Congrats on her getting into a good school.
Next September 1 when she steps on campus (or whatever the date), that she’s in the right place is all that matters.
And hopefully she didn’t obsess too much.
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I used to think this. And then I attended a slew of tastings in Scotland hosted by various ‘noses’ (master blenders) and each and every one of them was an enthusiastic fan of drinking it however you enjoy it most. Even super rarified (and here I’m not talking rare single malt, I’m talking literally single, specific, barrel) stuff.
That said, the recommendation was usually “start small” as in a couple drops of water, then taste before going further. Like find the/your sweet spot.
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I tried to make sure that D24 only applied to places she could see herself at, in some version of the future.
She originally had a few on there because prestige, or she thought she “should” apply. Yes, I know everyone applies to UNC Chapel Hill (in-state), but it doesn’t have your major, so…why??
Once she got into the thick of things, the extraneous colleges magically started dropping off her list as she realized she didn’t have the time.
So yes, I think she would be happy at any on her list. But there are also a few that would hurt more than others if she does not get accepted.
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+1
Neat is the only way to go in my humble opinion.
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I try not to overhype any one school because there really isn’t a “perfect” choice but rather many very good options! I think it sets the expectations way too high and things aren’t always perfect once they get there. Many kids struggle that first year and many transfer out - there’s really no way of knowing. I suppose ED only ratchets up these expectations - glad we are not in that boat.
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Replace the Tshirts with NC college hoodies and this is my D24 and her school. 
I had a dilemna somewhat to what you described.
S was averaging an A+ with his 4 APs for the second quarter up until the beginning of last week. He is half way through his second quarter. This has been his best performance for a quarter so far. Then he decided to relax, enjoy time with friends every day after school etc and his grades all dropped to an A (bordering on an A-). I am not humble bragging here even though it may sound like it. The worry is that the grades may slip further if I dont say anything. But of course I expressed my worry to him. He assures me he has it under control but then he always says that.
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Yes, we have told her the current acceptances are great schools for her, and in some aspects better. She understands that, and she will be ok, but certainly takes an extra level of mindfulness to be in that space for anyone. We will either be meditating on that or celebrating in 26 hours
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Our school tries to fight the senior slide by allowing seniors with above a 90 for first and second quarter to be exempt from the class final. They do the same for second semester. I think its a great way to keep kids engaged, but having been through this with S22 the fight to do nothing is real.
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I love seeing the posts on social media (well, it’s D24 who sees them but she lets me know). It was so exciting last year as one of her NC cousins got into several schools over the course of a few months and then made the choice.
I mean, if it’s 20 schools and the posts are non-stop it might be a little much, but people are free to step away for a bit if the college mania is getting to be too much or it’s a bad time (for instance, kid does not get into their ED and they aren’t ready to see a hundred other kids getting in where theirs did not).
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Welp, C24 has received their first rejection (they didn’t pass a prescreen for one of their BFA schools). It was not one of their top schools, so it could have been worse, but it’s still kind of a bummer.
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Can you have your son talk to mine?
My comment about posting on social media was in referenced to the kids. Us adults, should brag about our babies all we want, politely and kindly that is.
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Two years ago, my son got into Michigan EA in January. His 1st semester didn’t end until early February that year. I don’t think that was communicated to any colleges. His mid-year was sent in mid-February or so.
The kids at our high school mostly just change their social media bios when they commit. We are at an average public school, outside of the top 25 or so kids there’s not much college obsession. The high achievers generally know when the acceptances come in through the grapevine though.
If S24 gets into his ED I will be pleasantly surprised and we will low-key celebrate. If he doesn’t get in (the more likely result considering the selectivity) I will remind him that many wonderful students are turned away from said school and not to take it personally (because how can it be - they don’t actually know him).
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I think there are a few appropriate times to post about your young adult children 1. College commitment 2. Ran a marathon 3. Getting engaged.
I do think Facebook has evolved from 15 years ago. Now it seems to be more group-focused, plus 10 people we barely know who post about the minutiae of their daily existence. We all know those people - moms we haven’t spoken to since kindergarten carpool, yet we know who they had dinner with last Thursday.
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I come from a culture that believes in the “evil eye”. While I don’t put much weight to it I am a bit cautious in posting in wider forums. I will post in whatsapp groups with close friends and family. I may perhaps do a weepy post on fb when I drop him off to college.
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I would definitely only post a final college commitment - anything else seems more to be bragging.
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Same here I typically share in the smaller whatsapp groups but not other social media.
This forum has become my go to place for posting about college.
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I did too! My best purchase today was from a local CBD shop that is legend in our house. We don’t partake, but the shop is blocks away from us and has a great name. I got a t-shirt for my husband that has the shop name but in a Dunkin’ Donuts logo format. 
he can wear it around the house if nothing else
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