Our S24 basically admitted he misses the dynamic of us nagging and him complaining and that is how stuff actually gets done. But yes, we need to transition out of that mode whether he likes it or not.
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Good to know, no memory of that on any tours, not even where he landed. Agree with sentiment, doesnât have to be lesser. Hope itâs where he lands.
Never finished the series way back when, but I remember all the inmates wanted to become Kosher on Orange Is the New Black series for that very reason.
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Well-timed convo, survey came out today, Wednesday is email day for actionable items. Only choices were same-sex, sub-free or quiet so couldnât choose both.
He did it and told me after, chose sub-free and then put in his sleep hours within that choice. Said he did his research and this was his best option and it should be very social the way he prefers it.
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A fair question @Rivet2000 so Iâll answer â
experiences are totally reasonable to share. We get that no place is for everyone.
But this part is so clearly unkind (not to mention ill-informed) that it surprises me that a 17 year old would say it in the first place. But hey â teens are learning and growing and they donât know what they donât know. But then to have it typed it out and shared in a group where people from NYC are here seems extra surprising:
âIt stinks literally everywhere. All of my clothes smell like smoke. It smells everywhere like rotting garbage, pee, and sometimes poo. Like, it smells worse than the dairy farm on _street_sort_of_near_us.â
I am choosing to believe that it was shared in an attempt to be funny, but this is the sort of thing that when our kids text us, we sort of go âyikesâ internally; versus sharing with the very people the kid has condescended to.
So experiences â yes! And yes agree â saying Arizona is crazy hot is totally OK! (I grew up in Arizona, so I feel that comment too!). But this is not that.
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My two cents is as this is the Parents thread, we should be able to agree kids, not least our own, can be lovable idiots at times. Always lovable, but still idiots.
And I for one am more than happy to hear stories about OTHER kids being lovable idiots, because then it is not just mine.
But yes, we should not then as wiser, more experienced, more temperate adults (stop laughing in the back, please) add our seal of approval to their idiocy.
We should instead make fun of our kids behind their backs, as I believe is the true spirit of this thread.
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I can 100% endorse this position. 
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As a lifelong Noo Yawkah, I appreciated your original post. I also understand why @sbinazâs daughter was turned off by NYC. I call this âstinky season.â Many of us also refer to it as âtwice-a-day-shower-season.â I would never recommend visiting NYC between Memorial Day and Labor Day because of the weather (even if youâre a hot weather person). Summer is the only time of year that I miss the suburbs of my childhood.
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Just wanted to gloat that D24 got into one of the two best dorms (wonât tell you which one) in the UGA room selection madhouse! Not only that, but she is set up to be the Lady Whistledown of the dorm (disclaimer: I donât officially admit to watching Bridgerton). She is on the second floor, right above the courtyard where everyone must enter and exit! Let the blackmailing begin.
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Yeah, all of D24âs clothes had this weird odor when she got home. And it wasnât a BO smell. The stink was pretty bad.
My dearest readers, it seems that the Second Lady Snowballâs daughter of the twenty-fourth year faces daunting expectations as she enters the prestigious halls of the University of Georgia. Will she dazzle when weaving amusing tales of scandal and misfortune, or might she neglect to correspond quite as fervently as her dear mother may command?
(Bridgerton? Never heard of it.)
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S24 considered substance-free housing but ultimately decided against it. He is also social but not a partier, and does not particularly enjoy being around drunk people. But his current friend group is more enthusiastic about partying than he is. I think he figured that given that he gets along well with them, he would rather stick with what he knows. He was a little worried that substance-free housing would attract kids who are not interested in socializing.
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NYC - Brought D27 there for the first time when she was 9 to see Hamilton and she loved it, and I had a blast as well. Didnât even think about the smells and people. Itâs the city and expected (maybe because weâre from NE?). Also 20 minute walk in NYC is pretty standard, I would think. Went to AZ last yearâŠpreferred Sedona to Phoenix and Flagstaff.
AnywhoâŠS24 has had prom, finals, graduation, parties and end of the year sports banquet. Itâs over. Next up is orientation. He has met a few guys online and they coordinated to got to the same orientation and will try to room together, although not sure who is going to room with who yet.
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When we took D23 on her college visits in California, a lot of people on CC PMâd me about our plans in San FranciscoâŠwarning us off of staying in Oakland, worried we would think San Fran was super sketchy.
We did stay in Oakland and took public transport into San Francisco - had a fantastic time! We even took/sent pictures of how clean the subway stations were in Oakland admiringly! Iâve lived in both NYC and Chicago; San Francisco was wonderful. We love cities and accept the whole of a city.
Frame of reference has a ton to do with how we all experience a new place. Almost all US public transportation shows badly when compared to Europe and Asia. And yet, because I grew up here, I just accepted our system as fine. Until I knew what really good public transportation could be.
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As a native NYer (whoâs been gone now 20 years) I never mind peopleâs disparaging remarks - I figure they just donât get it. There is truly no place like NY and while I rarely go back now I still feel alive there in a way that I donât anywhere else. I will say though that since legalization there is a lot of weed being smoked on the street and I donât love that - but given some of the stuff I lived through over the decades Iâm pretty sure if I still lived there Iâd get used to that too. But anyone who considers a 20-minute walk a hurdle is definitely not NY material - and thatâs ok. One reason I finally left NY was it had gotten just too dang hot in the summers. So clearly I would consider parts of AZ hell on earth. And thatâs ok too. We donât all have to like the same things.
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wonder where she went? I would be questioning the movements of your kid! I go into NYC every day and have lived there for YEARS, but I dont stink⊠When I went to Arizona though, PEW!! The sweat and the heat (just kidding of course)
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I need to mention again âThe Leighton Showâ Insta page. Provides me much comic relief when dealing with a son that apparently knows everything that there is to know in this world. Iâm blessed to have such an enlightened soul in my home.
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I see nothing wrong with anyone providing their experience. Itâs what they lived. Not sure why anyone is insulted.
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Mine was concerned with same thing, but from what he could dig up the sub-free was more social than quiet option. Iâm sure the make-up changes year to year and school to school so no guarantees, but I guess either way heâd rather err on that side. Fingers crossed I guess.
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Question for those of you more experienced than us about 529s. For S21 we have had the school paid directly, once in the fall and once in the spring. For S24 the school offers a payment plan which we would like to use but it requires automatic withdrawals which is not possible from a 529. Can I take the amount for the semester and put it in my high yield savings account to do the monthly withdrawals from the school? What do you have to provide to the 529 administrators take the money out of the 529 and paid to you?
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