 
@zimmum I totally agree with @carolinamom2boys. The fact that he admitted that heās a little homesick says itā¦for kidsā¦home is a motherās love. I just chatted with my hubby about your post and we both want to give you a big hug :x
@dyiu13 I just want to give your D a hugā¦ Iām so sorry that her living situation is leading to exclusion. But Iām glad sheās starting to build her circle of friends outside the dorms. Sheās already getting involved so thatās important but it doesnāt allow lessen the sting of being excluded. @fretfulmother I have said the same thing to my mom
Outstanding @fretfulmother
@zimmum I am having the same issue with my daughter and she isnāt even 5 hours away. She has plenty of time to text her sister, call her friends, or communicate with her dad. Last night was the second real phone call that I had from her since drop off. Iām sure your son is missing you and itās just easier to cope by not having much communication. I think itās part of the growing process and he is just trying to to be independant. I think it will get better with time.
@dyiu13 That breaks my heart fro your daughter. It sounds like she is pretty resilient though and has a good attitude about it. Hopefully they will start to include her more as time goes on.
@dyiu13 Iām sorry your daughter is having roommate issues. I hope she finds lots of friends outside the dorm.
@zimmum That has to be so hard. At least you know he is OK. I think he is trying to be independent and show that he doesnāt need his mother. I donāt think the kids realize how hard it is for us. Have you tried texting him? I find my D always responds to simple texts.
@dyiu13 - Sorry to hear that the double suite isnāt working out for your D, but itās so early. My D has the same room set up, but she and her roommate donāt seem to have much interaction with the girls who share their bathroom. (D and roommate felt like the āweird girlsā on their floor for the first week or so, but at least they had each other!) Even with the suites, they have an open door policy on the floor.
Last night, D invited me to Facetime her while she was doing laundry for the first time in 19 days since arriving in Colorado. She then proceeded to have conversations with 4 different people in the laundry room, asked me to put all three cats on the screen, said how much she misses them, and then hung up to go āfoldā her stuff. Ah well, it was good to see her face anyway, haha.
@eh1234 That sounds like many conversations with my daughter lol.
@dyiu13 - sorry to hear that. Hopefully she can find her tribe elsewhere. Does she have a chance to move?
@eh1234 - hopefully the cats enjoyed it. 
@fretfulmother - It is considered the best looking campus and even better when winter comes.
DD Skype us every other night. I like it more then texting because I can monitor her mood this way. Couple days ago she was very stressed out selecting classes. She felt that she is mediocre because she just was able to skip one class and people around her were skipping few. This was a conversation we had with her when she was selecting this school and were trying to prepare her for this situation. Last night she sounded happy: she passed her swimming test, her and roommates got final dorm assignment and were about to go shopping to buy room decorations. She also introduced us to a huge stuffed animal toy in the living room that she claimed and hugged during Skype.
My sweet girl has a four day weekend and sheās excited! She and one of her roomies are heading to Georgetown to get there hair done. This place only does wash and style (no perms or anythingā¦which is good because sheās actually attempting to move away from chemicals to natural). I went natural seven years ago and kept a very short cut until January of this year. This close to retirement I am letting it grow and it is thick and curly (and I love it!) This summer she went a month longer than normal without getting a touch up and her roots grew thick and curlyā¦she loved it but isnāt ready to let go of a more manageable straight look yet. Once she has to start paying for perms/touch ups herself her attitude will change 