<p>So my DD is going to her first prom. She says her friends want to go and shop together for their dresses - no moms invited. I guess I’m okay with this but have to admit disappointed.</p>
<p>Is it traditional for Ds to take Mom along to shop for prom dresses? Neither of my two did…</p>
<p>sewhappy- going by your CC name I guess you wanted to make the prom dress?</p>
<p>I went sometimes and sometimes not. Is she going to shop or buy?
Maybe she can pencil in an afternoon where the two of you go shop and try some on?
If you are paying then it’s not unreasonable to have some input - IMO.<br>
When my youngest went she would take photos on her cell phone (sometimes not allowed) and send them to me.
One thing I taught my girls was that sometimes dresses that look horrible on the rack look good when tried on and vice versa; that and stick to a budget!</p>
<p>As long as they let you help buy the wedding gown :)</p>
<p>I’m a quilter, not a dress-maker though admit to being addicted to Project Runway.</p>
<p>I just really like shopping with my beautiful daughter and have to face the fact that she’s growing up and away . . . Pooh!</p>
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<p>Very astute of you JustAMomof4. Thinking over our conversation, she said she wanted to “shop” with her friends but would probably find the dress with me.</p>
<p>I would want to go with my daughters and did. But it sounds like maybe your D will look around with her friends but go to make a final decision or purchase with you, which sounds like a great combo plan.</p>
<p>Maybe a compromise is needed…</p>
<p>Let your D go with friends and put a few dresses on hold. Then, you meet up later (or the next day) and do the final selection and purchase.</p>
<p>I went with D and we had a great time.</p>
<p>But her freshman year homecoming, she wanted to shop with a friend. Our compromise was that both moms went along.</p>
<p>sewhappy - then make sure she doesn’t take any money! no cash, no debit card.
if she finds something she likes then you and she can go back and buy it.<br>
after she tries it on, as well as the other dresses you pick for her! ;)</p>
<p>My D was just on a school trip to NY and they had a free day and her group shopped in Notlita. She told me that she did not enjoy shopping with friends as much as she enjoys shopping with me!</p>
<p>You lucky moms with daughters!
Somehow going to rent the tux is just not as much fun …</p>
<p>Mom of 2 boys here …</p>
<p>I second the sending her with no money. You don’t want her to be pressure by friends to buy something that they love and she is not 100% thrilled with. Also when shopping with friends they sometimes come home with items that they would have never purchased on their own.
And to mothers of son’s- For most of the girls any school dance or prom is really ALL ABOUT THE DRESS. From the mouths of many teen girls the best part about the prom is finding the right dress, shoes and getting your hair and nails done. The dance itself is usually anti-climatic.</p>
<p>I went with my D and her friend. The other Mom had no desire to go and wouldn’t help pay for her D’s dress. We had a good time. I think they were glad for my advice and my credit card!<br>
I also took them to get hair/nails the day of the event. Again, they seemed happy for the advice and I decided to treat the other girl since she had paid for her own dress. We went to lunch along the way. I told both girls that in my experience sometimes the day of/getting ready with a friend was more fun than the event itself. After the fact they agreed with me 
as stated in the above post too.<br>
I like the let her shop then do the final purchase with Mom solution. It is all about the getting ready for the girls.</p>
<p>^^But they look so handsome! We bought a tux because it was less expensive than renting, and both parents tagged along. (I can’t imagine my son and his buds shopping together, frankly.) Prom was one of those last bonding experiences before they went their separate ways to college. Maybe the dress shopping for your D is part of that (if she’s a senior).</p>
<p>My sister is on a tight budget, prom dresses are just not something she can afford. I didn’t want to offend her, but I found a way to offer to buy the dresses for her 2 daughters. I only have a son, so I said (wistfully) how sad I was not to get to have the prom dress shopping experience, could I treat the girls to their dresses and in return I get to come along for the experience? I called it their birthday gift and last year my sister and I went to Bloomingdales and bought my niece the dress of her dreams. I am doing the same thing again for her and her sister. It was really fun! I bought my son a tuxedeo last year and it was’nt nearly as much fun as the dresses. Niece number 2 is raiding my closet for shoes also.</p>
<p>Well, we have the dress and it is awesome. I am lucky that my D would rather shop with me than friends. However, the problem is: no date. Good news/bad news - she is rather mature for her age and has yet to find a high school boy who is interesting enough to date. She had asked one of her guy friends (of a different persuasion) to escort her but he wants to go with his boyfriend. I was watching Oprah Wed and saw where “Nate” is available to do odd jobs so I thought briefly about emailing Oprah. They probably wouldn’t like the age difference. . . . Her girlfriends all have dates. Her dad said he would get a limo if she would take him. And actually, he’d be really fun. We’ll see what she comes up with - she was very depressed about it yesterday. Soooooooo ready to go to college.</p>
<p>ebe-I appreciate you taking your daughter’s friend under your wing. I bet your daughter does too.</p>
<p>anothercrazymom,</p>
<p>What a beloved aunt you must be to your nieces!</p>
<p>It was super fun for me too! I love my son, but shopping with him is a chore!</p>