Aww, @dyiu13 that must have been so rough for you! I’m sorry your D wouldn’t talk to you much.
@readingclaygirl is that something the RA will be told about? I think that’s who dealt with passed out kids in my dorm back in the day. Sorry you’re freaked out-not a good experience!
D called her dad tonight and ended up FaceTiming us both as she talked about her day. I think on weekends she gets lonely and I know today many of her friends back here contacted her so she must have been missing everyone. So two calls in one day! But that’s not to say she’s rethinking her choice-she mentioned an internship she’s going to apply for in TN this summer. I fully expected her to not come home summers after NEXT year, but she’s always jumped on opportunities to learn, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. Anyway, it’s still far from decided-she doesn’t even know if it’s a paid internship, but I’m sure if it doesn’t work out, she’ll be looking for the next opportunity. Life really has changed for all of us.
@readingclaygirl Yikes! I guess it could be anything from a diabetic coma to alcohol poisoning, but no matter what caused it, that’s terrifying. I’m glad your instincts led you to call PS. Sometimes folks don’t intervene, amazingly.
Good to hear from you @momofsmartdancer ! So glad your move in went well.
You did the right thing @readingclaygirl. That girl may be embarrassed and not exactly happy with you for a bit but you may have saved her life. Thank heavens no one will ever know that for sure!
Spent a fair amount of time at DS’s HS this weekend since it is now DD20’s. It is both strange and comforting to go to games and see some of his old teammates and their parents. Still only communicating by text with DS. I fell like I have to wait for him to initiate anything more. He is not a big talker and I have a felling the GF is absorbing all that is available right now. I am resolved to be the undemanding woman in his life B-)
I do think especially at the beginning they are being pulled into so many different directions. And supposed to be independent. Some cope with it by talking, others by not. Or they talk mainly to their gf/bf and old/new friends about their new experiences.
I tried to give D space in the beginning. Would send a text here and there. And she would answer when she had time. She would only call if it was something urgent.
When she went back to school she said “you know you guys can call me” and said that she is not always good about texting people.
She has called a few times. Seems to prefer to call to talk about several things going on rather than texting.
This new relationship is like learning a new dance. We are awkward and step on toes. But it gets easier with time.
I don’t know @sseamom All I knew is public safety would answer and I wasn’t sure if the RA on duty would. Plus They had told us that if it’s an emergency situation to call public safety.
S is not a talker, so conversations are normally like pulling teeth. After the initial daily texts due to technical issues, contact with S has dwindled to nothing. I asked if I could call him Friday afternoon, and he said “I guess”, but he had nothing to say. All open-ended questions were met with “there’s nothing to say”. I wanted to reach through the phone and bop him. I guess since he said everything’s fine, I’ll take him at his word and be glad he isn’t on the phone for countless hours with roommate/professor/homework drama. Maybe he needs these weeks to establish his new normal. It’s pretty hard on this end, though.
So to stay busy, H and I decided to paint our bedroom. We just finished the first coat. It’s so bright and airy!
I have discovered if I “text” via snapchat (no photos or anything) I get a response ASAP. Why it is different than regular texting (where she may or may not respond), I do not know.
Well, today we hit the one week mark and things are going well. Having five other roomies has worked out well so far. My sweet girl is an only child so my hubby and I made every attempt to provide a plethora of opportunities for her to interact with others as she was growing up. We’ve also really tried to keep a peaceful home to allow her time to decompress with plenty of quiet time at home (this was born out of my being placed in child protective services at 13 years of age because both of my parents were abusive alcoholics…yup…by the Grace of God I am here). She said she really feels like she has the same set up at school. Her rooms is an oasis and quiet place and then she steps out into the world. Her roomies are all very focused smart girls. I’ve learned so much from her. She is our aromatherapy, incense burning, calming oils and various genre music loving child.
One of the five roomies is really homesick so the girls have really tried to rally around her.
My sweet girl really loves all of her classes. They are intense but she didn’t expect anything less.
She did have one hiccup…she mistakenly gave a $15 tip instead of a 15% tip when she got her hair done in Georgetown. We were chatting with her on speaker when she told us and my hubby and I just cracked up laughing. When she realized it she apologized…then said “that’s why the stylist was so happy”. :))
@bfahopeful I think it’s because kids are on SnapChat more than traditional texting because the communications disappear on SnapChat. Also, with SnapChat you can see when someone reads the communication whereas with text messages you can turn off the read receipt.
Okay so…it is time for the dreaded flu shot. My hubby and I got ours yesterday. My sweet girl hates needles and getting shots. The CVS she now uses at GW provides flu shots
“[Roommate]'s mom is just like you; she was Windexing everything when they arrived.”
“Did you tell them please that I ordered a Swiffer to be sent from amazon to you in a couple of days?”
“No, don’t worry about it.”
“I really think if she’s like me, then his mom would want to know that.”
I’ve spent my afternoon consoling a friend as she vents about her horrible roommate. And of course the RA went home for the weekend and the one on duty can’t do anything so she just has to deal. Her roommate has been bringing guys into the room every night and it makes her incredibly uncomfortable to even go in her room.
@carolinamom2boys that’s the RA on duty. But since it’s been an ongoing issue and the roommate isn’t always around, she was told it had to be handled by the normal RA. If some major confrontation happens this weekend then the RA on duty will obviously handle it
