Parents of the HS Class of 2025 (Part 1)

oh my, just googled that! I had seen an image like that on instagram once and thought people were nuts…I didn’t realize it was a whole trend (!).

for others; https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/28/style/bed-parties-college-acceptance.html

When my kid decides I will let them pick out a sweatshirt and/or hat from campus sore, and I am sure we will have a couple of balloons at graduation (probably both HS and College colors?). However, that is a LOT in those photos!! wow.

I guess you can save a bunch for college graduation party..

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That’s a trend we don’t need!

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I feel the same about promposals. It’s just a dance! So much money spent on these things that don’t have to be things.

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Oh don’t get me started… how about gender reveals?

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Is it really a celebration if you don’t burn down a national forest? I was going to get fireworks in D’s college colors and set them off in the backyard but decided burning my own house down wouldn’t be as much fun. She had to settle for a 10 second video of her ringing the cowbell at admitted student day and a couple shirts from the campus store. :joy:

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Oh my. I had no idea about the bed party. Fingers crossed my S25 doesn’t know about it either.

I think this might be one of those things where I’m glad I have a socially clueless son…

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A really good antidote for the pull toward highly rejective schools might be a Colleges that Change Lives Fair. I took my kid to one and the initial presentation is all about what really matters in a school. I thought it was really helpful. It might be a talk available online.

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Last night I attended a virtual session for admitted students at Clemson in the College of Art, Architecture and Construction. tl/dr version of this is that I don’t recommend spending time on this for folks in the future.

Long version - my son was supposed to attend this, not me. It had a 6:00 start time and I thought he would JUST have gotten home from practice - yesterday was the first day of practice for his spring sport. He wasn’t quite home at 6:00, so I logged in for him then, when he did get home around 6:30, he was exhausted, still needed to stretch and shower, and had a lot of homework ahead of him. So I said I’d attend and take notes. The first 30 minutes was a general overview presentation. It was a lot like the overview we heard when we first visited the school, with a few other facts thrown in that were meant to be interesting but that I didn’t care about (the four most common names amongst this year’s admitted students, the most common birthdate). Specific to the specific sub-college they showed where the buildings with most of those classes are on the map, and they played a short video of the person who runs the materials shop, showing off the equipment and shop. It was nothing exciting, but what bothered me was that the admissions person said something DISTINCTLY DIFFERENT about housing selection from how I understood the process to work. I even asked a clarifying question in the chat, and she repeated her statement. Then we broke into three subgroups, so I was sent to the Construction Management subgroup.

This was a more interesting 30 minute session, as it was run by one of the professors in that group and two current students. There were only three (counting me) prospective students in the group, so they asked us to turn on cameras and introduce ourselves.

BUSTED as I am clearly a mom and not a male 18 yo.

So I introduced myself and explained that my guy wasn’t home from practice yet so I was taking notes. After the intros (interestingly, one of the current students lives in the town next to ours, and we are 8+ hours away, so that was random) they asked if the prospective students had any questions. The two real students weren’t saying anything, so I asked one to get it going - the real students had commented about their internships and jobs, so I asked how they found the recruiting process, if most positions were in SC or more further afield. They noted the wide variety of locations of employers and that led into them, and the professor, talking a good bit about the career fair and employment options etc. The other two prospective students then chimed in with some questions so at least we got it off to a good start. The more the students talked, though, the less it felt like quite what S25 is looking for. I was really bummed that he wasn’t hearing this, because I can’t put my finger on WHAT it was, just that something wasn’t computing for me.

That was only 30 minutes long and then we got sent back to the main zoom room, for a panel of Q&A for the current students. Clearly lots of prospective students had dropped by this point, because there were very few people left on the line who weren’t current students. The pre-written questions were not super useful to me (what is your favorite spot on campus? What is your favorite food on campus? (I did laugh at that, the two people the moderator called on named two different chick-fil-a locations, and nothing campus specific.) Tell me about what clubs you are involved in?) I was looking at this event, and the way it was marketed, as really a deeper dive into the specific college and program he was admitted to, and only that center 30 minute thing spoke to that. I would’ve liked to hear more (or anything) about the course progression, the types of projects you can work on etc and we didn’t get to that in our 30 minute thing. I do not care about chick-fil-a. I’m not kidding when i tell you we got 5 minutes on chick-fil-a and how to evade the parking challenges on Saturday, how to order ahead of time so there’s time to run there between classes etc.

Then a prospective student tried to ask a follow up question about housing (the issue that the admissions officer had confused me on earlier) and the poor student just bungled it, so her mom, who had been hiding off camera (not just me!) jumped in to re-ask the same thing I had hit on earlier. The AO doubled down on her wrong answer, then said “well, I may have misunderstood, let me get back to you.”

Friends, she got it totally wrong. Historically, at Clemson, housing selection time is based in part on when you submitted your application - the original application to attend Clemson, not some admitted student housing application. The AO asserted that it was instead based on when you committed and paid housing deposit (which I know is the more common thing). That’s a BIG thing to get wrong - my kid submitted his application the day after it opened to get a good spot in the housing line, and we can’t commit until after we hear merit $$ which won’t be until the end of this month, so this answer is very relevant for us. Since she “wasn’t sure” the AO said she’d email that parent and student back, but everyone listening deserved to hear the correct answer, not just that person.

