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<p>Trust me, if they’re smoking at prom, then they’re doing it elsewhere. Probably not at home. But the smell IS avoidable in many ways. Just saying.</p>
<p>Grcxx3 - I love the way you are handling the prom situation. The bus is a great idea and well worth the cost. Last year we rented a party bus sized for about 8 couples. My son is very mild mannered, but I thought he was going to blow a gasket when the bus arrived. It was an old school bus painted to look like a black and white cow! They got a lot of laughs out of it, but next time I will be sure to ask what the OUTSIDE of the bus will look like.</p>
<p>I just about when over the edge when I heard H promise S1 that he could take H’s swanky new sports car to prom. What was he thinking…</p>
<p>OMG! Kajon - thanks for the heads up on asking what the bus looks like!!! </p>
<p>It’s going to cost a fortune, but most of the kids/parents are willing to chip in. And for those that can’t/won’t, I just can’t sweat it. I want the kids to be safe and if that means I cover more than our share of the cost, so be it.</p>
<p>Than you all for your input. The way it looks now, less than half of the kids in the original group are allowed to go on the trip. To me, it’s a sign that they need to reconsider their plan, my son thinks I need to reconsider my decision. </p>
<p>Teenagers.</p>
<p>Our high school has a post prom party at the school. It runs all night after the prom and all kinds of things are brought in to attract the kids – freebies—really nice ones—food and all. Then they serve a nice breakfeast. </p>
<p>Parents of seniors run the thing. They beg giveaways from local merchants, etc. My turn next year!</p>
<p>The week before the prom, the police bring a car that was destroyed in a drunk driving accident and park it on the school lawn where the kids all have to walk past it. </p>
<p>The tradition the post prom at school is pitted against is the hour drive to the beach late at night after the dance, with requisite underage drinking and terrible accidents in the wee hours. Oh yes forgot to mention unprotected sex & drugs and all the rest. </p>
<p>Our state now has graduated licenses so our kids could not drive 3 hr to anywhere late at night with other kids in the car, legally, anyway. </p>
<p>I LOVE Aibarr’s prom overnight story! That’s the way to do it! </p>
<p>No we do not allow prom overnights, or any other kind of coed overnights, in this house. Yes, I know they will be free as a bird to do dumb stuff when they go to college, but this is different. There is some loony folklore out there that you are expected to do things on prom night that you would not do other times, and crazy ideas are easier to do when there are a bunch of kids pressuring each other to do them.</p>
<p>Yeah, it doesn’t help that this year’s prom theme is: “Just Do It.”</p>
<p>(Just kidding.)</p>
<p>I am so glad someone started this thread, however I still have mixed emotions about my “good student, head screwed on straight daughter”. Prom here in Boca Raton,FL is being held at (what else) Boca Raton Resort and Club (google it if you care to) - they had to pick one of the more pricey venues to hold the prom ($150 a kid) A school 3 miles away is having theirs at a Hilton I think and it was $70 a kid) go figure. But anyway, fine, her, her bf and 11 other “couples” (some bf & gf, others just friends) are splitting a very cool tiger theme hummer limo , okay , very cool) AFTER prom seems like its more popular than the actual prom itself, mmmm… Anyway, plans were originally at a local hotel after, but just changed to a hotel 40 min away. They have to drop their cars off there that afternoon so they can get home the next day. There are three rooms. One for the 3 girls plus my daughter “that are not allowed to have a room with other guys / couples” , another room for those guys they came with and another room for the 2 or three couples that can room together. Who knows what will actually go on. My D apparently knows the deal and is going to stick w/ her bf and 2 girls that “don’t drink”. She knows there are other kids who are going to do what they are going to do. I trust her to use her best judgement which has always been good. I figure she might get to see some of her friends “in action” so she can decide if this is what she wants to be involved with next time. I just wish the hotel wasn’t 40 min away. I also don’t see the need to extend the party time to the hotel, its never enough for these kids anymore, I mean they have plenty of time for this stuff in the future, but it does seem to be “what they all do”. I’m just going to remind her 5,000 times to “do the right thing” and watch others get themselves in trouble if thats what they insist on doing. This may not be the popular decision, but I trust my daughter. However, I’m not sure I trust everyone else. <ugh></ugh></p>
<p>My D just got her date for prom. Her best friend who is gay. I gave them a gift certificate for a fine dine dinner and arranged for prom pictures in the park. She is all about the fashion and the dancing for this event. Unless something raises it’s ugly head, she’ll be home by midnight. She is so ready to move on to college and leave the high school scene.</p>