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I do not think she is.
Relax people and let us all be who we are.</p>
<p>I don’t understand what is the problem, or why it matters to anyone else. If you don’t like someone else’s posts, don’t read them. Go read some other thread, or go visit some other forum, or, for that matter, turn off the computer and go do some other activity that is more to your liking. It’s very simple. </p>
<p>I agree with Kelowna - leave others alone, let them be who they are.</p>
<p>I also enjoy LBs posts for the most part. I actually think he is more open and honest than many of us about the insecurities common to a lot of parents. And I can tell he loves his daughter and is proud of her. Some people need reassurance more often than others. I know I needed VERY frequent reassurance as my son was going through the college application process. Just because one or two or six people told me things would be fine, it didn’t mean I stopped needing support. That (and information) is what we come to cc for. If LB needs to hear again that his daughter’s SAT and AP scores are good enough, I’m willing to tell him again. But if xiggi gets exasperated by it, he’s welcome to that emotion too, whatever his age. However, xig, I do think collecting is different from stealing and motel soap is different from motel towels.</p>
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<p>I tend to agree with obw that there are many such Ivy-obcessed parents (and kids) and that emotional problems can result from this. I just don’t believe there are many such people on the cc parents forum.</p>
<p>Xiggi has called it like it is. LB is a narcissist-by-proxy, a well-educated affluent professional, reporting every score and life-event of his children (whose every step he apparently wishes to dictate) and implausibly claiming ignorance about the application process. Deference and respect is earned, not required, and LB lost mine along time ago. (I am a parent so its ok?)</p>
<p>Bottom line, I always read Xiggi’s, Calmom’s, and LB’s posts. I enjoy dynamic conversations. I never want them to stop. At some point, I expect Xiggi to post about his plights with his future children.</p>
<p>I also suspect that LB’s D does stand up to her FA, and that is why he comes here to vent. If he had total control at home, his dear D would be at home studying every minute. Its the overly compliant children and the parents without a sense of humor that lead the children into psychological pain.</p>
<p>For some folks, all attention is good attention. I don’t think Xiggi was out of line–he was obviously making a good-hearted joke. He’s been here a lot longer, has generously contributed tons of his time to helping other people, and was doing so here, too.</p>
<p>Drb’s assessment is spot on.</p>
<p>Bethievt-
I totally agree with this
However, the relationship between emotional issues (especially things like eating disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder, etc) and “ivy obession” is, in many cases, correlational, not causal. Certainly situational (reactive) depression can come from disappointments, external pressures and perceived failure, but it is more complex than a 1:1 causal relationship.</p>
<p>You guys…while I understand how some feel about posts others make, I don’t feel too comfortable with discussions ON the forum that discuss one another as POSTERS. I think we should stick to talking about thoughts, opinions, and topics but not what we think of each other as members.</p>
<p>I agree with soozie COMPLETELY. I don’t know why this happens here…but it seems to be a cyclical thing. At some point, some poster gets tired (or bored?) of just discussing the issues and takes the conversation over the line into a personal area. And it doesn’t take much to get the ‘piling on’ effect going.</p>
<p>Fight it people. Don’t be manipulated into attacking each other. (For who knows when YOU may be next… 
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<p>Hey guyz, could any of you help me in procuring college scholarships for international students outside the United States of America?
Thanx!</p>
<p>^^ ??? Rhoda,
You might want to post this question in the scholarships section</p>
<p>Nothin’ “good hearted” about hurting someone’s feelings, IMHO. :(</p>
<p>^^ ???</p>
<p>B–Sometimes though something is written with the most benign of intentions, and obviously riffing off something someone said in a harmless way, a person can choose to read it differently and claim hurt feelings.</p>
<p>This happens surprisingly often.</p>
<p>I appreciate Soozie and ldmom’s request not to get caught up, but I do think it’s not obvious who’s doing the setting up. However, they are right–why am I wasting time on threads that are inevitably going to get to this point?</p>
<p>I’m having to read back for the ‘good-hearted’ stuff. Frankly, not much of that going on here.</p>
<p>BTW…Why is lb being faulted about hotel soap and shampoo? That bit of info was from a really funny, light-hearted thread and is totally out of context here. (And hotels DO expect these products to be consumed by their guests…it’s ‘in’ the bill.) That whole bit about the hotel soap is ridiculous.</p>
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well said, garland. I think, especially of late, many things have been misinterpreted and feelings hurt for no reason. Hopefully things can get turned around and back on track.</p>
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<p>I completely agree. For some, simple disagreement with opinions is taken to be a personal affront. </p>
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<p>It may not be obvious, this is true, but I am not taking sides here. I simply see many people talking about ONE ANOTHER. This makes me uncomfortable. I think posts should discuss one another’s thoughts, opinions, ideas, and topics. I don’t think we should be discussing members themselves ON the forum. Also, personal conflicts should be kept off the forum. This is better to take to private conversation.</p>
<p>I totally agree with Soozie. I have seen this happen on forums before…it is like on-line, people without so much power in their real lives, get off on the power plays, the poking fun at, the general ganging up on certain members.</p>
<p>I disagree vehemently with Laserboy’s overbearing approach with his daughter, but I think the personal attacks on him don’t help matters in the slightest. Keep to the issues, and topics at hand.</p>
<p>I might be confused - but - isn’t it a violation of TOS to excavate and repost historical posts, for the purpose of harrassing another community member?</p>
<p>If not, at a minimum, it’s sort of weird, and makes me uncomfortable as well. I am not sure why it is necessary or desirable to obsessively examine another community member’s entire posting history. And I am not sure why it matters what Laserbrother may or may not have posted in the past, and I certainly am totally lost as to what in the world hotel room soap has to do with anything - and why anyone would waste time worrying over it - gracious, does anyone here imagine that hotel housekeeping staff repackages used soap for the next guest? </p>
<p>Isn’t it summer? Don’t we all have better things to do? Movies to go see, sports to play, vacations to take, family members to enjoy, shopping scheduled? If not, maybe we should all go jump on the passport thread, help those people get their passports. Or help out over on the financial aid board. Or something…anything but obsessing over another parent’s right to post a question…</p>
<p>Two rules from our Terms of Service that need to be reviewed by some posters…</p>
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<p>So, this is a reminder to all. These rules will be enforced. This discussing of other posters will not be tolerated by the Moderator Team on CC. Let me also spell out that under the second rule above, that behavior that disrupts or undermines the forum community includes keeping all personal issues one has with other posters OFF the forum. Even if one doesn’t directly “attack” a poster, discussing other posters or engaging in personal conflicts will not be tolerated on the forum and should be taken elsewhere.</p>
<p>Please stick to the topics at hand and stop discussing members, thank you.</p>