@readingclaygirl - I recognize that RICE Owl!! Huge congrats @liviningLA-- great school!
Congrats on all the decisions and acceptances this week!
I guess some of you have read my other post on Parent Cafe bout my D. Sheās having a rough time these past two weeks, but in hindsight, this has been a long time coming.
Basically, if you havenāt read my other thread, she is out of school this week and next, and in outpatient treatment for her anxiety and depression.
The plan and hope is for her to get back to school by mid-April and finish up high school.
At first, we thought she may need to drop a class or two, but now, it looks like she should be okay keeping everything as it is. She may not graduate with stellar grades this semester, like she wanted, but it will be good enough.
We just need to convince her of that.
Sheās made enough emotional progress to ask me to e-mail all of her teachers yesterday, and let them know what is going on and ask them to e-mail her directly with homework, etc if they can.
Sheās also trying to commit to getting more relaxation time - socializing with friends, just hanging out with us, reading a book for fun, taking a walk - eating healthier, and getting enough sleep. All things apparently discussed in therapy.
(Of course, weāve been trying to tell her these things for awhile, but I guess it takes paying a therapist, sometimes, 
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Iām just happy sheās getting help and already her mood is slowly improving.
Itās going to take a while, though, and this will likely be ongoing for the rest of her life, so we are not ruling out alternate plans now.
Weāve told her she can still change her mind and stay home for a gap year, if need be.
But, right now, we feel itās too soon to change any plans for her leaving in the fall. Her counselor has said it actually may be the best thing for her to go ahead and commit to plans, (and we actually agree - we think the change in environment will be good for her), granted we get the support network in place for her at her university.
Iāve checked into their Student Counseling Center and it seems very adequate. We will also need to arrange for her to have a therapist in her college town.
So, as of now, maybe she will go ahead with plans for college in the fall - and maybe she wonāt. Too soon to tell, and we should have a clear idea by May or June.
Iād like to stick around this group and keep up with how everyoneās children are doing, though. I feel a kinship with everyone in this group, and want to thank everyone who PMād me and responded on the other thread. The support here has been overwhelming and I truly appreciate it.
@livinginLA - are you guys going to Owl Days?
I am sorry your daughter is going thru this @BeeDAre . I know it is hard on everyone. Hugs and best wishes for her.
@BeeDAre -continued healing for your DD!
Sounds hopeful @BeeDAre . Continued support for your family. Please keep us updated as youāre comfortable.
I agree with @carolinamom2boys, it sounds hopeful. Bravo to her for working on this now and to you for supporting her.
@bookmom7 no we arenāt going. Most of D16ās final exams are that week and prom is on the 16th.
@BeeDAre itās great that you were able to recognize that your daughter needed some help. It sounds like you have an excellent plan in place for her. I hope you continue to up date us and I will continue to send good thoughts her and your way.
462 messagesā¦ yow. Iāll try to skim, but am thinking good thoughts in general for all of our kids as they go through these crazy weeks. @BeeDAre - Iām so glad your daughter and you have the relationship that you do, and that she and you are working together to get through spring and get her the support she needs. Iāve seen a couple of kids try to brute force plunge through stress and anxiety - itās so hard. My best wishes are with yāall as youāre walking through this together.
Weāre just back from visiting Fordham. It is #3 on Sā list, and was almost off the table entirely, but the visit may have pulled it back on. We are home for 4 days, then off to see Macalester, back for a week, and then Pomona. Iāve got a feeling itāll be a rather late decision, but weāll muddle through it, I guess.
@BeeDAre Nothing is more important than our childrenās health and well-being. Glad that you are so open to all the possibilities. She is lucky to have a family committed to doing whatās right for her and that support will mean everything. Pie for you!
Actually, we can all have pie. We deserve it.
BeeDAre - nothing but best wishes for your D as she continues to work toward recovery. Sending healing thoughts and grace to her, and all of your family.
Iām so sorry, @BeeDAre. My D also suffers from extreme anxiety and we are going to have to set up supports just as soon as she makes her final decision.
@BeeDAre, I saw your other thread and am so glad your D is getting help now. There is a lot of time between now and the fall- Iām sure youāll be able to assess her progress and together decide what makes sense for her by then. Having a support system in place before she gets to school puts her ahead of the game. Iām in another group of parents that all started out together quite a few years ago and have stayed together- and there have been many of those whose kids have taken different paths along the way due to various issues. Iāll be thinking good thoughts for your family.
@BeeDAre Iām sending my best wishes to your daughter. Iām glad she is getting the help she needs. You are always welcome here, no matter what ends up happening. Hugs
@BeeDAre My best thoughts, wishes, vibes to your D. Stay strong and may everything play out as best as possible for her >:D<
Best wishes to you and your daughter, @BeeDAre !
@piesquared Iāll take a piece of rhubarb please. 
@BeeDAre I did not see your other post, and I am so sorry this has happened. You are a wonderful part of this community, and Iām really glad you felt comfortable sharing the fact itās not always rainbows and good news. Iāve been in a similar situation and hope your family will continue to see more light as you move through this tunnel. (((Hugs)))