@Rostov Wow that’s ridiculous. Karma will catch up to her, so try not to let it get under your skin too much.
This reminds me of one of my daughter’s “friends” who told her not to go to one of her prospective schools because their band/sports teams aren’t good enough. He attends a Midwest school that is so bad that they recently fired their football coach mid season.
On the empty nest point – When S22 left for school, I just didn’t get the empty nest thing (my sister was also going through it with an only child). Now, with C25 getting ready to leave, I’m suddenly realizing “oh, empty”… But, “on the bright side”, S22 will finish college in 1 year, and isn’t quite sure about having a job right away, so we may get some boomerang time while he figures things out…
That makes her not only sound entitled but wildly ignorant and uneducated on the process lol
Georgetown is definitely not a safety for anyone- and honestly hasn’t been for decades.
What a clueless brat…
As others said this is clearly a sign to ditch this “friend” now that graduation is upon them.
Ugh about friends like that. My DS has two same age cousins and I am thanking my lucky stars that I don’t think there is any overlap between their three lists of colleges. Friends can be hard; family would be even harder, even if no one meant to hurt feelings.
It’s another instance of people who think their lives are complete when they enter the college of their choice. While I’m sure that “friend” has achieved a lot academically and otherwise, it is also obvious she’s “been held back a few grades” in becoming a person of “character”, and perhaps someday, if she’s fortunate, her sage classmates and storied mentors will finally make her aware of that fact. A life well-lived considers not sat scores or the number of names dropped, but rather friends and family and fulfilling acts, the memories of which can be enjoyed together.
Is it bad that I can’t wait for the update when this “friend” gets a major dose of reality next year?!?
I hope the friend group ignored the text: it’s not even worth a response. I do pity the girl who sent the list: If she needs validation from others to see her own worth, she’s headed down a long, lonely, sad road. Happy kids don’t text lists or insult other colleges. I am so proud that my children are kind, inclusive, genuine people—it means so much more than any college acceptance.
So yesterday I spent part of the day planning the crazy Upstate NY=>CT=>MA=>CT roadtrip. S25 came home and said he wants to keep American in the mix, and wants to call financial aid together and try to plead our case again. He is also applying for a very generous scholarship his high school gives to one graduating senior per year and said that if he gets it he 100% wants to go to American. The decision for the scholarship comes out the day we would leave for the road trip, of course.
Oh boy, these kids. As I say to my husband when the kid has ups and downs, we are just riding the roller coaster. Good luck and keep us posted!
Well, if he ends up at American, know that you have an internet buddy in the DC area if you/he ever need anything. 
While I live in VA, I work in DC so I’m in the city every day and am happy to be an extra backstop for anyone who has a student in the city if you need one.
Same goes for anyone else here who may have a kid in DC!
Sweet offer.
In D19’s day there used to be a thread here called something like “in loco parentis”, which was pretty much this - parents in a particular city offering to help if any CCer’s kid needed it while at college there. I’m not sure what happened to it. (Possibly died out during covid when everyone was home?) I think it’s a great idea.
Well, S25 got an admit to Cal State Northridge’s film program. He had completely forgotten that it was still outstanding. While he had it below LMU b/c of it’s size and that it requires a secondary admit to his preferred program in his junior year, it’s another top-20 film program and it means he went 8 for 8 in his applications, which helps his confidence tremendously.
amazing!!! congrats:)
There was an old thread dating back from 2007 that was closed a few years ago. Probably very outdated by now but not a bad idea for a new thread!
I live adjacent to Northwestern so if anyone here has a student heading there and has a problem, send me a PM. I’m happy to help in any way I can.
My daughter’s college had a “townie moms” groups that was super helpful! Everything from recommendations for doctors, dentists, mechanics, hotels, restaurants to helping sick students. There was one mom who volunteered to take a student an hour away to Indy for infusion treatments once/week for a month! I’m sure her school wasn’t unique in having that kind of group.
I had seen this type of group referenced at NC State recently, and so I dug around to find this:
Not sure if my S25 would let me show up in person, but there are other ways to be involved. It sounds like other campuses might have something similar.
(I have to say, it rubs me the wrong way to have it just be listed as “Moms” since I know too many kids whose mothers have passed, and family support comes from so many different places, but I understand the intent – and the general impact – is a good one.)
Sharing a similar invitation for New York City! Happy to help out any kids that end up here.
Happy spring, 2025 parents! I remember well from S23’s senior year how fast the weeks go between now and graduation, and if it weren’t for wanting to get quickly to the admitted students’ day in April that will help D25 make her choice, I’d backpedal us to about October so I could cherish every day with her all over again.
An update now that all her decisions are in:
Auburn - accepted, merit (has declined offer)
Rollins - accepted, merit, honors college
Tennessee [in state] - accepted, merit (has declined offer)
TCU - accepted, merit
Furman - accepted, merit
Wofford - accepted, merit (has declined offer)
Richmond [test optional] - accepted (has declined offer)
Denison - accepted, merit
William & Mary [test optional] - accepted following cypher
She thinks it’s coming down to Dension and Furman. Her plan is to major in biology and double major/minor in theatre. Her brother is at Furman and she knows it well. She wasn’t sure she could see herself there until our spring break trip when she realized she really could. But she felt a special spark when she visited Denison with my husband last summer. If she feels it again during the admitted students’ day, she’s probably off to Ohio in August.
Congrats to everyone on all the acceptances and especially on the decisions! Good luck to those still waiting to hear news and still trying to decide!
When I graduated, I was top 20 in my class–but made the decision to do the community college route and then transfer. My best friend’s mom made multiple comments about this being a terrible decision and why didn’t I go somewhere that showed off how hard I had worked in high school. Needless to say, I graduated with a PSU degree and no debt…her daugher (who is still one of my close friends) went to Drexel and still has $50k in debt…20 years later.
Oh gosh that’s a tricky one. Have they been to visit all the other colleges before? Because they’ve received such great financial packages at those schools I would encourage the trip anyway. They might end up really liking one of those schools more.