I’d pull the number 1 before it comes out. Focus on the current acceptances. Your child is so fortunate to be able to have applied to so many schools, and has many incredible acceptances w/merit money already-it’s a fantastic accomplishment. Being hit with so many rejections sounds so hard—I’d say you don’t need another one. I told my children from day 1: Don’t have a dream school. You can happy and successful at SO many different schools.
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@Rostov and @DW98 and @tjd0829 , the three of you took the words right off of my keyboard. Got the last several decisions over the last 2 weeks and we had some major excitement over some reach admittances, followed by feeling low after some waitlists. Unfortunately the last was a waitlist and now it’s hard to bring back the sense of excitement over the reaches. Time to process seems to be in order, and having a nice family spring break trip is up next. I’m looking forward to having time to process, forget the yuck, have gratitude for the amazing(!) and focus on how paths unimagined a few weeks ago will most certainly lead to unforeseen joys and successes in the months and years to come. 
@DadBodThor , also right there with you on mourning our carefully planned college budget and the introspection that comes with that decision.
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I’m looking back—your child has AMAZING acceptances! And a FEW full tuitions!! That’s incredible! Hoping they are celebrating—IMHO, pulling tomorrows sends the message that what they have is absolutely incredible, and they don’t need any more. We know many students (who need significant financial aid) who only applied to 6 or 7 schools. Your child is so fortunate 
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Thank you. I realize how very fortunate they are. They just don’t see it yet. Hopefully visiting some of the admitted students days will help them realize. I couldn’t ask them to pull this last decision after they worked so hard on the application.
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Repeated, and repeated more loudly and edited to be more directly phrased, in case those in the back missed it the first time.
Anyone who tells you otherwise is either selling something, or has had something sold to them (though they possibly don’t realize it yet).
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On another note, things are getting so real for us. My son committed to USC (South Carolina not California), we scheduled his orientation and booked the hotel for move-in and he found his roommate! Next up picking a dorm.
I’m not sure how I feel… he’s my baby and I’ll be an empty nester very shortly. 
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That makes complete sense. Saying a prayer for Thursday 
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I can’t decide if this should get the celebration, or heart, or bandaged heart emoji. Because kind of all of them fit.
So many feels.
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No bad karma. It’s better to take out the unknown element should the decision come in it’s a yes and you didn’t go, you’d be wondering more what it’s like and then have to schedule. I have two examples, Clemson we visited on a regular tour date on a turn and burn week end, and didn’t get in. Had Villanova booked after that and then pulled back the visit, thinking about the bad luck karma thing. Guess what, didn’t get into that either. So, overall I say I’m glad I didn’t waste the gas money on going up to Villanova 
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So many, and dealing with a grumpy teen most days. But other days he’s quite a sweetheart with lots of hugs, thank yous and "I love you"s
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I just need to vent about one of D25’s friends. She texted D25 a list of her acceptances, all very impressive. In the list she referred the group of colleges with ~10-30% acceptance rates as her safeties and another phrase I won’t repeat here that basically insulted anyone who goes to those schools. It was one of the most incredibly conceited and elitist things ever, not to mention hurtful to my daughter and the other friends on the message. Her mother has always been an elitist who once referred to her child as “biding her time until she can be with her real friends,” who are apparently not my daughter and the rest of the friend group. Now I see why D25 was so preoccupied with prestige. I am so hurt for my daughter and livid that this person would talk in such a belittling way about other colleges and college choices.
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Gross, so sorry.
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This “friend” is an @sshole. That’s an incredibly obnoxious thing to do. Everyone makes different choices, for different reasons. And not all of the “elite” colleges are the best for a wide variety of reasons for people. It’s a good thing that your D25 will be going somewhere other than where this young lady is attending, or if she isn’t, that at least she’ll have a new and broader group to work with to build a friend group. Friends should be people who build you up and support you, not who lord their specialness over you.
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That is awful! Sounds like maybe she picked up that mindset at home.
On the plus side, your daughter won’t have to deal with her for much longer!
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It seems time for your D and her friends to drop this girl from their group.
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Wow. That is incredibly rude and entitled. 
I’m sorry.
Last fall I had a friend ask about where my son was applying (my kid is freaking awesome, but was not applying to selective schools). I chatted with her about some of the schools he was excited about. Her response seemed fairly genuine in terms of her enthusiasm for my son, but in the next breath, she mentioned that she was taking her son (currently a junior) to look at Georgetown, “which would obviously be a safety for him”. I am sorry. I don’t care how academically inclined you are…Georgetown is a safety for NO ONE. I didn’t know whether to laugh or smack her. It came across as just so out of touch and frankly she sounded like a total @sshole. It clearly still really bothers me.
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Thank you all for the supportive replies. I am not sad they’ll be headed in different directions for college. I just hate seeing my D so down. She’s comparing herself too much to her friends and it’s making her doubt herself. I want her to go to college happy and excited about it.
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Frustrating that her “friend” can dampen your D’s excitement about her college choices. Just do what you can to support her with assurances that she has great options, that you are proud of her accomplishments, excited for her future and, perhaps more importantly that (unlike her “friend”) you appreciate that she is a kind and gracious person.
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Sadly she’ll encounter those people her entire life. She just has to know that they exist and have zero impact on her worth or her future.
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Another thing your daughter should recognize is that this poor girl had no chance with a mother like that. She should actually feel a bit sorry for her.
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