Watch the videos from the above link. The guy keeps fiddling with his hair. He appears to be within the broad range of normal, but why a grown man doesn’t want to live on his own is bizarre to me.
It’s also interesting to me that he has lost custody of his son, which he says was “unreasonable.” He is also suing Best Buy for discrimination and is asking for $340,000 in damages, back pay and attorney’s fees. Best Buy allegedly required him to work on Saturdays, which he says was the only day he had visitation rights with his son. (I’m not sure on what grounds that constitutes “discrimination.” Being a divorced parent with visitation rights isn’t a protected class, as far as I know.)
And he never finished any kind of degree program.
He appears he feels like the world is united against him.
I had a problem with the fact that he is staying in and using his parent’s house - but he doesn’t speak to them? Say what??? How dare he? There are some really awful adult kids out there. I’m sure he will further blackmail them on the way out.
It sounds as if the parents may have been denied visitation with their grandchild if he was on the premises, which might explain their decision to act now.
I find the reference to weapons disturbing. And is that a photo of his son holding a weapon at a gun show?
I would be surprised to read that he murders his parents. Terrible situation.
He admits in one of the videos that he took the approximately $1100 his parents offered him to help fund his rent and spent it on other things and didn’t move out. He said it wasn’t enough money to pay a deposit and the first month’s rent. (Apparently, he explained that to his parents AFTER taking and spending it.)
He sued the State of New York in federal court, arguing he had been denied due process in the family court proceeding and his appeal from the custody ruling. The federal court granted his application to proceed as a poor person, but dismissed the case, saying, among other things, that no federal court other than the Supreme Court of the US has the right to review state court decisions.
I don’t think he actually lost custody of his son, as he states. I think he lost visitation. (If he had full time custody, his suit against Best Buy based in part on an argument that he was forced to work on Saturday when he had visitation wouldn’t make sense.) According to one article, he can only see his son in a “therapeutic environment.”
He seems to have tried hard to get as much publicity as possible out of this. I think that almost anyone would be reluctant to give him any sort of job when all this is such public knowledge.
I just heard a CNN interview with the 30-year old son. The interview had me wincing and I nearly turned it off. I think there’s something “mentally off” with him.
The interview was a “train wreck” IMO. At the end of the interview, the son disagreed that he was a millennial and then a minute later agreed that he was a millennial. But the whole thing was about as awkward as you could imagine.
@sushiritto I just found that interview on Youtube and I thought nothing could be worse than the court has press conference. Boy was I wrong! That was painful to watch!
So now he’s saying he’s sending a letter to his parents laywer saying that if they give he 3 more month’s he’ll leave? Didn’t he just lose the case? Shouldn’t he be required to vacate the home in x number of days (not weeks or months)?
I think his parent’s have bent over backwards to help him but he refuses to get a job and to support his own child. I really don’t get why he thinks his parents should support him at 30 when he doesn’t support his own child!
Ya, he wants 3 more months. I think they call that “Chutzpah.”
Also, he called the child custody process that he went through a full time job, so I assume he was saying that he couldn’t do both (child custody process and have a job) at the same time. I know there are lots and lots of parents that go through the child custody process AND have full-time jobs.
I don’t know many of the events prior to the CNN interview, I just happened to be listening to the news at that time. I don’t know if it’s drugs or the son is developmentally-challenged, but once he’s out of the house, there’s a strong probability he will unfortunately become one of the homeless in our society. I don’t know how he’ll be able to get and keep a job, let alone support a child both emotionally and financially. :-??
After watching the CNN video I agree something is seriously amiss. I have no inkling what the issue is but this man at the moment does not apear to be capable of handling the challenges in front of him. He stated he wanted to move out but simply does not have the money to move immediately. So he needs time to find a job and with all this publicity maybe someone will step up will give him a chance.
