We are completely adrift with no working engine on the SS Indecision! Wondering if admitted student days are helping your kiddos gain clarity in their decision making process(if they are attending those because they have yet to make a decision).
Unfortunately for us…return visits including admitted students days are not an option for us due to distance, time and cost of airline tickets, hotels, etc. The closest college would be 2500 miles away…not a quick and inexpensive trip. Two of the schools on S’s top 3-4 we visited almost 6 months ago, before he even had a complete list of acceptances. So…they are not necessarily fresh in his mind. The other two we visited for “interviews” in the last two months…so they are fresher in S’s mind.
Hoping at some point to get that engine repaired so hopefully we can start chugging along (in any direction).
We jumped off the SS Indecision and on to SS Decided on Tues. After weeks of me “nagging” I left it alone and D just made her announcement to us very matter of factly. A tree D will be!
@4kids2graduate, Stanford. But, from what we’ve read, they technically don’t have a mascot. The tree is the Stanford band’s mascot and the unofficial school one.
Today was nice, but not too much going on yet. Had a meeting with FA -no surprises good or bad. But D was invited to apply for a local scholarship that would sure help.Deadline is the day after we get back. Everyone we met seemed happy to be there and our host was a good match for D. She and her Group Me friends kept missing each other though. Tomorrow is advising and placement testing, while parents find out more about academics and housing. The weather was great most of the day, which was a nice break after yesterday’s cold and rain.tomorrow is supposed to be nice too.
And thanks @fretfulmother@cardinal2020mom@Cheeringsection@readingclaygirl . The scholarship is available to all children of employees who meet a threshold calculated with scores and grades. No essay required, and no limit to how many kids can get it. Like the tuition benefit some professors get. My husband is not a professor but his workplace is run by a university. Not automatic, but we were fairly confident S16 would make the threshold. A nice consolation prize for his 1-point miss from NMSF.
I’m still wandering around the SS Indecision, packing our things, and wondering if I can get a massage before we officially disembark.
Good luck to all who are preparing for admitted student days. Wonder where @frenchtoastlover has gone!
Thanks, @Mom2jl! I can’t wait til the end of the month for Admit Weekend. I have never been to California. Looking forward to the new chapter in our lives.
@Waiting2exhale Thank you. I understand that “tone” can be hard in an online forum. We are all trying to help each other.
I haven’t posted much this week. We are making our way to several ports on the SS Indecision. Had a great trip with S to one school on Sunday/Monday. 5+ hours of driving each day. But the admitted student visit went really well. S was engaged (and even asked some questions). At the end of the day, there was an ice cream social and the President of the university was there. He had spoken in the morning so I was surprised he was standing around talking to people later in the day. I said to S, let’s go talk with him and contrary to S’s usual approach, he said okay. So we had a nice chat with him - he has only been there a year. The school is one of S’s smaller schools but has some nice programs and it was clear the professors are very approachable and want to engage with students. So, I’m assuming it is still on the list of possibilities.
Next up is an admitted student day about an hour from us on Saturday then we’ll drive another 5 hours to attend another one on Sunday, then drive back home.DH will be with us this so that will help with the driving. S is getting lots of highway driving experience. Then I’ll be back to work on Monday, which has been ridiculously busy. S has his senior class trip next weekend. Way back when (uh, maybe a month ago), I had the “brilliant” idea that DH and I should go away then to a bed and breakfast - it has been well over a year since we did any type of vacation. We’ve only done weekend college visits. So we have a little getaway planned but that is the only weekend this month I am NOT traveling with S. But it will be good as DH and I have now spent both my birthday and our anniversary apart with one of us at an admitted student day with S. Crazy spring. I’m finding that my house is getting messy with me gone every weekend. Hard to keep up with laundry and mail. But, this seems to be what S needs to make an informed decision so we are making the rounds. And I do think they are helpful. I only wish there was more of a chance to connect with current students.
We have a shared email that we created just for S’s college stuff. And I mainly monitor it. Since he has been accepted at all of these schools, he is now getting quite a lot of email - especially from the ones where he has been to admitted students. In the last 2 days, he’s heard from at least 6 schools. By the end of April, he will have made return visits to 6 schools in 6 weeks. But the two he went to the last week in March are off the list. One for sure. As you can tell from my post, the SS Indecision is very busy and moving full steam ahead.
Congrats to those with good news. So great that there are people exiting the SS Indecision - more room for those of us still aboard. I’ve told S our date to disembark is April 28th. Maybe he’ll surprise me and we’ll get an earlier exit. As I said to a friend - no one will ever accuse my S of making a rash decision.
No decision here yet, though D is leaning toward one of her final two again, at least for tonight. When she was awarded the scholarship she received after the scholarship weekend at her once again leading school she received the news in a call from the head of the selection committee and Honor’s program himself, who was one of her interviewers. That really made a big impression on her.
She is also starting to see more kids she met and liked that weekend commit to the school, which is part of finding her people. Tomorrow? Who knows? The SS Indecision rarely steers a straight course.
@Skates76 Never underestimate that personal attention from the head of the Honors program. When my son was skyped by the Dean of the Honors College and the founder of the Entrepreneurial Living Learning Community to notify him of his acceptance into William Aken Fellows and invite him into the ELLC , the deal was pretty much sealed. DS16 did not formally accept that day, but in his heart he did . Every other school paled in comparison. He did commit formally about 10 days later, and couldn’t be happier. When he found out that many of the students he met and liked at the interview weekend had also committed, that just validated to him that he made the right decision . There’s something to be said for the personal attention that he consistently received . You’re situation sounds very much like ours. If I were you, id be preparing to disembark the USS Indecision. Is this School the southern school?
@carolinamom2boys No, it is Delaware. She received the Eugene DuPont Scholar award which is their only full ride. The kids were in small groups, 10-12, with four observers/interviewers that interacted with them all weekend. The prof who called her happened to be one observing and talking with her group. He is a well renowned economics professor and while discussing some of his scholarly work my daughter pointed out a few very interesting points about it and told him it sounded like a testable theory. The other kids in her group told her later that it was wrong to tell him that his work was theoretical and that they would never do that. I think that was the moment he took a shine to her brassiness. Yay for that girl speaking her mind!
Of course she also got tons of personal attention at her southern school, UCF treats their NMFs to an incredible visit, including a private sit down with the head of their Honors program.
I think closer to home and being selected for the DuPont scholarship have her leaning Delaware. She is not a fan of the UD dorms, and the ones at UCF, along with the weather, are incredibly nicer.
I love them both, so it is like picking between your two favorite flavors to me. (-:
Hang in there @PAO2008@palm715 , @sseamom , @crowlady , @Skates76 , and anyone else still on the SS Indecision! May the seas stay relatively smooth even if the trip is longer than your hoped for three hour tour.
@Skates76 kudos to your daughter. In our house, saying something is a testable hypothesis means it is good science. Of course it also means it is a so-far-untested claim . . but at least it is properly posed. .I’m sure the econ prof was impressed.
I’ve told S our date to disembark is April 28th. Maybe he’ll surprise me and we’ll get an earlier exit. As I said to a friend - no one will ever accuse my S of making a rash decision.