<p>And wait until the Admit Days roll around…D had one Admit Day that conflicted with rehearsals for her last play. Director was very mad but what did he expect and they didn’t kick her out:). Second Admit Day conflicted with performances!!! Luckily it was at school right next to us so she would go do the Admit Day program and then leave to perform and then go back to party…</p>
<p>Not that I’m complaining. Sometimes the kids who get into these situations do so because they always were the Bring It On type vs. the Puddle Of Pee type anyway.</p>
<p>agree with hats off on #55…hit all the right notes for me, too Alumother. I am here for more than info only–like to whoop, cheer and exchange factoids or opinions or even chat about opinions presented at factoids…whatever! but on the other hand…have never visited Sinners Alley. CC is therapeutic and informative for me at times, once in a while get sucked in by a ■■■■■
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but I am going to visualize those twits like this in the future when they waste my time.<br>
usually find lots of sincere postings and new angles and points of view…and as I mentioned earlier today, in my area, such meanderings on colleges in “parts unknown” are not really considered kosher as Regional U dominates the scene so much that sometimes it feels like a partial eclipse around these parts. I like the chance to talk freely to people online with similar questions on their minds without being censured. Applying to seven colleges last year…even with three long shots and no particular line in merit aide on the horizon without some effort…was something we were chided for by people in school positions and around the neighborhood.</p>
<p>I’m going to take a contrarian view here. Cur has bared all for the past two years and, due to his correspondent skills, self-deprecating humor, and unique situation, been entertaining for us to read. It hasn’t always been roses, and I think he’s been honest when it hasn’t. He’s intentionally targeted his daughter downwards to address difficult financial issues…but kept his, and her, chin up and focused on the end prize.</p>
<p>I’m grateful for his candor. I’ve learned more than I could hope to following his posts. And if his daughter gets her well-earned ray of sunshine, I’m thrilled for them both.</p>
<p>And Cur, I’m sorry to hijack the thread. Just thought I’d share.</p>
<p>Dude, I want to thank you for your post, which I think was very sensitively worded – and also say to Curmudgeon that we all enjoy your posts and are in no way offended. It’s just that Dude is right (I think) that it grates somewhat when one who is the beneficiary of an abundance of riches drifts into complaint mode. And I think it is important to sound that note at this time of year, because within the next month there are going to be a lot of very disappointed parents and students who will be happy to share in the joy of others, but not so inclined to offer sympathy to those who are overwhelmed by their good fortune. And there is a very thin line between the sincere expression of frustration and gloating. </p>
<p>As I was reading this thread, before coming to Dude’s post, I had been thinking how relieved we were that my d’s mock trial team was eliminated in an early round this year… as opposed to last year’s city wide championship and out-of-town travel for the regional competition. Yeah, winning was nice, too… but being at the top does involve all those inconviences in terms of traveling and extra work and scheduling conflicts. Sometimes its nice to simply take it easy instead. </p>
<p>A piece of advice, to Curmudgeon: Your daughter simply needs to set her own priorities and go with whatever is most important to her. If she misses out on a scholarship opportunity… so be it. Life is like that; you can’t do everything. You do not have to respond to every offer or every award. You certainly have reason to be proud of your daughter… but the stress is something that you can exercise control over simply by saying “no”. The truth is that the colleges use competitive on-campus scholarship interviews in part to try to cement the relationship with the student: if the student comes to the campus, its another marketing opportunity for the college that doesn’t come up if the college simply sends a congratulatory note by mail. </p>
<p>But the world is a funny place: sometimes when you say “no” to these sorts of things, the offers keep coming, or even get better. I’m not saying this will happen – you can’t count on it – but the bottom line is that there are colleges that will give your daughter the financial assistance she deserves without making your family jump through hoops to get it. I’d suggest a polite letter declining the invitation, citing a pre-existing scheduling conflict, would make a lot of sense.</p>
<p>Actually, I think there is a fourth category too: Those who are looking only for companionship and emotional support. For them it’s all about sympathy and hugs - with exchange of real information about college admissions getting short shrift.</p>
<p>Coureur. Yes. Technically a trichotomy. Started that sentence without thinking where I was going.</p>
<p>But of course now I can’t get the word tracheotomy out of my head. </p>
<p>Are we nonsensical yet? And I still want to know - what team is the Mudgie on? What did they win? Does that count as information or is that emotional support?</p>
<p>nice problems Pop. Just hang in there. Hopefully the hs will be understanding. There’s no hope for an understanding coach:). Burn up the phone lines and re-schedule whatever you can. For all you juniors, get those visits in early!</p>