While I agree he is not a particularly sympathetic character, who allows a twenty something year old to live rent free with no household responsibilities for 8 years? The parents bear some responsibility for allowing this to continue for so long. He lost his job and found a safe haven at home where he was permitted to live free of any responsibility besides his laundry. Now he is 30 and doesn’t appear to have the life skills to live independently. I guess we can fault him for taking advantage of that situation, but it also ocurrs to me that there are other things that could be overwhelming him like the loss of the job and custody of his son.
This man needs help and personally I think it is awful that he is doing the interview circuit. People are just mocking him. Perhaps there is some social service agency that can offer assistance. Wondering if he is eligible for unemployment benefits.
^^^ parents gave him $1,100 for a deposit on an apartment but he spent that on “something else”. The parents offered to pay his health insurance but he declined because he was concerned that he won’t be considered “poor enough” to be exempt from court fees. He lived on his own while attending college and then moved back in after his child was born and after he dropped out of college. He had a job before and lived on his own before so why doesn’t he have the skills to live on his own now?
The parents now want what’s best for their grandson, the child their son refuses to work to support. The only reason they are pushing their son to move out after all this time is that they lost visitation with their grandchild while their deadbeat son is still living with them. This man only thinks of himself not his son, not the mother of his son, not his parents … “entitled” doesn’t is even come close to describing him.
He only lost his job because he was so entitled that he felt that he shouldn’t be required to work on Saturdays like other employees. Instead of suing his employer why not go to court to get a more flexible visitation? Clearly this guy is very familiar with the court system.
The parents have been asking him (in writing) to move out since February, they offered to pay his insurance, they offer to pay to have his car fixed, they gave him deposit money, what more to you want them to do?
At this point in time his parents are doing what they need to do to move on with their own lives. My point really was focusing on what they didn’t do for the last 8 years. He has not lived on his own since he dropped out of college. So he obviously encountered difficulties when he attempted to live independently.
It not about the parent’s lives, it about the guy’s son, the grandparent’s grandson’s life.
He hasn’t attempted to live independtly since college. His parents are doing what they need to do maintain a relationship with their grandson, so should they contine to spend their resorces to support a 30 year old that had a job but quit to avoid court costs or should they evict the son that refuses to suport thier grandson so they can still be a part of their grandson’s life?
The courts order that he could only see his son in a “supervised thereputic setting” and grandparents could not have visitation with their grandson if the son still lived at their house. The courts must have a reason to rule this way and the current judge ruled that adult protective services get involved at this point. The problem is with the son not the parents.
I am sure the court who ruled on visitation saw what was evident in the various interviews we have seen. He needs help and presently requires supervision when visiting with his son. His parents acknowledge he needs therapy and asked him to seek it.
He is being cast as the quintessential “entitled millennial” and while entitlement may be part of it I think there is more at play here. After 8 years of zero responsibility he needs to find a way to support himself and cope with living independently. I don’t think that can happen overnight.
My best advice to all the Rotondos would be to find some way of resolving this matter privately. The publicity does not appear to be helping matters.
I think it’s clear the parents have been trying to resolve the matter privately for many months, and for all we know have been trying for years. It takes both sides to find a resolution, and the son seems to be either too irrational or too belligerent (or both!) for constructive discussions. The parents seem compassionate and generous, and finally driven to extreme measures out of desperation. I imagine that it must be heartbreaking for them to realize that their son is a lost cause, and to focus on the best interests of their grandson instead.
He also says he doesn’t have money to buy packing boxes! Has he never heard of asking a grocery store to save boxes for him??? He should worry about where he’s going to put those boxes first!
@HarvestMoon1 Based on everything I have read and the interviews I have seen, this guy is a classic manipulator. He has been preying, intentionally, on his parents for years. He is at a minimum a narcissist but more likely a sociopath and has demonstrated he is more than capable to live on his own. I have no empathy for him and am concerned for his parents. I don’t understand, with everything that has come out about him, why you would defend him and place blame on his parents. It is very possible that the son’s behavior stems from genetics, not anything his parents did. Read the rest of the thread and the links to the psychology.