I can really only speak to our house, but ED doesn’t seem any more stressful than any other aspect of the process. Nobody here is flailing around checking portals for minute differences, or feeling like their lives or futures hinge on the answer. It’s just a chance at having one answer sooner, with an understanding that there are numerous other possibilities if this doesn’t work out.
Deferral = move right along, to us. So there won’t be any handwringing about that. There will either be some disappointment (probably a lot at first, despite all best efforts to keep perspective about the numbers, etc.), or some celebrating, and either way everybody keeps moving forward. It’s not the only thing going on in anybody’s life.
And I don’t mean to sound as if we are some kind of Special People Who Do It Right. My point is more that the kids and parents posting so anxiously, and feeling as if the whole wide world is at stake, maybe don’t represent a very broad part of even the CC population.
Congrats to everyone as the acceptances roll in!!!
Any advice from parents who have btdt for those kids who don’t get in? So far we have one acceptance and no deferrals or rejections. But wondering as a parent is there anything you recommend to take the sting out a little? Or do you just offer and ear and sympathy and refocus on the yes’s?
Maybe I don’t understand this EA/ED process, but why the schools don’t state clearly when they will release their decision date (and preferably time)?!
To me, 90% of the posts now are kids/parents’ anxiety about the date/time the results coming out. Why not just let people know exactly when so at least there would be one fewer uncertainty among the (seemingly) limitless ones.
From what I have seen looking over past years, it isn’t always one day/time for a lot of schools. It’s “by x date” but the answers roll out over the course of a week or more. I think giving an exact date/time sets up for a lot of disgruntled students and parents if something glitches
@mtemmd, scroll back to #8188 for some good thoughts about coping with disappointing results.
@makemesmart, yes, lots of posters seem to focus their anxieties on the uncertainty around some release dates. A majority of the ED schools will confirm specifics about a week beforehand. Others have already confirmed. Some people just find waiting harder than others, or maybe they just like coming to a place where they know they’ll find others to hand-wring with, or they enjoy trying to read the tea-leaves or build a theory based on other years’ timing.
Is it better or worse than waiting for paper letters? I found that kind of fun, with my older two.
@makemesmart , don’t get me wrong I wish it could be! Trust me, I am the mom who sat bolt upright at 2am the night my DS20’s ACT results were due to be released (at exactly 2am). ??
@socaldad2002 We also are in the camp of buying college swag and tucking it away. It worked great with DD17 and so far this time around. It is a great excitement to get the acceptance and then have a sweatshirt or t-shirt right away. We will return if he doesn’t get in.
Waiting is so stressful even when you know the date. Three EA results come out the day before D20 turns 18. I am super anxious about it but I can’t do anything except cross my fingers and hope that no matter what happens she can focus on enjoying her birthday.
@Momofmanytoo - One of my best friends in college - I went to a large public university - also had a twin. They lived in different dorms, purposely rushed 2 different sororities and found their own friends and lives. They ended up enjoying having lunch or dinner together a couple times a week. Anyway, everyone’s different. But I wouldn’t worry about them being at the same school if that’s what they both want. They will find their own way.
My S20 does not have a top school (he applied to 6 EA and 1 RD). I have not bought any clothing for him yet. Waiting for acceptances and a final decision before I go crazy shopping. Hopefully, he will get some decisions next week.
For D20, we’ve bought a T-shirt for each school where she was accepted both academically and for dance. Even if she doesn’t choose to attend a school, she’s still excited she was accepted.
I tried talking my son into getting swag on the visits, but he refused. He didn’t want anything from any school but the one he ended up in and he’s not a big spirit wear type anyhow. They have to wear uniforms at school, so it’s not like the other kids are sporting shirts of potential schools either. Now his little brother? That kid wanted ALL the stuff at every place.
No spirit wear here until a final decision is made. My daughter is scared to jinx acceptances. I did consider potential school colors though when buying some of her clothes for Christmas.
It’s not the only thing going on in anybody’s life.
My point is more that the kids and parents posting so anxiously, and feeling as if the whole wide world is at stake, maybe don’t represent a very broad part of even the CC population.