<p>In advance: I get that this “dilemma” may seem ridiculous, but it’s been bothering me. If you’re only here to be sarcastic, move along. First off, I’m a girl. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my HS Prom for some reason, and how it’s going to work out for me. </p>
<p>Let’s just say that I will not have a date. Not a lot of people really go to Prom with dates at my school, most people just go with large groups.</p>
<p>I mainly hang out with three other girls who, let’s just say, are very anti-school event and pretty much everything-event. They hardly ever even go out. Which means I hardly ever hang out with them outside of school. We have a lot of fun when we’re together, and we’re good friends. But for some reason it never seems like they want to chill on the weekends.</p>
<p>My best friend, Jane, is heavily involved in student gov’t so she is on an acquaintance-level with a lot of people. Plus Jane has a friend, Sue who has a lot of friends that Jane kind of knows. Jane will likely be going to the Prom with Sue and her friends. One of the friends that Sue will be going with in this group is Mary, a girl whom I have personally been friends with for a long time but only hang out with outside of school. (Yes, I’m sorry this is confusing.) The thing is: I do know Jane, Sue, and Mary. But I feel uncomfortable with asking to go along with them to the Prom, because chances are they won’t bother to see if I want to go with them. Personally Sue and Mary are nice but VERY cliquey. And I could be wrong, my best friend Jane might not even go with Jane and Mary’s group of friends (probably about 10). </p>
<p>Now, one of my anti-social event friends, Kate, has been insinuating things about her prom dress every so often. For all this time in HS, she has been saying how Prom is stupid and how she doesn’t want to go, and I’ve been the one trying to convince her to go because, of course, I want people to go with! And this is where it gets even more confusing. Paula, who is a member of the Sue/Mary clique knows Kate on an acquaintance-level and for some reason to me (though I don’t know for sure) it seems like Kate is planning on going with the Sue/Mary group because of the way she talks to Paula. (I don’t know how I know this exactly, but… it just seems like it. I could be wrong though.) The bad part about it is that I don’t think that Paula likes me. At all. She’s always been very sarcastic to me. First of all, it kind of hurts me that Kate wouldn’t even want to think of me first to go to Prom with me and the other two girls we usually hang out with at school (if they even want to go…). But, I could be wrong… Kate might be thinking that she and I will still go together.</p>
<p>AGH. This was long, and whiney-sounding… but, my final question is: What should I do? I can’t go to Prom alone obviously and I can’t go with just one person. I feel weird about asking Mary if I can go with their group to the Prom because I know some folks in their group don’t like me much. But I think that my two best friends, Jane and Kate, are going with this clique. I feel like I’m just going to end up alone, not even going to Prom. </p>
<p>But the fact of the matter is that I don’t even CARE about Prom that much. I just want to go so that people won’t ask me later, “Why didn’t you goooooo?” “Where are your Prom pictures?” And then assume I didn’t have any friends or a date to go with and start to think I’m a loser. But then I think, maybe by that time I’ll be so happy about going to college that I won’t care about this petty Prom stuff.</p>
<p>Basically, I’m a socially awkward person. Please help by letting me know what you think.</p>