Thank you for your input. It’s so helpful.
My son is applying as an English major so it’s a little easier as most schools will have good English departments, some better than others of course.
I’m trying to get him to engage more with social media, it’s not really been his thing, but it’s going to be helpful for him as he moves forward for sure. I’ll pass along your tips! 
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He has such a wide range of schools that he’s applied/applying to. From 1400-35000 students, across multiple states, in cities to small towns. If you looked at his list you’d never know what the thread was 
. I do think all the schools are good and he would be happy to go to any of them, so that is helpful.
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Same! Best of luck!
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My best friend attended Rosemont when it was all girls…now it is not. I’m wondering if this would be an option?
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Thank you!! I’ll nudge my kid to start digging around on IG once acceptances start coming in. It could be really helpful . I’m not even sure he uses IG but I think he’ll have to start.
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I know. I don’t think they realize how it comes across to trans kids. They are trying to be inclusive but it kind of backfires.
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Large v small school. My c26 sounds very very similar. They went from a small elementary school to a bigger middle school to an even bigger high school, and far from getting lost found it easier and easier to find their tribe as the schools got bigger. Will likely end up at a large public too and I think they’ll be fine. These kids tend to gravitate towards the same things (music and art regardless what they’re actually studying) and find each other. D19 was at a large private but found her tribe too. I think one thing that’s really important though is to get them to embrace all the activities etc that the dorms set up. It’s usually a good start to meeting people.
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I thought Bryn Mawr’s policy was only to allow trans men if they identify as men while they are at Bryn Mawr (rather than prior to being admitted), in which case they are able to finish out the degree there if they want, which seems…reasonable? Or am I not up to date on their policy?
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I showed my husband the requirements for the sports related scholarship (that requires three letters of recommendation and participation in the national tournament in August 2025), and he agreed that it was not a good use of time. We’ll focus on the work through his employer (which is a renewable $4K a year for 4 years) and probably ignore the others. I think a part-time job would be a better way to earn college money and am trying to talk my bored kid into applying for some.
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That might be the case. We did not look at Bryn Mawr. Mt Holyoke allows trans men to apply. They are the most accepting of the women’s colleges from what I gather.
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Only sorta.
My C23 was all about a big college. I still remember when Occidental (which has a great program in the kid’s field!) sent an email with a video that started with something like “At Oxy, you’re always a name, never just a number” and she noped out right there, mid-pitch. Being able to be “just a number” was important to her.
My C17, on the other hand, was clearly a small liberal arts college kid from early on, and for all that the University of Alabama tried to pitch its Blount Scholars program as a SLAC within a large university, it didn’t click. For C17, a large university was a smothering concept, no matter what you might do to make your part of it feel smaller and more cohesive.
(And I think they were both right.)
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This my understanding for Wellesley
I think concentrating on the work scholarship is smart. I wish D25 had that option. She only applied to 1 outside scholarship, and I doubt she’ll get it. Her essay wasn’t that great, but her teachers really wanted her to do it.
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We loved Mt. Holyoke, but the women only but the inclusive of all except men turned by non-binary child away…“how is that inclusive?” was the comment.
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S25 just got his UTK acceptance. Received the Volunteer Scholarship, which is $9000 a year. I know it’s not his first choice, but I’m excited for him. A lot of his friends will probably end up there, so maybe he will change his mind.
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Y’all.
D25 just got into her top choice (UBC), a week after submitting the application.
We are shook. Cheers, cheers, cheers. I am OVER THE MOON.
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deleting because I’m being a little whiny 
. Just needed to vent
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I missed the pre-deletion post, but want to encourage you–this is a safe and good place to vent. I’m all ears!
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My ADHD kid is at UMASS Amherst. He’s fairly outgoing, but I was still sure he would get lost as such a big school. I was very wrong. He joined a residence academic program for his major which qualified as his first year seminar. He’s developed relationships with professors and found some activities he really likes. He has not had to access any resources yet, but there are a TON. There is also an excellent Parent Page (you join after your kid is accepted) that is positive and constructive. The environment is quite liberal and access to the Five College Consortium is a real benefit. Highly recommend. My younger introverted kid is looking at smaller schools and especially at the northeastern small liberal arts colleges, but we are finding that fewer students = a higher percentage of athletes (and wealthy kids). Big R1 state school like UMASS-Amherst means way more people and a greater chance of finding your people. Good luck!
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To be fair Mt Holyoke is a women’s college. So, not admitting men would be expected. The very nature of a women’s college means they exclude a certain part of society. I do believe that Mt Holyoke is trying their best to be as inclusive as possible in the current environment but in the process they are unintentionally ‘messing up’. I have a hunch that they will be the next HWC to become coed.
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