@snoozn So scary. Glad DDs are ok.
@hadmeathello Congratulations!
@christygb Hugs your way and wish your son recover quickly!!!
@snoozn that is a crazy story, glad your D is safe. It’s too bad we need to worry about stuff like that.
Ugh, learned that I will need to monitor application/etc dates more closely and not count on my child getting it right. Probably going to be a recoverable error, but thankfully the GC is willing to make an exception.
@snoozn —that is one of my greatest fears. So sorry to hear but glad the students are all OK.
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Thank you all for your care, suggestions and support for my post. I appreciate your ideas and good wishes! I don’t think seasonal issues are at play since we live in sunny San Diego, but I think college application seasonal issues are a big player. He is seeing a psychiatrist and a weekly counselor who does work with CBT. I think it will just take some time, but it’s torture to see him suffering. We are totally open to a GAP year, but ideally, in a perfect world would love for him to have options, if he is feeling better by next year. Going to school overseas has been his dream for a couple of years now, and we visited the schools in Europe over the summer. I think he has more time to apply, and only Oxford will have to come off the list if he can’t apply by Oct. 15. That’s not really a big deal, and he has other great schools to choose from. We would also love for him to apply in the US, but he has been resistant to the idea. Time will tell. Hopefully the combination of medicine and therapy will help him though this period. In the glass half-full way, I’m glad this happened while he’s still at home, and with our support as opposed to being away at college with limited support. This could be a beneficial learning experience in the long run, but in the short run, I hope he feels better soon! Again, thank you all so much for your support for me today.
@snoozn Wow. I follow CU-B and neighborhood kids at CU on fb and twitter but haven’t seen anything all day today other than photos of wind damages. 
Glad to hear everyone is home safe.
@christygb Sorry to hear about your son’s illness. I agree with others to seriously consider colleges closer to home. I suggest you ask his therapist about whether going to school in Europe, even if a “dream” for him, would be wise. I’ve seen too many kids with depression need to withdraw during the semester to think it’s a good idea. hugs
Hugs @snoozn Unfortunately, we know what it feels like to worry about events in our neighboring college community, given Isla Vista’s history. Our UC is very good about sending texts and notifications to community members about incidents, even small things like suspected peeping Toms. I know that we all worry when one of those alerts comes through. Glad no students were hurt (unless the man with the machete was a student).
@christygb - I have a D with anxiety and I know how paralyzing that can be for the student (and worrisome for the parents). Thankfully, she had everything under control prior to the admissions process. But, I do remember how difficult being 14 - 16 was while we tried different therapies and meds. It takes time. So, the idea of a gap year or something without looming deadlines may be in order here. Let it all take its time. It’s a process, for sure.
I was just talking with a friend who’s son is experiencing anxiety right now (has been off his meds for a few months and took a step backwards last week). We talked about readjusting what she thought he’d be aiming for in college. There are a lot of choices other than what she “dreamed” for him.
If you just let go of the idea of the UK for now (unless he starts the conversation), I think you may find some relief from your worry. Work towards getting him better. The meds can take weeks to settle in. And, sometimes it takes trying a different med because of side effects.
Support him if and when he starts the conversation. Don’t pressure.
Hang in there. This is coming at a tough time. But you’re are doing everything you can and should be doing.
Sending you good thoughts!
I see all those social media and news reports from CU-B now. 
Glad it is over.
@hadmeathello congrats <:-P
So sorry about your son @christygb hugs
@snoozn glad your d is safe
Meanwhile I’m hunkering down here in Orlando. I don’t mind the actual hurricane, I just don’t want to lose power. Good news is school is cancelled tomorrow and Friday…more time to finish up the apps! (just how she wants to spend two days off =)) )
good luck @greeny8 with the storm. No generator?
One thing I did to my house was have an outdoor outlet installed to hook up a portable generator, attached to our electric box. Flip a switch when the power goes out, start up the generator and it powers almost the entire house. Well worth it!!!
@christygb My D13 went through depression, eating disorder and self-harm starting from 17 years old. At one point, she was seeing six different specialists. That was a challenging time. She still takes medication. She was more functioning than your son and she was going to school everyday, but there were nights I slept in the hallway in front of my D’s room so that I would hear the slightest sound from her room.
She was determined to go out of state for college. If she didn’t end up going, I imagine she would be even more devastated and depressed. It’s just my gut feeling. I know the regular suggestion would be to focus on the treatment and forget about the college for the time being. However, I knew she had to get out and find the different environment, I knew she had to. I was scared but with the blessing of her therapist and ED specialist, she left for college thousands of miles away.
We made her find a therapist there and she was seeing her regularly for the first two years of college. Now she sees her when she feels the need.
Only your family knows what’s best for your son. Maybe forgetting college stuff is the best things now. Maybe slow down but move forward with the application is the best thing. I really don’t know. In our case, she would be devastated if she had to stay at home because of her depression and not realizing her dream of leaving for college.
But if your son is paralized and barely make it to school, first thing is to find a good therapist and psychiatrist and get a proper medication. I feel for you.
@christygb No real advice but wishing you well with getting your son well again.
@carachel2 No not yet. We are planning to visit soon. I’ve a first hand information that UTD engineering program, especially Computer Science, is very good and there are lot of internship opportunities turning into full-time job offers. Not worried much about commuter school label. It’s a safety school and waiting to hear AES scholarship decisions
@RightCoaster no generator. We have talked about getting one for years but laziness won.
@christygb Just letting you know that I too am sending good wishes to you and your son. I hope your family finds the best path forward.
@greeny8 Good luck on both the power and the apps.
Congrats for all the acceptances and to @RightCoaster’s S for the special invite.
@snoozn Glad your D’s are both OK. I hate that this is such a real risk.
@IAbooks Have S17 contact the AO. I’ve heard this happens and it’s no big deal. The only thing to be cognizant of is if it is a school that requires interviews. You would want to make sure that the interview were set up right away as they would have prioritized EA interviews.
@IABooks - My daughter also got the custom OU postcard with her name and info about a student from her state. My D calls the personalized mailings “love letters” (vs the “random come-on” mass mailings). She was happy to get a love letter from someone that she loves back. :x