30% of kids without need got an average of 14K/yr according to CDS information, so we figured it was worth a shot.
None of us expected her to get in (she was already rejected from Georgia Tech and NC State architecture), so we weren’t really anticipating this particular problem. She has friends who did the “HAHA Harvard” application as a reach and they will be in the same boat if they actually get accepted (i.e. full pay, decent sized 529 but parents not willing to do crazy loans, unfunded grad degree possibly needed).
In hindsight, I’m kind of annoyed that this came only a few hours after being offered a Presidential scholarship at another place she could see herself at, and “WOOO Boston is awesome and I could go to Italy right away” was overshadowing that.
She told me last night to not say anything more about it to her, and that she is not going to immediately withdraw in the unlikely event something might come through later. May is still months away, I can give her some time to reflect on the bigger picture.
Yes, I really wonder if the reason she got in was because they wanted to see if we would be willing to pay full freight…they think she could be successful, but not high stat enough to throw a little money at.
LOL, tsnba44!–for “were eliminated with no emotion.” We’ll eliminate them alright, but we’re not strong enough to say that “no emotion” will be felt. We’re an overly sensitive family!
By the way, everybody, about the P vs J Myers-Briggs category. I’m a J–but I’m an INTJ. So my urge to judge is balanced by my supervillain tendency to say, “What can I plan for next? Let me make a complicated series of alternative plans just for fun! I’m not going to decide on one plan yet because I have ten!” I know there are other parents like me on the forum because people have talked about how hard it is to give up the idea of schools. No, not my awesome plans!
It was definitely worth a shot, and tbh, that she got in is amazing and an accomplishment. I’m sorry the NEU news overshadowed the legit good news she got earlier in the day.
If it helps at all, my kid got rejected from their first choice school and deferred from their third choice school on the same day (in December). Within a few weeks, the disappointment was firmly in the rearview and C24 is currently falling in love with a school that gave them a nice discount. They still have lots of schools to hear from, but it makes me happy to see them focusing on what they have, rather than what they don’t.
Where else is she accepted? I am an architect, and I help students apply to Arch Programs. It’s a tricky process because there are so many different paths and schools really have their own “personalities” and ethos.
I just went back to look through previous posts. It is really confusing to choose an Arch program because the professional degree you need to work as an architect is a 2-2-2, a 5, a 4-2, or a 4 w/ 3+, insanity! I see she has applied to VA Tech, which is an excellent program! And it’s one of the few 5-year programs. If you have questions while your daughter is trying to make a decision, I am lappy to help.
Please, please, please don’t get me started on the whole so smart and yet so clueless conversation because none of my kids will come out looking particularly good, and I am trying to maintain the illusion that they are brilliant. How is this one: “if your younger (by 8 years) sister can figure out that grocery item needs to go into the refrigerator in order to stay fresh then maybe you can figure it out too or at least you could bother to read the label on the package rather than letting another item sit on the counter for hours and put us all at risk for food poisoning.”
So my son just got an acknowledgement postcard from William & Mary thanking him for applying but on the bottom there was a handwritten note saying “what a fantastic application you submitted.” Is this common? I’m assuming it is a positive sign but given how things are going I don’t want to read too much into it if it is standard practice.
What makes me laugh about D24 is she managed to survive a 10-day school trip in ANOTHER COUNTRY at the beginning of last summer…managed to not lose her passport, not get pick-pocketed, maintained good street smarts, was able to order food & converse with people in another language no problem.
BUT…
pours the ramen remainders into the bathroom sink
still cannot manage to put the empty toilet paper roll into a trash can in her & her sister’s bathroom. I’ve even put them in her lunchbox in the past in order to make a point.
cannot manage to put clean clothes away nor is she OR her sister able to put dirty socks into their laundry baskets.
last spring when interviewing for a part-time job at Panda Express, didn’t understand why she didn’t get offered the job. She was asked what her goals were and she said, “Just to have fun during senior year.”
…on that last one, though, I suppose there’s hope because by the time it came around to doing college interviews, she had her act together and sounded pretty intelligent. And she sounded pretty ‘with it’, poised, polite, and sounded like she had her act together when she was talking with the music professor at Centre College earlier this week.
Thank you to all of the above. Makes me feel better. Also nice to know we’re not alone in the laundry basket being a container primarily for clean laundry.
S24 once confessed that it wasn’t that long ago that he learned the laundry doesn’t get from the washer to the dryer by itself.
