<p>Sadly, these decisions are very defining. When we first sent children to private school as class sizes started to explode (and NCLB curriculum narrowing was implemented) there were those who non-verbally communicated their judgement. When I recently shared with a friend whose child is a current classmate of my d that my d was leaving for the other coast - without saying why - I got “yes, of course my son is bored and unhappy, all teens are bored and unhappy. It’s the best HS around anyway.” It made me sad. I’m finding out, yet again, who the real friends are.</p>