<p>We don’t get these questions regarding boarding school, but we get them for sending D to a magnet school in the local city. Of course, the presumption isn’t about us being elitist, but about the quality of the school, because it’s in the city, where test scores are significantly lower (even at her school). The opportunities are better, and she will be a better person for spending time with a more diverse group of kids - and maybe her presence will enrich their lives too.</p>
<p>Whenever we make choices for our kids that are “not the norm” we will be questioned. I am convinced it is not really that they think we’re bad parents, just that they must make a preemptive strike to make sure we know THEY are not bad parents for not making the same choice.</p>