Anyhoo, I googled around this morning and the housing portal page pretty clearly says that it’s based on having a roommate group and then application date. Which, good. That’s better. It means he has to find a roommate, which I don’t love. It seems like their system allows for you to do some kind of internet dating matching thing where you load a profile and it tries to match profiles of “likely” roommates, then you connect with them to see if they want to room together. So that is better than where my other boy goes where you just have to find someone on discord, but I wish they just had a random Match Me option, as I think that would work best.

Anyhoo, overall, I was kind of disappointed with the event. Luckily, we’ll be heading down to the in person accepted student day at the end of this month and I think there is a session for each sub college to talk with their admitted students, so hopefully we’ll get a better feel for the program then.

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Yes, that’s right kids, it’s time for @dfbdfb’s occasional update, New Adventures in Swag!!!

First, the normal but still fun: Yesterday C25 got an envelope from Fordham with “Rams stick together!” emblazoned across it. Enclosed was a sheet of stickers. I thought the wordplay was fun, myself.

Next, the less normal: My spouse had seen from the USPS’s informed delivery service that we had a package from the University of Alaska Fairbanks headed our way. It arrived yesterday, an incredibly striking iridescent blue bubble-wrap envelope. Upon opening it, C25 pulled out a card that said “Make some noise!”, and then a box containing a small (about 1×1×2 inch) UAF-branded bluetooth speaker.

C25’s response was to say that the obvious lesson from the gifts and such being sent is that nobody should ever commit to a college before decision day (1 May), or at least shouldn’t pull applications from anywhere before then, because then you’ll miss out on all the extra goodies being thrown your way.

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Wow, that’s some impressive swag! We haven’t gotten anything that exciting yet. For one accepted student event they ask shirt size, so that’s promising. She got a little thing of coffee from one school. I was more impressed than she even though she’s a barista.

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I learned about bed parties when S23 was a senior. They don’t seem to be a huge deal here, and it’s just girls. Girlfriends will arrange a time with another girl’s parents and will come in and decorate her bed while she’s out.

One of my friends was complaining to me that she kept hinting to her daughter that she needed to clean her room (because her fiends were coming to decorate, but she couldn’t divulge the secret) but the daughter wasn’t picking up on the hint and apparently wasn’t going to clean her room.

So glad I have boys and this isn’t a thing for them. It seems like it could get expensive!

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And…score one more for the socially clueless: S25 had no idea what I was talking about when I asked him if he knew what a bed party was :rofl:

BTW, I totally thought the bubble wrap in your story @dfbdfb was sufficient for the “make some noise” comment. Simple mind, simple pleasures.

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There will definitely be no bed parties at our place! At most, I see myself buying a hoodie, and some kind of decor for his grad BBQ. But for his grad “party” we’ll just do like we did for my older son - my mom has a pool, so we’ll invite all the aunts and uncles and cousins and have a backyard BBQ and pool party. I’ll decorate in mostly the colors from his high school and maybe we’ll do something small from whatever college. For D22 I got some kind of table decor, but then ended up not using it. Everything was just totally HS focused.

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Agreed. I think it is way too much pressure. I feel like if this is what is expected for prom, then what do people expect for actual proposals and weddings. I work with people in their 20s and early 30s. The amount of money they have to spend on destination showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties etc seems crazy. I would not have been able to keep up. The expectations just seem to ramp up higher and higher.

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Or homecoming mum!

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oooh that is fun! My kid also got in to Alaska-Fairbanks through niche - did actually consider it as they have some satellite/radar program kid thinks is cool. I wonder if they will get one soon!

We went to an admitted students day this weekend and there was T-shirt (I liked the arm said “class of 2029”) stickers for each of the different schools w/i university and a pen…Nothing unique, but nice quality.

RIT and Champlain both sent fun pop-up paper mascots (hard to describe can see here: RIT on Instagram: "Bing bop boom boom boom bop bam, our Tiger family is growing 🧡 Accepted students are trophied up with pop-up Ritchies saying peekaboo in their mailboxes 🐯 Got your acceptance? Tag us and use #RITBound #college #admissions #collegeadmissions #RIT #GoTigers #rochester #technology #design #arts #tiger") and mascot socks. We joked they both must have gotten the same package deal from a vendor.

They have gotten LOTS of stickers. I liked WPI’s “paper-doll” style stickers where you could “dress” a famous statue on campus too. WPI Illustration — Ryan Livingston

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From further poking around, it apparently was sent to recipients of a specific scholarship (the Nanook Pledge, I think?)—so maybe? That one’s available to both IS and OOS students.

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Kid did get a Nanook Pledge award!

They were seriously considering the school for a bit, but we didn’t realize quite how cold it was consistently in winter - lol. Knew about sun, knew it would be really really cold, but maybe not quite as cold as it is on average :rofl:. Dec/January are ROUGH. Probably should turn them down at this point though! Hadn’t expected them to send more stuff (already got some nice stickers and a luggage tag!).

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for my oldest we had so much UMD gear (both alums and my mom worked there) that we needed to buy nothing lol.

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My S25 is hitting the senioritis trail hard right now, especially in classes he has no interest in (mostly in English). I’m struggling to talk to him about because I totally get it and my senior year I did as little as necessary to graduate. In part I feel it’s his life and decision and he can deal with any fallout and learn from it; but I also feel like I’m losing my mind, all this work to just stop the effort at the finish line? He has had one B+ in high school, I just hate to see his grades “tank” at the end. Tank meaning, getting a B instead of an A.

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