<p>My DH bought himself a motorcycle, even though he knows I’m not thrilled about that. (Note: we can afford it, I just hate motorcycles.) Somehow buying myself a cashmere sweater seems insufficient in response. Suggestions welcome. </p>
<p>This sounds kind of like a bad idea to me. </p>
<p>I’m thinking girls weekend with a little shopping thrown in! Or maybe a really hot leather outfit (so you can look the part) :p</p>
<p>Diamond stud earrings, one caret each. :D</p>
<p>I know what you mean about revenge shopping. Years ago, DH bought himself the most beautiful suede jacket from Banana Republic, and he bought me a kind of crappy rough calfskin jacket for about a third of the price. I returned mine and bought something equivalent to his. </p>
<p>Childish, maybe, but we could afford it at the time. </p>
<p>More life insurance on DH!</p>
<p>When my grandfather went on an expensive hunting trip to Alaska, she bought herself a face lift. </p>
<p>When my stepdad went out of town, he’d occasionally come home to find a new cat or dog in the house. </p>
<p>Is this his midlife crisis acting out purchase? Coulda been worse. Lay low.</p>
<p>Just make sure you always refer to it as a “donorcycle.” That’s what ER docs call them.</p>
<p>If nothing has stopped him, what is a point of wasing mental capacity and other resources for zero outcome? I am at loss here. I would much rather spend my resources on something that I totally enjoy. Revenge is not it for me.</p>
<p>I agree with upping life insurance and double-checking your medical policy. Also make sure he has a very sturdy helmet. </p>
<p>Have never thought much of revenge, especially via shopping. H and I are very scared of cycles in HI–too many accidents. </p>
<p>The scariest things I ever saw in the trauma ICU of a large county hospital were the car accidents and even worse, the motorcycle accidents. Those without helmets usually died. The ones wearing them still sustained devastating brain injuries, which seemed a worse outcome than dying. I would never consent to buying my kids a motorcycle and I’d try everything I could think of to convince DH not to buy one. </p>
<p>Sometimes you can’t convince them, though. Hopefully the OP’s DH is very cautious and always aware of his surroundings while on the bike. I know lots of people love their bikes and have no problems.</p>
<p>Is there something he really doesn’t like? I would buy that. Or make him go on vacation to somewhere he doesn’t really want to go. We would be going on a cruise. Maybe Disney World </p>
<p>I really, really want to go on a cruise. He’s not so sure but I think he would be happy once he got there. </p>
<p>Something as impractical as a motorcycle? A Chanel jumbo flap in bright red patent
<a href=“http://m.ebay.com/itm/121308919954”>http://m.ebay.com/itm/121308919954</a>
and a pair of Valentino rockstud pumps.
<a href=“http://m.nordstrom.com/Product/Details/3565683”>http://m.nordstrom.com/Product/Details/3565683</a></p>
<p>Bright red, expensive objects strategically placed around the house are good visual reminders 
I too think motorcycles are stupid (and my dad had 5 or so of them, never had a single accident).</p>
<p>One of D’s best friends dad was hit when riding a bike sans helmet. He was a brilliant anesthesiologist and now he can’t be left unattended. Motorcycles scare me–when they are on the road anywhere near me or even more if ridden by anyone I care about. They are just no match for the mass of a car or other motor vehicle. </p>
<p>HIMom, I remember you posting that story. Scary and absolutely sad. </p>
<p>I work in conjunction with a non-profit Brain Injury Center, where survivors come in for counseling. About half of the clients are survivors of motorcycle accidents. If you are ever on the fence about riding a motorcycle, come work here for a day or two!</p>
<p>When I was in a trial lawyer firm, every case we had when the jury deliberated, they ALWAYS found against the operator of the adult on the two-wheeler, no matter how clear it was that it wasn’t their fault. Scary!</p>
<p>Depends on why you want revenge…do you want it because you are upset he bought a motorcycle and feel they are dangerous, or the money he spent on it?</p>
<p>If it is the money, then buy yourself something you really like,the cost doesn’t matter.Though don’t think of it as revenge, think of it as you have the right to have some fun, too (and if you want to share the experience of the bike, a hot riding outfit won’t hurt, I agree with another poster…:)</p>
<p>If it is the safety issue, then tell him you are taking out a huge policy on him that he has to pay for…or ask him things like “should I paint the bedroom pink or purple, and should I have black velvet or red velvet sheets” and if he asks you what you mean, tell him you are deciding how to decorate it once he is gone…</p>
<p>In all seriousness, one thing I would put my foot down is that if he has the bike, that he take a serious bike safety and riding course or courses. They have them for getting your license, but I am talking something more akin to a defensive driving course, that teaches about how to ride properly and also how to avoid accidents and survive them. Bikes have inherent limitations but if he is adamant about riding, then insist he take courses like this,he might think he is an expert or something, but I guarantee those courses will teach things he doesn’t know. It doesn’t totally eliminate the extra risk, but it helps make it a lot safer, which will give you piece of mind. </p>
<p>For those of you who are worried about my DH’s safety, thank you. He has good life insurance, an excellent helmet, yellow safety gear (with the kevlar lining and the safety plates), and heavy boots. And he’s done multiple safety courses.</p>
<p>The revenge shopping is more about me than about him. I like the idea of the flashy diamond studs.</p>