<p>Well, Prom season is here and I was just wondering:</p>
<p>to all those parents who have kids going to prom, do you trust them to make wise decisions? or are you worried that they will be swayed by peer pressure to drink or have sex? or is it a combination of both?</p>
<p>PArents just ruin the experinece if they ask to go along, “hotpiece”. Something subliminal about that? Sooner or later all parent would like for their children to make the right decisions. Their past behavior will probably influence the parental decisions and we all “worry”. We recognize what Hormone driven humans are capable of. Just look at all the kids…</p>
<p>What happens at proms really depends on the community and the school, as well as particular groups. Ours turned out to be the tamest I’ve ever heard of. There were teachers at the proms., and no instance of drunkenness or boorish behavior that my S witnessed. Then at around 11:30, a group of students, I think ten or so, decided to walk to the cinema to see the latest instalment of Lords of the Rings. Off they went. At 3:00 or so, a bunch of them called their parents to come and pick them up. There were enough parents still up (and probably wondering what their offspring were up to) to do chauffeuring duty. So by 3:30 the kids were safe, sound, sober, and in their own beds.
There may have been kids in the school who had a wilder time; but my kid did not hang out with them.</p>
<p>my prom was at a radisson hotel in their ballroom. noone brought alcohol in, and once you left the hotel you weren’t allowed back into the prom… so nobody could bring it back in either. prom went from about 6pm-6am. most people stayed the whole time.</p>
<p>wow, prom at my school is usually guaranteed to be riddled with some kind of scandal, mostly in the form of alcohol consumption. but last year they found condoms all over the floor the day after prom. so i guess the kids were you guys are from are just more mature and responsible.</p>
<p>My son is attending his prom- which is a huge shock. He isn’t very excited about it, but the girlfriend insisted and is paying. (I’ll pay the parents back)
He goes to boarding school, and the school busses all the kids to the prom location and then busses them back. They MUST use the school transportation and can not leave during the prom. When they get back to school at 12:30 there is a 30 minute “reception” time where they can hang out, then it is back to the dorms. My son doesn’t think it sounds like much fun, but it sounds nice and safe to me!</p>
<p>Our school will be requiring a breathalizer test for everyone upon arrival(a first, here), and nobody is allowed to enter after 7:30 PM. Last year a bunch of kids were busted for alcohol by their limo driver. They were dumb enough to assume he wouldn’t report them!</p>
<p>Our prom goes from 6pm-midnight, and most kids go to parties after. If you’ve raised your kid right they will make good (er…decent) decisions. Let your children enjoy themselves, whether they’re at a party or going to see LOTR. It’s one night, and as long as they have cell phone you’ll always be able to contact them - and come get them (ouch) if things sound too crazy.</p>
<p>proms themselves are often pretty tame</p>
<p>the afterparties, on the other hand…</p>
<p>D goes to a Christian HS that definitely keeps things under control. They are going on a cruise w/dinner around Mission Bay (San Diego). In prior years kids have been expelled right before graduation, so the kids behave themselves. No coed sleepovers for my D either. She’s my last of four, and I have learned a lot over the years. Parents need to wake up!</p>
<p>If you want to drink in a limo you have to throw a major tip the drivers way a head of time and make your intentions clear. Worry about safty first, limos are way safer than driving drunk and if you kid is going to an after party make sure that you know where they are. My parents had a breakfast for my friends and I at about 4:30am and everyone who came was sober(great way to discourage drinking and check up on your kids).</p>
<p>If you think your kids are not already having sex before prom you are probably dreaming according to most data. At least at my mostly white middle-class suburban high school anyone with a steady of over three months was probably “doing it” already by junior year.</p>
<p>So, beyond after prom parties, how common is it in your areas for parents to condone or provide unsupervised out of town hotel or beach house rentals for after prom overnights? I just got an upset call from a friend whose son begged her to allow him to put down a deposit on such a house and told her that “EVERYONE is doing it!” Of course, that’s not the case, but I’m interested to know, is this common in your area , and would you as a parent consent to it?</p>
<p>Yes, the after prom is the event to worry about! Personally I trust my D & S to make the right choice. Two proms w/after parties and no problems that I know about.</p>
<p>By the way hotpiece where will you be attending college in the fall?</p>
<p>Roshke: It’s pretty common around here…the kids go down to the Jersey shore. It’s also common for graduation week. I don’t like the idea but apparently, many parents are OK with it. We had our own problems with after prom parties. The parents hosting for my son’s group thought that having beer drinking games in the basement was fine - as long as the keys were taken away. Unfortunately, we did not find out about this until the night of the prom (when we toured their house!). They were very proud of their “drinking table”. These are crazy times!</p>
<p>well, our school is having an after prom program that practically everyone attends. but yeah, people went there really drunk last year, so there will be breathalizers this year. </p>
<p>Mizo, I’ll be at Harvard in the fall.</p>
<p>My mom didn’t have to worry about me after prom. I was quite sick, so she came pick me up, we stopped to get milkshakes (1 AM!) and I went home to bed.</p>
<p>Prom’s kinda an all night thing here in the United Arab Emirates. We’ve taken the American tradition and made it bigger, grander, and generally more DUBAI! (You’ll know what I mean if you’ve heard of Dubai :P). Last year my parents hosted a pre-prom reception. We catered appetizers and my friends and their parents and dates all came to take pictures. There was no alcohol, and the limo picked us all up from my house. There was a lot of champagne in the limo though, and most of the guys in the group were pretty drunk by the time we got to prom at the Fairmont (over an hour late!). (We had a Moulin Rouge theme with a 30 foot light-up Eiffel tower and a 20 foot, red, functional windmill. Yes, we DO know how to go overboard :P) Prom went until midnight, afterwhich we took cabs to a friends house, got changed and went to the after party, which was at this lake house some guys had rented out. Since our high school is small (under 300 kids), there is only one after prom. I don’t drink so a few hours into the afterprom I was dead, but some people stayed until 7 am! We all headed back to a friend’s at 5, and watched movies and ate breakfast :)</p>
<p>I lost my virginity after my Junior prom. Luckily, I had been dating my prom date of the time for about 4 months so it wasnt a random hookup. I would say most of the people at the after party that I was at hooked up and actually ended up dating eachother for a long time(some are STILL in relationships). We always partied at my GF’s house because not only would her parents let us drink there, but they bought us alcohol and sold us drugs. </p>
<p>We were mostly honor students and kept it semi-under control. Needless to say, after essentially getting a blank check to party we were kind of over it by Senior Ball. The after party for my Senior ball ended up as a huge sleepover where we played boardgames, video games and talked about our past years together and our futures. MUCH more fun then the after party for Junior Prom.</p>
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hmmm, that is really scary…</p>