<p>Maybe the studs and a tennis bracelet or diamond collar? How about a lovely handbag? </p>
<p>good grief, you guys have too much money $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$</p>
<p>Perhaps a new Loro Piana cashmere sweater. They are the finest in the world. </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.loropiana.com/”>Loro Piana United States Official store | Clothing, Bags & Shoes;
<p>I would suggest you travel to Milan to pick out your garment.</p>
<p>Ah, much like when my H buys a new power tool or three. Not revenge per se, but if I’ve been holding back on something, on the wall about a purchase, I might be more inclined to pull the trigger. </p>
<p>It is hard for him to question a frivolous purchase on my part if he’s been spending. He’s never done that, though. Some of us needlessly worry about buying a want purely for the joy of it than others. </p>
<p>The rules are we can afford it and it won’t put us in debt. </p>
<p>Quality handbags or shoes. Useful and frivolous. :)</p>
<p>“I would suggest you travel to Milan to pick out your garment”</p>
<p>Excellent idea! May I suggest a stopover in Paris to pick out a Chanel or LV purse. :D</p>
<p>This thread is like so many long threads about married forum members(Almost always male) on a guitar forum I frequent. Whether it’s about how to hide new guitar purchases from spouses(almost always wives), how to handle spouses who “hate their guitar pastime”, or even discussions about marital arguments/divorce over such issues. </p>
<p>In the meantime, single folks like myself or married folks with more supportive spouses would either give sympathetic words while quietly breathing a sigh of relief we’re not the ones in the midst of that mess. </p>
<p>cobrat, there is a difference between a guitar and a motorcycle. The former is not an inherently lethal toy addition of which can affect your life, medical, and auto insurance rates. </p>
<p>I tell my kids that if they ever buy a motorcycle, I will kill them if the motorcycle doesn’t do it first.</p>
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<p>True, but it falls into the dynamic of one spouse trying to control the purchasing decisions/pastimes of another spouse…and the other spouse likely feeling being controlled, constrained, and not being allowed to be who he really is…whether that pastime/lifestyle is objectively prudent from a safety standpoint or not. </p>
<p>Just made my post as this theme tends to be a recurring one on that guitar forum and it isn’t restricted just to guitars. Many others mention motorcycles, flying aircraft, or just outdoor camping. </p>
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<p>Unless the married couple has completely separate finances, I’ve always believed that big purchases should be made with agreement of both spouses. So I don’t see a wife who objects to the covert purchase of a guitar as “unsupportive.” Maybe she doesn’t like dishonesty, or knows that financially it is not a prudent purchase, the guy has gone over-budget, or something else perfectly reasonable. And I would understand the guy’s point of view if his wife went and bought a 2K purse without talking to him about it as well.</p>
<p>Cobrat, you should visit TPF. There are plenty of pots mentioned by the kettles posting there. Just sayin’ that it goes both ways. </p>
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<p>The unsupportive part is from many other forumites’ experiences with previous relationships with SOs who belittled or didn’t respect their guitar pastime when money wasn’t an issue and they didn’t have a demonstrated history of excessive GAS*. </p>
<p>If it was found the OP has had a past demonstrated history of excessive GAS and/or couldn’t afford it, most forum members…especially the older ones** tend to come down harshly on them. </p>
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<p>** From my estimation, the guitar forum tends to skew older demographically as the average age of most active participants skews in the 50-60 age range. As such I’m one of the younger members. </p>
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<p>Some couples handle common household expenses and savings jointly, but pre-allocate some money to each spouse to use as s/he wishes without needing to ask permission (i.e. each spouse pre-approves the other for personal spending/saving up to $X per year or some such).</p>
<p>Back to motorcycles, has the husband in question taken the [Motorcycle</a> Safety Foundation](<a href=“http://www.msf-usa.org%5DMotorcycle”>http://www.msf-usa.org) courses?</p>
<p>dmd, I found the perfect item for you:</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.yoogiscloset.com/christian-louboutin-black-leather-botticellita-160-spiked-platform-sandal-size-7-37-5.html”>http://www.yoogiscloset.com/christian-louboutin-black-leather-botticellita-160-spiked-platform-sandal-size-7-37-5.html</a></p>
<p>;) Probably, walking in these is just as dangerous as riding a motorcycle. </p>
<p>cobrat, it’s normal among married couples to have a certain limit for a purchase where they don’t make the purchase without consulting with the other. No one is saying that a spouse should weigh in on whether the other spouse should stop for a latte or buy a book of stamps, but on the other hand, a spouse shouldn’t just go spend beaucoup bucks on something without consulting the other and ensuring they are in agreement. That’s what makes them actual partners, versus independent roommates. </p>
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<p>I knew a father of a younger friend who got a large dog without consulting any family members…including spouse. This is worse as we’re no longer talking about an object, but a living being who needs love & attention and how his presence does affect everyone else in the household.</p>
<p>Friend and the rest of the family resent the presence of the dog, father isn’t taking ownership over the amount of care/attention the dog needs, the apartment is too small for a dog of his size/breed, and the dog is miserable. </p>
<p>I feel real bad for the dog, especially considering he didn’t ask to be placed in such a situation. </p>
<p>A bigger motorcycle?
I had a boyfriend that had a motorcycle when I lived on Cottage Lake.
It was a Norton, great bike.
I hope his is loud, very important for safety.</p>
<p>Personally, buying an expensive item without conferring with my spouse just isn’t something that H and I have done in our 26+ year happy marriage. Frivolous and less expensive (under $500) things, we support one another in purchasing, but more expensive items, we always talk over. It seems to be mutual respect to me. Neither of us would bring home a live creature not dangerous hobby home without a lot of discussion and consensus. </p>
<p>“Nonsupportive”? Why is it nonsupportive to be annoyed that my husband, a grown adult with a perfectly good brain, bought something I don’t like with his own money? I’m not keeping him from riding it; I’m grousing about it, which is different. I’m enjoying contemplating what I could buy that’s equivalently annoying to him–and I haven’t even done it. Exactly why it is nonsupportive?</p>
<p>For those of you who are suggesting expensive shoes or a handbag, I don’t carry a bag, and I have exactly ONE pair of non-sport shoes (but they are purple swede, and they did cost about $200, and I <em>love</em> them). </p>