Yes, maybe the house should the next project, although my husband likes us living in what looks like a condemned frat house. I think I will just go back to my regularly scheduled programming of obsessively planning vacations. Or maybe I should finally get in better shape!
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This is my last kid and my husband made a comment the other day about me finding some new obsessive project. We’ve talked about moving so that might keep me busy for a year!
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I too am obsessing. Checking his email multiple times per hour, checking each portal multiple times per day. And I have a full time job, lol. This is also my only child. I imagine I’ll start planning retirement and a move to a warmer climate once I know how much his education will cost. It’s all so up in the air! No move before he graduates - which gives me years to declutter.
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literally LOL We have a few “adult” looking rooms (kitchen, bathrooms, office) but rest are chaos
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Yesterday I was looking at doctoral programs. It’s something I wish I had done a long time ago. I just don’t know that I have the energy or desire this late in my career. I’m not sure that four years or more (and the expense) would be worth it.
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I did a mid-career master’s a few years ago (while working). I am glad I did it, but was tiring..It felt good to learn new things and meet a fun new cohort of people (was a small program and we all were in it together..)
A PhD is a whole other level of dedication though..I apploud those who take it on
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The last three days, DS has come home sharing acceptances amongst his peers. His email and admission portals have been crickets. Hoping for some news soon!
My D28 will be choosing her sophomore year classes soon. Trying not to get caught up in the madness of HS rigor and procuring an image/emphasis with her course selection!
If C25 is deferred they will just apply everywhere else RD. If they are rejected, I’m not sure where they will ED2 to. There are two good options but we haven’t visited one.
I’m so obsessive. Yesterday I went through Naviance seeing how many people from their high school applied to a bunch of different schools. I don’t have access to their email or portal so I can’t stalk those.
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I have a Ph.D. but went straight through. The question would be the motivation to get one. Are you looking for a career change? Do you want to learn to conduct original research? And sadly, if you were to conduct research, would you get hired so late (presumably) in your career? Maybe! If you truly have a highly specialized passion and a research interest you need the skills to pursue, you may enjoy it! People say education is wasted on the young. I’m not so sure I agree, but get the point.
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I’m trying to convince Mr Groundhog that we need a third dog when C25 leaves. 
I want to obsess over S22’s PhD programs but I don’t understand any of the math terms so I’m useless.
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I asked S25 about this at dinner last night, and aside from the two D1 athletic commits he knows of, he only knows of one other kid who has heard already, and that student is a QB applicant who was matched.
I will get to obsess over kiddos 2 and 3 still. They are so, so different than S25 though!
In the interim, I am looking forward to decluttering my home. Or at least parts of my home, since my husband is not exactly a leader in minimalist living.
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I’ve been a higher ed administrator for 25 years. I’ve managed to rise in my career (and start over a few times), but the lack of a doctorate has made certain positions out of reach for me. But at 50 I’m not sure that I have the patience to go back to school. I like what I do, and I don’t know that a doctorate will really pay off this late in my career. I just wish I had done it sooner.
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Well an EdD would be much simpler than a PhD and more directly related. But at this point, you could probably TEACH the EdD classes. I say just travel more! Ha ha.
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This makes me glad I don’t have access to my kids portals, although I would have liked to. He doesn’t want me to have access to any of his info, which is good, I think? I hope! I ask him every few days if he’s been checking his portals, b/c he would likely forget to. That’s about as much as I can do.
I’m trying to step back slowly from doing any ‘management’ in his life, to give him more control and the risk of failure is scary but necessary.
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I would definitely go the EdD route, but I’m not sure I could sit through another “Higher Ed Finance” or “Higher Ed Law” course. I think the travel is probably the better way to go!
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I could have written this. Well, not as well as you did, but the same sentiment!
D25 has asked us if we want to be with her when she submits her applications, but otherwise she has not shared anything with us about her application process. No passwords, no portals, no essays to review / read, nothing. We have had the privilege of paying for the applications though. I guess that is something?
But, giving her space to own this process I think has been ok so far (biggest test of this will be this coming Friday and then about 2 weeks later). She has some admissions so far that she would go to, but I am living your last sentence at the moment and it is SCARY but necessary.
Good luck to your kiddo.
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SO annoying. I very very much value education, but firm lines in sand like this are silly IMO.
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I would be obsessively checking too, but my daughter didn’t give me the passwords. She created a gmail account just for college emails, but doesn’t always check it. Everyday when she gets home, “Did you check portals today? Don’t forget to check your email.” She’s sick of me.
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This school doesn’t use Naviance/Scoir. I’m not sure if there is a way to access that kind of data for our high school.
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Do you want to plan my vacation? We’re going to Greece in the spring (S22 will be doing a term long project in Thessaloniki and the rest of us are taking Spring break to visit). I was excited to plan but have run out of steam.
Seriously though, I don’t know what I’ll do after this. I’m that person that always needs a big thing to think about and focus on and plan. The house is what it is and isn’t going to change. I * just * got a new job so that (hopefully) isn’t going to change anytime soon.
So then what?
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