"Revirginization" trend

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<p>Blech!
"Across the country, “revirginization” appears to be gaining steam. Spiritual efforts to reclaim virginity emerged back in the early 1990s and now, prompted by abstinence-only school courses taught to thousands of girls nationwide, and by religious teachers, there are reports of more and more young women like Watts [who started having sex at age 16, and now has 2 kids] attempting a sexual do-over. Other women are opting for a more radical route to reclaim their virginity: surgical replacement of the hymen…</p>

<p>“Have you already unwrapped the priceless gift of virginity and given it away?” asks the Web site for the Pregnancy Resource Center of Northeast Ohio, where Watts began working part-time after she reclaimed her virginity. “Do you now feel like ‘second-hand goods’ and no longer worthy to be cherished? Do you ever wish you could re-wrap it and give it only to your future husband or wife? Guess what…? You can decide today to commit to abstinence, wrapping a brand-new gift of virginity to present to your husband or wife on your wedding night…”
[Born-again</a> virgins claim to rewrite the past - Sexploration - MSNBC.com](<a href=“http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23254178/]Born-again”>http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23254178/)</p>

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<p>I find this idea rather ridiculous. I can understand committing to abstinence after having already had sexual intercourse. </p>

<p>However, the definition of “virgin” is someone who has not had sexual intercourse. One cannot claim to be a “virgin” after having had sexual intercourse. They can decide to stop having sex. One can change their behaviors from this day forward but cannot erase the past.</p>

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<p>its like pretending…sure, you can change your mindset, but honey, as Samantha would say, “that ship has sailed”</p>

<p>If you have to call yourself a “virgin” as if you are untainted in order to have someting special with someone, do you also ignore all the other parts of your life that got you to that point?</p>

<p>ANd if some man is so weak that he needs to deny your past, and his, ick, he is no man,</p>

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<p>from the article:</p>

<p>"Thinking of how “I could have ruined one of greatest fulfillments of my life,” the first time having sex with a husband, she wanted to “have that opportunity again. I know my [future] husband deserves a whole person.” </p>

<p>She is a mother, she is a woman, but somehow she isn’t “whole”- that just makes me incredibly sad…who is spreading this tripe…</p>

<p>She is who she is, what, she gonna claim emacualte conception and deny her children?</p>

<p>And this idea the breaking a piece of flesh is somehow this scared thing is darn scary, as we can see from the article- murders, torture, shunning, and justification for abuse just beccause of an inch by inch piece of skin</p>

<p>It is this mindset that keeps women down, and somehow justifies mens actions</p>

<p>This more than just a few women going, oh honey, don’t worry, i have no experience and I have no one to compare you to…its about women’s lives</p>

<p>And if I went to my H, and said, here dear, break my hymen, I think he would be kind of going, yuck…after 21 years, two kids, yuck</p>

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<p>Ish! Thought we were beyond this. Must be my age showing! ;)</p>

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<p>“Do you now feel like ‘second-hand goods’ and no longer worthy to be cherished?”</p>

<p>Well, if they didn’t feel that way before they read your little screed…many of them will now.</p>

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<p>The young woman in the article has two children. I’d love to hear the reaction of men she dates when she proclaims, “I’m a virgin! Come meet my two kids, by the way.” Uh-huh.</p>

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<p>Didn’t Madonna already sing this one?</p>

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<p>^^Good one, mini…yeah “LIKE a virgin.” :D</p>

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<p>I wonder if there would be a market for a business idea I just had: I’m going to build a large artificial womb–you can enter it, be “born,” and start your whole life over. What do you think?</p>

<p>(Or is somebody already doing this? It wouldn’t surprise me.)</p>

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<p>Apparently these people are so skeeved out by their past that they want to pretend it never happened? I’m proud of my past, even the parts I’m not too proud of. (Yes, sounds oxymoronic, but I mean it.)</p>

