Friend drama here. D has a core group of 5 close friends. One friend was deferred from tippy top school ‘A’ this week. This young lady desperately wants to go there. D did not apply anywhere ED but is applying to school ‘A’. D’s top choice is ‘B’. School ‘A’ is probably D’s third choice school. D has stronger stats all around than her friend who was deferred.
Another of the friends approached D and told her she should not apply to school ‘A’ so her friend has a better chance of getting accepted.
D is really hurt. She doesn’t want to be selfish but she knows she can easily not be accepted at her first or second choice school. She would be very happy at school ‘A’. Mama bear, me, is of course livid at the mere suggestion that she not apply
I will be so glad when this is over!
@swtaffy904 That would make me very annoyed.
Second son has gotten acceptances from Western Carolina and UNC Asheville. We are waiting on UNCC.
@1917souci forgive me, but isn’t the Morrill scholarship a full ride (includes room and board)?!
@CalGal17 Congratulations! Wishing him success with UNCC!
@swtaffy904 Expect more of these stories to come out of the woodwork. My answer to those kids is: you should have worked harder before.
@mommdc First of all congratulations on Wisconsin, OSU, and Texas… It does not get any better than that!!! We have friends are all of these schools and they are all happy.
There are three levels of the Morill:
Distinction: Full Ride which includes tuition and room and board and perhaps even books, etc
Prominence: This is the one we received . This scholarships covers the full cost of tuition and is offered to out of state students Other expenses such as room and board, books, etc are not covered.
Excellence: It waives the cost of of tuition for instate students.
None of these scholarships are based on test scores or grades. It is based on an essay.
There are other scholarships as well. Did you apply?
@swtaffy904 that is annoying. It happens every year, even had it myself back in the dark ages. One of my friends was angry with me for not choosing to attend Williams, feeling I had somehow “stolen” his spot. I still remember that conversation 25+ years later–funny thing is, he probably doesn’t because every time we’ve spoken since then, he’s told me how much he loved Middlebury.
@swtaffy904 that started stinks, but please reassure your D that is not how the admissions process works, no one is taking anyone elses “spot”. Also my experience and observation has been starting right about now through May many seniors seem to go through a bit of a shake up with friends, kids that have been friends for a while “breakup” and new friendships are made, it is weird and very disconcerting but it seems really normal.
Sorry about the comment to your D, @swtaffy904 !
@swtaffy904 ((hugs)) to your D and you.
S got a rejection from Fordham, so he’s 1 for 2 on reaches. Ithaca’s film program is more highly rated, and I think he may have come around to preferring it anyway. We should find out soon if it will be affordable. The NPC has it just squeaking by. We still think McDaniel is a better fit, but would send him to Ithaca with our blessings if it’s affordable.
10th and final interview done today. Whew, that’s a lot of interviewing. The one today went fantastic and moved the school up on this list of favorites, so it wasn’t a wasted 1/2 day right before finals.
So happy for all the great news and hugs for deferred or “not what they’re looking for right now.” My D decided that she’ll follow schools on social media but not talk about it unless she’s finalized her choice after applying to more than a dozen schools with 2 reaches. She’s got a ways to go through April, so positive thoughts would be much appreciated.
Geesh I guess I was clueless. I didn’t know that was a thing. It just seems ludicrous to me to think that one less applicant will mean this girl gets in. I don’t know the numbers but I bet this school has 12,000 apply.
@labegg I didn’t realize we might be in for a friend shake up again. That’s usually traumatic. Almost like it’s their way of dealing with having to say goodbye?
This is high school after all. Who knows if they’ll keep in touch after they graduate no matter where they get in? My D and dear friends are competing for state and regional scholarships. They just agree not to talk about it and do their own thing. One getting in may or may not have anything with another missing out, but they all have the same opportunity! @swtaffy904
@swtaffy904 - I am with @cardinal2020mom. Not to be mean but it’s not your D’s fault that she is a stronger candidate than this other friend. Of course when you find out the other people that are applying to the same school you’re interested in it can be a bit disheartening, but that’s the name of the game. Hopefully it doesn’t tarnish their friendship. Unfortunately, if it does, it wasn’t much of a friendship to begin with.
D’18s BFF got into Duke early - called D’18 first. Very thrilled! Very happy. Went out to dinner with BFF’s family to celebrate. Everything was cool until D’18 got home and was a little teary because she was deferred from BC. So, she applied to another really good school (where she is being recruited to run) before she went to bed. Such is life for these kids.
I am so happy to read all the great news on this thread. So happy for all of you! What a fun thread.
All of our kids are going to get into somewhere that fits. We are all going to go shopping for comforters and shower caddies, etc. Our kids are all going to get roommates. We are just in the middle of it. Keep smiling and love that kid on the couch. Cheers.
There are going to be A LOT of emotions over the next many months. Even if s/he gets into the college of his/her dreams. While the end of high school is the beginning of a new and exciting adventure, it’s still the end of something known and the beginning of something unknown. “Am I going to find friends?” “What if I don’t like it there?” “What if it’s too hard?” “What if it’s too easy?” “Will my high school friends find new friends and forget about me?” There is sooooo much lead up and anticipation to this one.single.decision. I am strapping in for a bumpy ride of emotions over the next year. Both hers AND mine!
Two big acceptance envelopes for D28 in the snail mail today!
University of Delaware (Honors College and $15k per year.
University of Maryland, Baltimore County (UMBC). They didn’t send Honors/scholarship info yet.
So exciting!