That means a bunch of people are going to be asking for their epidurals soon! 
But itās trueā¦all the preparation and anticipation for a new beginning! I believe it will all work out the way itās supposed toā¦ Good luck to all still waiting!
Lol. This is why I wanted my epidural at 8 months!!
@RyanG1207 epidural requestsā¦too funny!
I had four kids and zero epidurals 17-23 years ago ā¦but may I officially request one now?
OMG. You win the internet today!
@LKnomad Wow! I never win anything! :))
@4kids2graduate : āI had four kids and zero epidurals 17-23 years ago ā¦but may I officially request one now?ā
I can only guess what elicited that comment, but I read the thread backward, so yours hit me early. That makes us two for two on the first part of your statement, 4K2, but I think Iāll hold out for whatever the midwife has in her bag before I succumb to the needle.
Sounds like pie and cake may be in order. As I readā¦
Hello- Iām new today! So pleased to find an outlet like this. ive been directed to this thread- hope itās the right place: Iām curious about the air of secrecy among kids and parents about scores and college lists and acceptances, rejections. Is it just our community or is this a universal experience? These kids could be bonding over these shared experiences and instead end up sort of isolatedā¦ Any thoughts?
@cardinal2020mom - its a week and a day, true, but then many of us will jump aboard the S.S. Indecision! I will be on board sipping a margarita until the decision is made, and welcome the company 
@momeila - I am new today too, but I went through this a few years ago with my older son and being on a similar thread was a great source of information, comfort and company. I even met a local mom whose daughter had the exact same decision as my son, and it was great to meet up over a glass of wine and share impressions. I put it off till now to avoid going too crazy. I donāt see much secrecy, but kids donāt like to discuss it until they have news, or better yet, good news.
@Momeila welcome! I think there may be more secrecy since we are online and donāt know each otherā¦ But in my real life(Iām a senior) my friends and I are constantly talking about college.
@esteemom oh no!!! Indecision. I didnāt think of that one. Thankfully, my D is pretty set on her choice. However, I will definitely join you in a drink or 2. Well earned by us parents. I think this whole experience could be a good reason as to why Iāve been losing my hair.
@Momeila I agree with @esteemom. I think many kids feel so much pressure, they find it easier not to share. When my D was accepted (years ago) to her reach school, a friend who had applied ED and been deferred was then denied from that school. My D was happy about her own situation, but kept it all low key so as not to seem like she was adding to her friendās disappointment. It all dissipated as this friend and others started making decisions about where to attend. But during this time, when lots of good and bad news is coming, I think kids want to keep it close. My S is naturally very quiet and he barely told anyone when he got into his reach school. But the kids he knows who are also applying to more challenging schools are also keeping it quiet. He and his closest friend donāt seem to talk about it that often (at least from what I can tell) but his mom and I (secretly) email each other and provide support. I also think kids donāt like to share test scores the same way they donāt share grades and GPAs. It is personal. That is one reason why these threads on CC are popular. One can share without people you know in the real world being aware of grades and scores.
Welcome @Momeila ! We are lucky at Dās HS that it is small and the kids are all very close, with a very small number of specific classes for each grade, so that the teachers and admin are in turn close to the kids. Thereās very little secrecy about applications, acceptances and rejections. Everyone celebrates and commiserates with everyone else. Though theyāre certainly free to take additional tests, the entire junior and senior classes take the SATās together, so they bond over taking them. Scores seem to be less of a topic, though. One of the things I love about this school is that the kid that gets one directional acceptance and the kid with a dozen selective acceptances are cheered on equally, as is everyone in between.
@ProbDeferred , continuing in @ReminiscingDad 's vein, I want to share the story of a young lady I mentor. At 25 she is raising her 3 brothers and her own child. It took her several years just to get her AA degree, a few classes at a time. Last spring she applied to our local flagship, only to be deferred to Winter quarter. Some of us from more fortunate circumstances might have tsk tskād with sympathy, but she was over the moon! She got into UW! In her major! With merit aid! She immediately began to encourage others to go for their dreams and never give up. Sheās been a guest speaker to disadvantaged youth several times already.
Itās all a matter of perspective. What one person sees as a punishment someone else would take as an incredible gift. Only you can decide how to play it. Best of luck to you.
Iām talking to a potential future roommate on Facebook which is exciting.
Very exciting @readingclaygirl - hope she is a match! ;))
Welcome @Momeila - I agree with @PAO2008 - for so many of these kids the up & downs of this process in addition to the pressure/ possible expectations of others makes it scary to share everything.
I think, on this thread, you will find a knowledgeable supportive group- willing to help each other out as we make our way through this crazy ride.
Welcome @Momeila
@sseamom @mrsquietstorm9 @bookmom7 Thank you! Again, so pleased to be in a friendly and informative place!
@PAO2008 Iām not allowed by my kid to celebrate any of her good news as she fears hurting friendsā feelings. Iām glad that she is so caring, but wish we could all celebrate and cry together as necessary.
@esteemom hello, welcome!
@readingclaygirl Luck that you have your group of friends! Even my girlsā besties are so secretiveā¦
Congratulations @PAO2008! And weāll no doubt be at the back of the line with you and @dbjs70, unless miracles happen next week.
Welcome to our new people!
Yes, this. Though at least back in '98 mine had the decency to arrive early!
@momeila I am lucky. Sadly my group of friends will be all over the place come fall. I do have that fear of hurting my friends feelings by talking about where I am going too much but they seem genuinely happy for me, and I for them with the good news.
UCB is out! Accepted. But no info on financial aid. Anyone know where that is?