The bag over the head tradition is really strange…why not have double bags to warn them the girl wearing it is not so pretty 
My senior daughter was very excited that one of her long time friends was asked yesterday, via proposal ! She has never been asked out ( the only one in her circle of friends ) I honestly think she was more excited for the friend than if it had been herself.
There was a recent “prom” proposal in our neighborhood. I thought it was kind of cute. Some guy made these big signs using florescent poster board with one word on each sign. He then posted the first sign with her name on it in our neighborhood (she lives here and drives to school) and then 1 sign each along the road to the high school , It’s a couple miles to the school. The signs together said “xx” will you go to prom with … and then he was holding the me sign when she got to school. Kind of cool.
I suspect my daughter is hoping for a proposal…she wouldn’t admit it though. She has been paying extra attention to her clothing and hair the last week or so as the invitations are snowballing in her school.
Last year as a junior , they all seemed so stressed out about it. I see it as a more relaxed scenario this year. If she doesn’t get asked , she has decided to ask a platonic friend who lives here during the summer.
Back in the Stone Age, I was chairman of a semi formal event…to which I had no date a few weeks prior. I had to attend, I was in charge…and even had to give a short welcoming speech.
Apparently one of my friends put the word out, and a very nice acquaintance…who was not planning to attend at all…offered to go with me. We had a great time!
My son owns a tuxedo…and has been asked at the last minute to attend some formal events, including a prom. He was happy to go. And it didn’t cost him much…although we did say he should buy his own ticket each time.
Does your daughter know a music major? They all have tuxedos!
@thumper1 , When I was 21 I got a call on a Sunday night after I had had my dinner because a good friend of mine had been ditched for his college semi-formal .
I was ironing my dress to wear to work the next day. he funny thing was, when I was in high school , I had such a crush on this guy and thought he walked on water….what a difference a few years made
In high school I was one of those decorating for the dances I never attended. . .didn’t care then, and care even less now.
S’s friends were going as a group–all had dates (few were “couples,” mostly just friends who were in theater/choir together). S didn’t care if he went or not. A junior girl really wanted to go with this group, but hadn’t been asked. She asked S’s best friend if S was going and if not, if he thought S might go with her–she planned to ask him. Friend told S, and S asked her (just casual invite–Hey,wanna go to prom?) before she asked him. Prom is sort of popular here–many kids who go to nothing else for 4 years will go to senior prom. Many do go in groups/without dates.
Her friends (and friends’ dates) need to help her find an uncommitted guy–Not going? Want to? How about asking my friend Susie?
Neither of my older kids went to prom. I’m not sure if they’re sorry, but they didn’t want to go with a casual friend and weren’t dating anyone at the time.
We pretty much forced S1 to ask a girl and go to the prom - he ended up having a great time. Most in the group, including his date, were part of the track team.
D has some friends whose parents do not allow them to date, so they decided months before to go as a group of girls and no boys allowed.
S2 goes to a high school that is 2/3 male, not really sure what the prom rules are. My assumption is that most kids won’t go.
I wanted to thank you all again for your advice and support and to let you know that our story has a happy ending. As many of you predicted, her friends were working on some options for her, but in the end she decided to ask a boy who is a junior. She has had some classes with him and she liked him better than anything her girlfriends were finding. She planned a “Promposal” for him and had a good time with it. If her smile in the picture is any indication, she is very happy with her choice. All in all, way too much stress and anxiety over something that should be fun, but I guess that’s the way it is. I was glad to see that she took matters into her own hands. So now she has the date, and her group is coming together nicely.
I’m sure there will be some drama over the limo, pictures and after party plans (always an issue) but for now, there is peace in our house and I plan to enjoy it.
Wonderful news Tired! Now you can talk to her about how she should sit back and enjoy the festivities and not get too involved in all the drama/changing of plans/scheduling that typically happens around prom!
Does she need help finding a prom dress? We CC moms love a good dress challenge. 
Great news. Hope she has a great time at the prom.
Tell her a strong woman has no problem going after what she wants. Glad to hear she didn’t wait around to be asked.
What a great update. I think your daughter learned many things in this process that she will take with her into adulthood.
Woohoo! Glad she got over the idea of having to be asked and took matters into her OWN hands.
I like the idea of avoiding the limo/dinner/etc drama.
Phew! So happy she took matters into her own hands. I hope she has a wonderful time.
My daughter, a junior, is going with a big group of kids - nobody paired off. It sounds like fun to me! I wish it had been that way when I was in high school.
My shy senior son doesn’t know who to ask. Wants to go, but unsure how to ask. Happens all of the time.
@tired already Thank you for the update! It made me so happy to think about her taking things into her own hands and making them happen instead of waiting and wishing. It’s actually a great life lesson.
D2 went to an international school outside of US. For her prom, it was a family affair. We were all invited to a very lavish party (think wedding). Adults were allowed to stay until midnight then kids owned the place after we left. I saw a lot of mom/son, dad/daughter dance together. It was a great celebration for a major milestone.
That’s great! I hope she has lots of fun.
I love it when girls ask guys. Just as cute and less stress.