@swtaffy904 I’m sorry your D experienced this situation where her friend put her on the spot. I do think that, while candidates are primarily competing against the entire applicant pool for a seat, colleges also look to spread their acceptances around and won’t want to accept too many kids from any one HS. But I also think that soft cap per HS is a lot more than just 1 student. So personally, I think it is nice to consider the other kids and weigh things out. For example:
This Fall my D also had the situation where her friend with lower stats really wanted to go to school A. School A was interesting to my D, but not at all a favorite and there were other schools that my D could just as happily substituted for that slot. So my D decided she wouldn’t apply there, even though she probably would have if her friend wasn’t applying.
Your D’s situation is on the other end of the spectrum. Your D really likes this school A LOT. So she shouldn’t step aside.
In all events, I think it was terrible that the other kid was basically trying to emotionally blackmail your D into not applying.
Congratulations @Astro77 and forgive me if I’ve missed anyone else! It’s so exciting to see the great news coming fast and furious. Good vibes going out to the kids who didn’t get the results they wanted, or who are still waiting. Someone up-thread said it so much better, but the kids will land and will plant themselves and all will be well.
Congrats on all the great news this week! Our week has been so up and down. S18 is applying for classical voice, so he needs to pass prescreens, pass auditions to be admitted to the music school, be admitted academically, get sufficient merit $$, and also connect with a voice teacher to join their studio! So many moving parts. So this week was:
SMU Meadows music school- denied following an audition; surprised at this and a gut check
Vanderbilt Blair School of Music- denied prescreen. A long shot but his top choice. Hard to lose your top school without even getting an audition.
Trinity University- admitted with $25k and invite to full tuition scholarship weekend
Fordham- admitted with full tuition NM scholarship
USCal Thornton- passed prescreen and have audition! Huge after bad news from SMU and Vandy. A top music school ! Really boosted his spirits!
SMU- admitted academically with $30k, just not to the music school. Thanks but no thanks.
So still no music school admits, but encouraging news from USC and Trinity could be an option. I have a feeling no one in our house gets off this ride until May.
Congrats to all those with good news, and commiserations to those without! My kids were both deferred from their super-selective early school (same school for both), so I spent hours yesterday and an absurd amount of money submitting scores and CSS Profiles while occasionally getting emails from the Common App thanking me for my submission (as my daughter kept submitting apps from upstairs). I think my son will do most of his today. Each still has a couple of essays to write but the bulk of the work is done, although the art and music supplements that my daughter is submitting are annoying and fiddly; each school seems to want something different. She has put in a lot of time on those, which would have been much less if they had a standard format. The deferral was disappointing but not entirely unexpected. The real fear was that only one would get in. They still think everything they get from life must be equivalent. I probably should have showed favoritism to one when they were small so they wouldn’t have that expectation! >:) Obviously, it’s my fault for thinking they’re both adorable…
Color me naive/uniformed, but if you are rejected or deferred from an early decision school does that mean you have to scramble to submit applications elsewhere? You can’t submit anything anywhere else until you hear?
@bearcatfan students who apply ED can apply anywhere RD and most places EA (unless it’s a restricted EA school) . So, apps can be submitted before they hear back from their ED school. Many people, however, don’t want to spend the extra $$ on applications, test scores, etc. for RD schools before hearing back since it would be wasted on an application that would have to be withdrawn.
No @bearcatfan, ED doesn’t mean students can’t submit to other colleges early. It’s just that some students decide to wait until after ED decisions to apply elsewhere if they aren’t accepted.
Thanks @glido for your reminder that we will all be shopping for comforters. It is a good reminder.
@twinsmama oh boy that must be tough having had them both apply to the same school ED. That ratchets up the stress. Hopefully they both get lots of good news and decisions in the spring
@vistajay Wow, I somehow missed that music schools were involved in your search. That makes everything harder I think. Does Trinity have a music program (not my kid’s thing, so I have no clue!)
@twinsmama Do your twins want to go together to college? That seems to make everything more tricky. Good luck.
This is a smaller community, so there are some local scholarships everyone knows about. We mostly heard about them just by watching the local newspaper and making note of scholarship winner announcements. A few the guidance office mentioned. Some are more onerous than others in terms of what you have to send in, but they are all at least a grand each. The big one we are hoping for is $2,000 a year, renewable.That one had a lot of hoops to jump through.
A couple state ones I heard of through Facebook, of all things. I follow a few professional nursing organizations and some of them have scholarships for incoming students.
The smaller school she is considering attending has a whole page of scholarships - a few of which she’s in the bullseye for. I don’t know how much they are for, however. But still, it’s a one page application plus a resume and very short essay, so we figure why not.
Check with your place of employment, and your credit unions. They often have small scholarships for employee dependents or members.
Our school puts out a list once a month about outside scholarships. We’ve also done some searching on our own. D just finished up a big one right at the last minute on Friday. It’s a long shot, but you never know. She has a list of dates a few more are due, but I’m going to encourage getting as much done over break as possible.
Still waiting on admissions here. I wish they would surprise us and release earlier than they say they will, but probably not.
Congrats to all the good news from all of our awesome kids on here!!
@swtaffy904 Honestly, that’s not very fair to make your D feel guilty over applying to a school of her choice. Also, so many students are applying to these schools that one less application will make no difference. Sorry your D is going through that.
@amominaz - our S18 has found scholarships through his school (the guidance office has a calendar of due dates for scholarships on its website), Fastweb, and general research.
Next few days will be big for our S18. Three decisions coming, 2 already snail mail, one portal on 20th. I’m apparently the most anxious in my house, second place goes to D21. S and H are calm or better at pretending than me. Luckily we all had a fun weekend, so ready to tackle this week!
My D18 hears from Furman and Elon EA on 12/20. She is much calmer than I am. She has been accepted at Belmont, Lipscomb and Samford so far, with merit ranging from $8k to $15k.