No! But did land at a T20.
I think my biggest frustration is how much schools talk about childrenās mental health and the desire to make sure they are safe but there is little that I find about this process that fits that.
Set clear expectationsā¦.clear app due date and clear announcement date. Donāt trickle them out unless you really believe it helps the yield. I doubt it.
Iām not asking that every school pick the same date, but pick a date that builds in the time to do the work and then release the information.
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I have to say I am pretty confident things would not have worked out as well for my D if she wrote her top colleges first - and yes she is that kid who did, and easily could, write 30 essays over the holidays - because her essays, though variations of the same themes, became tighter and more thoughtful as she worked out each version. Part of it was that her self awareness also grew, and she became more confident in what she wanted as the fall went on.
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Canāt remember if this was already shared but I have to admit I watch it about once a week and giggle every time.
Favorite lines: āOnly one baby?ā āYeah I noticed that tooā āI mean, heās got two armsā
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As I type, my D24ās notification of the decision to her ED is in her inbox (she texted this info). Itās Wednesday morning here in East Asia. Itās a busy academic week for her with exams and a presentation, so she decided to wait until Friday evening (!!!) after her chem tutor session (!!!) to open her portal with the decision. She loves this school, but is also fine with it not loving her back.
Trying to be thankful that she has this kind of patience and focus, but Mama really wants to know. Husband will be back in country Thursday night. So canāt vent to him, except through text ā which is completely unsatifying. Feel my pain.
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I can open it for you 
Good luck to her.
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THIS is the reply I needed! Thank you! Haā¦
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My sonās ED release date is while heās still at school. I was hoping it would be when he got home for the holidays. I teased he should wait until he was at home. He thought I was crazy. Hopefully, heāll let us do FaceTime with him when opens it. I could also see him not wanting to do it with us and wanting to do it with his boarding school pals.
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Your girl has tremendous self control and patience! She is going to be very successful wherever she goes. Best wishes!
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Iām calm. You calm? Iām calm.
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Very calm! Just having this awful heartburn but Im sure itās not related to stress or anxiety.
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I cannot get over the irrational fear that there is something wrong with S24s application since he did not get into one of his safeties when others have. There has been discussion of them waiting until after the ED deadline for kids with stats like his but this has just hit my anxiety spot exactly right. Ugh
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Was he rejected or just didnāt get a decision yet?
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no decision, just frustrating to wait
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This is indeed one of those situations where probably the last thing my S24 needs is for me to be anxious on his behalf, and yet when I know he wants something he might not get, there are limits to how much I can minimize that anxiety.
Oh well, I was once told by a school counselor it was important to show your kids that you are not perfect. So what a wonderful opportunity this is . . . .
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Look how imperfect I am!!
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D24 has already seen me get embarrassed at the grocery story and run away because D24 had to retype my entries on the credit card pad. I think she knows already. 
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Yes and itās very easy to hide that you are having physical symptoms while maintaining that calm smile
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Are you suggesting I should stop telling S24 the reason I am having a third cocktail is his college application process is slowly killing me anyway?
Hmm, Iāll have to think about that.
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