Also procrastinating here. Which seems easy to do since this January had about 100 days in it.
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My son has been dating his girlfriend for two years. We’re not a fan of her. She’s really made an effort to convince our son that we’re terrible (I mean I can’t believe your parents ask you to tell them where you’re going! How unreasonable and crazy!) and it’s driven a wedge between us. About a year ago, we all just agreed to disagree on “M.”
Thank the Lord, he seems to not be considering her at all in his college decisions. She’s staying local and the closest he’s applied is still on the other side of the state, 5 hours away. I am concerned though about the phone calls when she’s miserable and stuck living at home and he’s shy and having trouble adjusting to college. Hopefully, that won’t be the case.
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I just reminded my employee that today was Tuesday - he didn’t believe me.
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My oldest likes to date girls for 2 years and then move on. I’m like son you’ve got to learn to cut bait sooner!
His HS/early college GF I loved and was devastated when they broke up. Like I LOVED her. This last one I was like whatever you think is best. I think I learned after the first one not to get too attached. I’m still insta friends with the first one! I still miss her! lol.
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But I also learned even if you don’t like them or something about them, you can’t vocalize it, it’s hard. Just pray nightly he gets to college, meets a nice gal there and moves on.
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Oh yeah I know. We’ve actually never said a thing against her, just refused to bend our rules to meet her family’s lack of rules. But S25 uses her as defense for everything “Well, M says…” and I have gotten to the point where I’ve said “I really don’t care what M says.” It’s been a rough road and I’m hoping he meets a nice girl in college. Or no girl would be ok for a while too!
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Ah yes, we’ve had those conversations, the “everyone elses mothers let them do…” The big meltdown here was when we’d take her on vacation and he’d get angry they couuldn’t share a bed because her parents let them and I’m like well goody for them, you live here, with us, with your younger brother in the darn room.
Be grateful I don’t make her share a bed with me like my MIL made me do when we travelled!! I’m still haunted. Imagine sharing not just a room but a BED with your boyfriends mom shudders
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You applied to 30+ schools I’m thinking? It’s so hard—I can’t imagine the stress you’re going through keeping track of it all. Sending good vibes for RD for your son! It will all be worth it in the end 
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Meanwhile, my older son goes to a STEM school that has a definite male/female imbalance. He’d like to be dating, but it’s junior year and so far nothing.
Before Christmas there was one week when he hadn’t called me one Sunday night (he almost always does) so I was going to call him, but figured I’d check find my phone first - if he wasn’t in his dorm area I didn’t want to bother him.
Much to my surprise, find my phone said he was at Welelsley… a women’s college. So I MOST DEFINITELY did NOT call! 
Later he told me that he went with a friend of his who was visiting his girlfriend, to meet a girl that “he’d been talking to a bit”. I never heard anything about her again, so I’m guessing the in person wasn’t great for at least one of them.
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The first choice updates are nearly whiplash inducing over here. But it’s fine! They are 18 – heck, I can’t even make up my mind on dinner plans…
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S25 has his first girlfriend. This was a kid who had never held a girl’s hand until 3 months ago, and now we’re talking about safe sex and consent and both the physical and emotional risks around sex. I am so not ready for this. I really appreciate that he’s willing to talk to me about these things, but inside I’m panicking. Girlfriend got into Rose, but she is likely off to another school in the fall. Honestly, it’s a bit of a relief.
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Totally agree - I am always surprised by kids who are laser focused.
My kid had never called ANYTHING a first choice, which was actually the surprise (and relief)
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New panic for D25. She was contacted by an admissions office that needs her grade report tomorrow! But the school was already closed when she received it and tomorrow is school holiday. I’m praying her counselor looks at emails outside of school hours, but I’m not hopeful. This district gives very little attention to college prep. There’s been a revolving door of counselors and no one ever gave her any advice. No conversation at all about where to apply/not apply or strategies. I hope the college is forgiving and will accept it a day late.
On the other hand, D25 is so annoyed with this college. She’s had a hard time getting in touch with admissions officers and there hasn’t been any personal interaction. She might be over them.
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Our school counselor sent out an email last week explaining that colleges will ask for grade reports now, and that they will not be ready (the semester just ended today and they also have tomorrow off). The counselor said they go through this every single year, and that colleges ask but also know that they won’t arrive until the office has cleared them - it’s a huge school district with many high schools and thousands of kids are affected by this.
If your daughter is applying to a school that isn’t popular at her high school, she could reply to the AO and let them know that the school will send it when it’s ready. If it’s a college that kids apply to every year, I would assume it’s a form letter sent to every single applicant and she can ignore it until her high school is open again on Thursday.
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Thank you for the reassurance. It’s not a popular one. More like an occasional one. She and her friend are applying and are likely the only ones from her grade. I don’t know if anyone applied there last year.
Well, I’ll bet someone from our huge school district is applying, and I can guarantee they won’t have a grade report submitted for at least a week! Definitely don’t fret!
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Our first semester isn’t even over until Friday–so I can’t imagine that tomorrow is a hard and fast deadline.
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It’s great that he’s having this moment while still at home, under your care and guidance. Probably easier for both of you. And you can help soothe any first love heartache if it happens.
My son has had no romantic experience yet and it kinda breaks my heart for him. I think this was one of the reasons he wanted to go to a big school- more fish in the sea 
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I hope that reaching out will help increase his merit scholarship. I was very impressed with the campus and services when my family visited last summer. My daughter ended up changing her mind about wanting to attend in January. She is now considering 2 other universities.
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That sounds a bit harsh to expect it within 24 hours and no prior notice. Can she send an unofficial one from home and have them send the official one later?
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