Oh wow. I think mothers always have good intuition. You seem to think C is the right choice. Antyrhing you think is right Probably is.
All of the UC and CSU rejections have helped to narrow the list for my D pretty quickly. After a discussion this weekend, it’s down to CSULB or ASU/Barrett. We are heading to Long Beach next week for a tour and that should help make things clear. My H and I are strongly in favor of ASU, where we think she’ll get a great education at WP Carey with all of the guidance and perks that Barrett provides. CSULB is a good school too, but I’m worried that the support system there will be spread too thin. Plus, the housing there worries me - lack of it and the videos I’ve seen that include shots of the bathroom showers make me shudder. I’ll have to pay a deposit for housing soon, and won’t find out until after May 1st if she’ll have a room there or is waitlisted.
Her reasoning for wanting to go to CSULB? It’s in California and she wants to stay here. Plus she’s not really into the party scene or sports and doesn’t mind that it’s considered a commuter campus. She’s also worried that she won’t be able to keep up with the workload at Barrett. We’ve explained that companies from all over will recruit at ASU and she can come back after a getting a great education in a great environment (Barrett). Not really sure at this point how to guide without pushing. In the end it’s her decision, and we’ve made that clear, but still tough to see her leaning in a different direction than I would choose. I guess that’s what happens when they grow up!
So email out that Vandy comes out tomorrow at 6:30 EDT. I must admit I am torn, If DD gets into Vandy 70K price tag. DD number 1 choice and she really wants it.
But if she gets rejected at Vandy she goes to Clemson at about half the price.
@burghdad - if your DD gets into Vandy we can meet and share something on the McDonald’s $1 menu :)) :((
@glido Congratulations! I’m very excited for all of you!
Ok, wow, DD received this offer from HPU today…she has declined their offer of admission, multiple times. Clearly thete is a communication issue somewhere, lol! I can’t help but feel that it smacks of desperation, but I have always been suspicious of HPU, if I were being fair I would say this is a fantastic offer for someone on the fence.
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@burghdad I hope your daughter gets what she wants, but for your wallet’s sake, I hope she is tigertown bound.
(But, if y’all decline Clemson could you maybe ask them to take my DD off the waitlist in place of your DD?)
401 k loans are great because it’s your money and easy to get. They are tightly regulated as to amount and frequency though. It’s limits the amount to $50 k and employers can put further limits on it.
@glido Wow! That’s great!
I haven’t posted on this thread lately–too stressed at first thinking that DS might not get in anywhere, and now that he has acceptances, still stressing out over the decisions and financials. But now it seems the best place to do a “hug your kids tight” post 
We found out earlier that a classmate of DS died. I never met him, they weren’t close friends, but DS was in Foreign Language class (a small group) with him all through HS. It looks like natural causes, the school webpage says “apparent heart attack”, and he seemed like a happy, smiling, laid-back kid. There was a newspaper report saying that he’d been going to the gym lately and dieting (he was 6’2" and over 300 lbs in DS’s estimate) and no suicide note was mentioned. It did say that he’d been accepted to his 1st choice college and was looking forward to attending.
DS says that he feels really bad for the family, the father died 10 months ago. For me it’s bringing back sad memories of a few years ago when DD15 was a junior and a friend who was a senior committed suicide. It was the saddest wake and funeral I ever attended, the parents were distraught. I told DS that we’d go to the wake together and are waiting to hear the arrangements. :((
@crepes Your story places perspective on the reason we are here. From my years of lurking and now posting on CC, I have learned that parents are on CC because they want the best for their kids. I’ve shared in your joys, frustration, disappointment, and laughter. With this story, I’ll also share in sadness. My heart goes out to the boy’s mother and his family. I’ll be keeping them all in my prayers.
@crepes our sympathies to your son and his classmates… My husband teaches at your son’s school, and they’re in for a rough day. I teach at the other school run by the same order, and I know some of my seniors are walking into today’s exam totally devastated. (Our seniors do take Tri 2 exams.) Both the kids from his neighborhood and the other “train kids” are going to be a mess.
And I can’t get his poor mom off my mind. I can’t imagine how she’ll get past this… she’ll never get “over” it. I’m not sure whether there are any siblings or not.
My husband knew him casually, through cafeteria duty. And he agrees-- the young man was happy and chipper, this looks like natural causes.
It’s absolutely the roughest part of teaching-- going to funerals for kids. And absolutely a “hug your kids” moment.
Again-- my sympathies to your son. Funeral arrangements will be posted on the school’s website when they’re available.
@MinnieFan a little late but definitely C. You dont want to stress her out any more than necessary. We had a similar decision whether to go directly from one accepted student day to the next. We decided to go home. Theres always the rest of april.
I would go with C, too, MinnieFan.
S18 is demonstrating a real fear of commitment. He keeps wavering between his top two - seriously we are down to him comparing which intramural sports they offer (he really wants to try intramural battleship!).
Unfortunately, the big admitted students day for both is the same day. We will go for one and plan to visit the other later that week. We have already been to both but I am hoping that one of those days leads to an “AHA” moment.
@crepes, I’m sending thoughts to your whole community. That’s very tough.
My DD18 get an acceptance yesterday from the school she was deferred at ED1. She was thrilled and excited. However, she had settled happily on her second choice and is now in the (fortunate) position of having to rethink her decisions. She just knew that the first choice was such a long shot. It will be interesting to see where her journey leads her.
I tried to schedule a campus visit at DD’s choice, more for me than her, lol. We have never taken an “official” campus tour, but every day we are available to go in April is already full! I guess I can just wait until June when she has her new student conference, it’s not like she is suddenly going to change her mind and pick a different school at this point.
@Momma2018 We are down to four options. Thank goodness we are not the only ones parcing hairs of intramural offerings and dining hall preferences. Mom and Dad are eager to pay deposit at any of the four, but suspect daughter will wait until 11:59 on April 30th.
@Momma2018 Lucky that you are down to the final 2. We are waiting on 3 more (super high reaches) but of those he has been accepted to, he seems really interested in 6! Four have admitted students day on 4/14. Crazy!