@awcntdb I think you misunderstood the whole thing. First my daughter is against Trump and not actively against Trump. She doesn’t do anything in public to voice herself. She told us. She is actively involved in politics by reading articles and following the news. She will not go all out to say things to hurt people to get her point. And this guy just said something hurtful by attacking another person. I think it is very different.
You are right and I think she is hurt probably she sees him as a friend but I am sure it is only 20% of it by knowing my daughter.
Some people are just jerks. They will find a way to put others down due to their own lack of self esteem.
Teachable moment for your daughter. Certainly this deserves an immediate response from her. Pick one that feels right to her.
Now as to the boy. The best revenge will be when he gets his first job and he gets fired. Why warn him ahead of time. Let him show his true colors and not realize why people begin to shun him. Why he isn’t included in parties etc. he will eventually find a group of friends like himself and hang with them. It’s fine. It’s easier for the rest of us to identify all the jerks at once.
I would not contact the LAC or do anything that would jeopardize his future (he may take care of that himself if he continues to act like a jerk).
But I would not let it go unchallenged. Not just because of my daughter’s feelings but because that behavior, when allowed to go on in a community, can spread. Does the school have a policy on bullying and/or racial harassment? I would have a conversation with my daughter about dealing with it directly with him and with the administration. Maybe there is a teacher they both have who can meet with them, maybe a guidance counselor. But I don’t think his behavior should go unchecked. Even if he doesn’t change, the message goes out to the community that it’s not OK and we expect you to treat each other with respect.
And I would also have a conversation with her about friendships, toxic people, etc. She doesn’t need to continue to have contact with him. She can surround herself with people who lift her up, not put her down.
As far as reporting goes, that would depend on if it crossed into bullying or harassment, rather than just expressing a political opinion. If it is just the latter, he has his freedom of speech, which includes freedom to look stupid.
Just crossed my mind a comment he made about females. This guy once had a crush on my daughter and he posted something on a social media and wowed everybody.
I don’t remember word for word but something like is :
“Do we put a chain on our girl like we do to our dog if you don’t want them to run away?”
With that being said, most kids are pretty ignorant and emotional when it comes to politics, and this particular kid is no different. His comment was uncalled for, IMO.
I hope this kid is going to Oberlin. They will teach him a new way of looking at the world! Heck 3/4s of the LACs would chew him up and spit him out socially.
Oh, I would totally tell her to talk to the administration. Could result in discipline of some kind that has to be reported to his college, too. Don’t let him get away with it.
If he’s about to graduate, your daughter can shrug it off, and there will be little to no contact with him after a few days, I would let it go. I would have a different opinion if they were younger, there was a pattern to his behavior and your daughter (or others) felt threatened or unsafe.
It might have already been mentioned, but this is likely a violation of the high school’s bullying policy and student code of conduct re hositility and might also violate civil rights. Daughter could report it to principal and guidance counselor, not the college. She would need proof, of he denies it.
“If the comment upset your D I would suggest to her that she report it to the appropriate person at her high school”
The appropriate person would be the guy “friend” who wrote it.
Confront him directly. Ask why he wrote it. Just jerky? Got a problem? Thought it was funny? What?
There will always be jerks in the world both intentional and unintentional.
I haven’t read or scanned the other replies. Here is my $.02. You might tell your daughter to drop the guy as a friend like a hot potato. That is one simple option. Or, she can take a chance on educating him. Most hatred is based on ignorance. He is young. Teach or show him how wrong he is to hate foreigners and blame all of our countries problems in them. Foreign countries have labor cost advantages we can’t compete with so it really doesn’t matter who you D’s friend votes for those manufacturing jobs are not coming back. We have to compete with productivity gains, technology and so forth. Since the guy and your D are graduating you might just tell her to ignore him, why stress over it really.