<p>Thanks, teriwtt.
I had discovered the 5 parts earlier thiss evenig-- but it looks very much like the original show that aired several months ago.</p>
<p>I think a lot of it was, but she does have footage from April/May toward the end that I think was new, as well as comments from a friend on the last days of his life.</p>
<p>On these clips, I think the comments from the friend were on a different section-- not the last of the 5 posted. There is a “blog” with many people askign that the show be posted or re-aired. Maybe it’ll show up in its entirety somewhere…</p>
<p>When Randy was asked about his “last lecture” being made into a movie, he said that it would never happen because there is no actress beautiful enough to portray his wife, Jai. After he said that, I kept thinking that his wife reminded me of an actress, both in her face and in her voice, but I couldn’t put my finger on who it was. I finally realized that she looks and sounds very much like Kate Jackson. Anyone else notice that?</p>
<p>I was really impressed by her strength and calmness in the face of his struggle and the attending publicity. It’s easy to see why they fell in love.</p>
<p>Apologies for this being tacky, but since Randy Pausch said to tell the truth… all the time, well here goes. My thoughts, when seeing photos of their earlier years together, when she had long hair, was that she was attractive, but now, with her long neck and short hair-- she reminded me of (<<<ducking for=“” cover=“”>>>>) Olive Oyl. Take a look:</ducking></p>
<p><a href=“http://www.otal.umd.edu/~vg/amst205.S97/vj15/project5.html[/url]”>http://www.otal.umd.edu/~vg/amst205.S97/vj15/project5.html</a>
[ABC</a> News: Randy Pausch and Family](<a href=“GMA - Good Morning America”>GMA - Good Morning America)</p>
<p>I thought she is more beautiful without the long hair obscuring her features. The actress she reminds me of is the one who was in that show in the 1980s that was set in Alaska.</p>
<p>Good catch, NSM. Janine Turner from Northern Exposure [Janine</a> Turner](<a href=“http://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005508/]Janine”>Janine Turner - IMDb)</p>
<p>I clicked on the link Jym provided and thought Mrs. Pausch looks beautiful. Fwiw I didn’t think Jym meant it as a put down but merely an observation, though I wouldn’t have made the association myself. </p>
<p>Honestly I thought Olive quite attractive. Popeye and Bruno certainly think so. Olive has an unusual beauty IMHO.</p>
<p>IMHO again, telling the truth all the time is overrated with all due respect to Mr Pausch. I value harmony more than truth. Just had a heated discussion with some dear friends about it too.</p>
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<p>I certainly didn’t take it that way.</p>
<p>Totally Janine Turner… Great match!!!</p>
<p>Ah, I did not realize that it meant to be a compliment… Dont try this line with your wife: Dear, in our earlier years together
you were attractive, but now
you remind me of
Olive Oyl 
This certainly would not fly well in my household, but all couples are different. I certainly would agree with munchkin that telling the truth all the time is overrated. But I dont want to take away from the topic. I have a great respect for Mr. and Mrs. Pausch; and I dont think that Randy would approve this discussion about his wife appearance, even though it is inspired by his own words
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<p> Folks, can we all please redirect this discussion back to the focus on Randy Pausch and the wonderful example he provided for the world?</p>
<p>Thanks for your anticipated cooperation in getting this thread back on track.</p>
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<p>Umm, I was having a conversation about heros and I said I don’t have any - because my heros all turn out to have very human frailties. I think Randy Pausch can fit the bill for many people.</p>
<p>As the wife of a CMU grad and mother of a UVa student (Randy taught at both), I am very proud that Randy was associated with both. His family should be very proud!</p>
<p>“Usually Nice, Always Helpful - A Mentor’s Approach” by Professor Kirk Martini
<a href=“http://people.virginia.edu/~km6e/Papers/pausch-mentor-essay.pdf[/url]”>http://people.virginia.edu/~km6e/Papers/pausch-mentor-essay.pdf</a></p>
<p>For some reason, I was thinking about his family in the shower this morning. Although it’s wonderful that he inspired so many people, and he lived a full life and left a substantial legacy, I can’t help but think that this must not be much comfort to his wife and children today, as they struggle to build a new life without him. My heart goes out to them.</p>
<p>I hope that, at least, the family is financially comfortable, and that Jai will be able to continue to be at home with her children.</p>
<p>I can only imagine the pain Jai will feel at each special moment having to do with their children – the sigh of wishing Randy could be there that will accompany the joy of the moment. </p>
<p>With respect to finances, I do recall Randy’s having addressed that issue early on – said that there need be no concern about that, that the family would be well provided for. So at least that is one area where there should be no stress. </p>
<p>They also relocated the family to VA where there apparently is a good amount of extended family, I assume particularly on Jai’s side. This is just one more example of how other-focused he was. I think he was also encouraging a strong relationship between Jai’s brother and the kids – once mentioned that this uncle would be the one to accompany his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day.</p>
<p>I am ten years older than Randy Pausch was at his death and feel it is such a lesson to all my family to live life joyfully to the fullest, as he did even when undergoing this greatest challenge.</p>
<p>I do feel some relief that they will be fine financially. I did know that they moved to VA so that Jai would have some family support.</p>
<p>“For some reason, I was thinking about his family in the shower this morning. Although it’s wonderful that he inspired so many people, and he lived a full life and left a substantial legacy, I can’t help but think that this must not be much comfort to his wife and children today, as they struggle to build a new life without him. My heart goes out to them.”</p>
<p>I think it is a comfort to his wife, although of course I’m sure she also is grieving.</p>
<p>Think about all of the people who die leaving their spouses and children. Many die with no warning, so there’s no chance for preparation or good-byes. For instance, an acquaintance went mountain climbing with his wife and kids. He was the lead climber, and appeared to be in the best of health. He reached the summit ahead of the others. When his family got to the mountain top, they found him dead of a heart attack. His widow and children now are not only grieving, but also are struggling financially.</p>
<p>Most people die without many people noticing or caring. Most probably also die without leaving their families in a good financial situation. Most die without having come anywhere near reaching their dreams.</p>
<p>Also, think about the people who die before they even have a chance to have a spouse or kids. That, too, is very sad.</p>
<p>Then, there are the people in developing countries --places such as Swaziland, Botswana, Lesotho – for whom the life expectancy is less than age 35. </p>
<p>I don’t mean to be a Pollyanna about Pausch’s death. It would have been wonderful if he had lived the normal lifespan in our country. However, in his truncated life, he had love, good looks, fame, talent, brains, financial security – a wealth of things that most people don’t ever get no matter how long they live.</p>
<p>I think there are two ways to look at it. One is that he led a full life although he missed seeing his children grow. But all of that is his experience. His children’s lives will always be colored by losing their father at such a young age and the youngest ones will really only know him through his tapes and messages to them and the words of others. That is a lasting loss. I have no doubt they will also have full lives filled with love and family but children who experience the loss of a parent do live in the world differently than those who do not know loss.</p>