<p>It’s so bizarre on so many fronts – </p>

<p>Obviously a “virgin” is technically someone who’s never had intercourse, so it’s truly impossible to become a virgin “again.” Even if one puts the hymen back surgically (ick), the memories are already there. The sexual experiences, the sexual preferences, everything you “gained” through your sexual past still exists.</p>

<p>Is this just to make the man feel more manly?</p>

<p>Edit: Ya’ know, even if one isn’t a virgin, that doesn’t mean one goes ahead and **cks like a bunny. One can still be selective, cautious, only do it with love. It’s not like, I’m no longer a virgin so now I’ll do it with anyone.</p>

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<p>Goodness, that’s just ridiculous. And since when does the definition of virgin/non-virgin depend on the hymen? Does this program have an equivalent for men? </p>

<p>Hunt, this is already done. Years ago there was a story about it in the news. An adopted child was being “reborn” to help her bond with her new mother. This was suggested by and done with the guidance of a therapist of some sort. The little girl was screaming for help, but the therapist said that he process had to be a struggle. She died, I think from suffocation.</p>

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<p>I vaguely remember that story. Or was it on Law and Order?</p>

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<p>If a mother of 2 can return to an imagined state of virginity, then pigs can fly.</p>

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<p>…and waterboarding isn’t torture! ;)</p>

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<p>From the OP’s article link: </p>

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<p>Rumor has it that some spouses make the last decision without consulting the other spouse. Hence, “pigs are flying” in that “relationship.”</p>

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<p>The Puritans both expected and promoted sex before marriage, the idea being that if the match was not fruitful, it was not truly blessed by God. It is estimated that some two-thirds of Puritan women married between 1700-1750 were pregnant at the time of their wedding.</p>

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<p>I like magical realism!</p>

<p>And it makes me sad to think that there are young women out there who “feel like second-hand goods” and who believe they are “not worthy to be cherished”. I hope they change their minds!</p>

<p>I’m not so impressed with men (or women) who would make virginity a firm requirement for a potential spouse, but, hey, if that’s their only flaw, I could overlook it. And, if they are willing to treat revirginization as satisfying their criterion, well . . . I certainly don’t have any problem with that!</p>

<p>So, I guess I’m in favor of revirginization. It’s certainly not for everyone, but if it works for particular people, and adds a little glamour to their lives, and doesn’t defraud anyone . . . what’s not to love?</p>

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<p>I find that some guy needs to have a “virgin” for his wife a huge sign of insecurity…the “god” stuff is just a cover for feelings of inadequecy or whatever</p>

<p>I have a problem with the whole concept, as if somehow women are lesser and less worthy or whatever because they had sex…</p>

<p>it creates a mentality that you must be “untouched” to be worthy of love, and in some cases in the world, if you have been “touched” they can kill you with few consequences</p>

<p>I find it just really sad- maybe its the words- revigrinization…and not feeling whole or worthy or pure because you have a past</p>

<p>Being a new virgin in this world isn’t about “letting go and ignoring your past”, its about looking good for some guy who thinks only virgins are good enough , and to some not being a virgin can mean death</p>

<p>And if you can only feel value and valued because you have revirginized yourself, how sad is that</p>

<p>The girl in the article is basically denying her children and in essence they are some kind of “proof” showing her flaws…oh, yeah, I had two kids, but I am a virgin…hogwash</p>

<p>What makes me sadder than the young women, is the men that think only a virgin is valued, that they can only have a virgin for a bride, that people will go through medical procedures to make them selves worthy of a man, and that some men can’t look at the woman as a whole person, but will focus on a bit of flesh</p>

<p>and along with that the mentality that even if a female is raped, she is dirty and not worthy of him- its that male mindset that values virginity and females fall into that guilt trip if they had a life…why should a woman have to sew herself back up in order to be “reborn” and for a man to have the fake moment of rebreaking the hymen is just really sick, if you ask me</p>

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<p>Well, if one can become a virgin after having had two children, let’s talk about annulment of marriage in the Catholic Church. </p>

<p>I’ve never understood that, either.</p>