<p>Yes, it’s rude, but I think most people are just curious and don’t have mean any harm with the question. I never told ds1’s scores, but I don’t think anyone ever asked.</p>
<p>No one asked until Ds got into some great schools. Then, I responded with, “her scores fell within the admitted student range” for that school.</p>
<p>And I agree that it is a rude question.</p>
<p>CCers know a LOT more about my kids’ scores than do my neighbors and IRL friends. My general response is “he was happy with his scores” or “they are good enough for the schools he wants.” The guys didn’t share their scores much, either. I think people pretty much assumed since they were at the special programs, the scores were at least decent.</p>
<p>If someone were to to come to me with some specific questions about college admissions and/or asking for help, I might be more inclined to disclose, but that would be very much on a case-by-case basis.</p>
<p>Rude, but it’s equally rude IMO to come back with a smart-aleck answer of “oh, it was 49” or “2340 - is that enough for the state flagship”? “He was pleased with his score” or “It’s not my score to reveal” serves the purpose.</p>
<p>As someone who grew up in Europe, I find the fascination with ‘privacy’ very interesting. Back then we thought nothing of posting grades by name, all the way thru college. Likewise, salaries for government employees were public knowledge and nobody thought anything of it.</p>
<p>In the US, sad to say, the ‘privacy’ concern over grades results in the teacher’s ability to play favorites, or the failure to identify a particular teacher’s attitude towards grading. </p>
<p>In real life, people are graded every day, and more often than not, the results are posted. Sure, it may be that Joe Engineer makes $10k more than Bill Engineer, and who cares, but the ultimate indicator is that one of the two survives a layoff, or gets promoted, or buys a new Acura, all of which are quite visible.</p>
<p>If an individual is bothered by disclosing their kid’s score, then one could borrow a few paragraphs from Amy Chua and ‘work harder’. </p>
<p>I can understand privacy concerns over data that could cause problems if leaked (financial info) but grades are a good reminder of where students are and where they’re going…</p>
<p>turbo,</p>
<p>What is your name and how much do you make, and what are your kids’ names and what were their SAT scores?</p>
<p>Close friend looking to size up their D/S’s chances, not rude. Other people, rude.</p>
<p>turbo, sometimes a parent doesn’t want to disclose scores because it would make everyone involved feel uncomfortable. When the neighbors talk at a graduation party about their kids’ scores (in the 1400-1700 range) and where they are headed to college (some the CC, some to directional state schools), it would be unseemly (and rude, IMO) to crow about one’s 2300+ and T-10 acceptances. </p>
<p>BTW, government salaries are publicly available here (at least at the federal level).</p>
<p>Did you take the SATs for college yet?
Yes I did.</p>
<p>Are you happy with your score?
Yes I am.</p>
<p>What is it?
Smile and don’t answer.</p>
<p>Is it higher or lower than you expected?
Just about what I expected. I have to (take a call/get water/go to the bathroom)</p>
<p>Current HS senior here with a practical solution</p>
<p>I have actually caught myself doing it, but normally when talking about Honors program or auto merit. Now I normally just state the numbers for the schools. It seems that everyone knows my DS scores, so the kids at his school talk about it openly. I have been very tempted to ask the score of a student that got into a prized reach school, especially because I wonder how he did it, based on grades and ECs, but I know it is not my business…guess I just want to be rude:)</p>
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<p>Visible to the kinds of losers who keep score of these things, you mean. I don’t pay one bit of attention to whether my neighbors and friends have new Acuras (or insert luxury item of your choice). Good for them, but I don’t mentally add up how they are doing. There are, of course, people who are very attuned to those things, but those people aren’t really worth the time of day. The only money I care to concern myself with is that of my husband and myself.</p>
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<p>It has nothing to do with being embarrassed. It has to do with the fact that it’s no one else’s business. It may well be different in Europe, but here, it’s rather tacky.</p>
<p>many parents ask the score of other students where we live.
ACT and SAT scores are not a barometer of who is smart and who is not. many times students do not realize the importance of the test and make no effort to do well. others have been told that the test are important for certain schools and these students study for the test. many students can move their score 6 to 8 points after several months of study if they are willing to put in the time. most of the students who do well have good study habits. however, even those without good study habits can do well if they crash study and are tutored.</p>
<p>smile,</p>
<p>What are your kids’ scores?</p>
<p>All the other parent has to do is ask her own child - the kids all share their scores. It’s the parents who don’t want to divulge, we are so invested in it. Yes I feel like it would be a rude question though!</p>
<p>When people ask what colleges I am applying to, I come right out and say “I am not telling anyone what schools I am applying to, but everyone will know where I matriculate.” or “I’m only telling people of acceptances, if asked.”</p>
<p>Of course, my close friends know.</p>
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<p>Not quite the same thing - there is ‘public’ and then there is ‘public’. Information disseminated in a student grade list or employee salary list stays local within the context of discussion of a few classmates or coworkers, while information posted on any kind of ‘global’ forum has strange ways to travel around the world.</p>
<p>I don’t believe I’ve ever disclosed my kids’ scores on CC (I do know that prior to getting them, I did do some “hypothetical chancing” and made up what I thought they might be) but there’s a difference between an online forum and real life.</p>
<p>Tacky? perhaps. But I’d be willing to bet that while a CC parent would hide in shame if their kid brings home a 1900 SAT they’d be Tweeting a 2350 all over the known universe. </p>
<p>Without proper context, it’s all numbers. Growing up poor, with ADHD, and disinterested in school work in Europe, surrounded by Amy Chua types, I cherish my 13/20 HS GPA (and the Hail Mary national exam that got me into engineering school there :-)) much more than I cherish my 3.9 at Purdue graduate school…</p>
<p>Posting grades (or salaries) is a heck of an equalizer because the teacher (or boss) can’t hide behind (relative) anonymity when making decisions.</p>
<p>I was surprised when a close friend asked me son’s ACT score. But our kids have been pals since age 2, both math whizzes. I hesitated because I try hard not to boast. But heck, she asked… so I told her. She assumed I told her the best/math score and asked, “so what was his composite?”. She never asked about SATs 
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<p>Of course, scores are meaningless. I have another kids with sky high scores that dropped out of the school where her son ended up. It’s perseverance that really matters.</p>