<p>The roommates are definitely, on some level, ganging up on her. The sooner she separates from them, the better. I don’t think their hostility can be influenced by either your daughter, the RA, or anyone else, even if some “agreement” was made re house rules. My younger D went through something a bit similar with suitemates who started out friendly. There was never an explanation, but she moved off-campus in mid year to extricate herself.</p>
<p>They sound like brats.</p>
<p>Parents can’t sit - seriously?. When my best friend and I went to her daughter’s school for homecoming a few years back (their school was playing my school), the hotel prices were really jacked up for the weekend and her roommate suggested we just take their room and they both went off and camped out with friends. They had fun without us and with us depending on what was going on. It was a great weekend. (FWIW, we would never have suggested this, they came up with it themselves.)</p>
<p>Completely ridiculous.</p>
<p>My mom has stayed the night in my on-campus apartment before, and my roommate had no problem with it. She was perfectly comfortable showering and everything, while my mom was in the apartment, and I don’t really see why you wouldn’t be, especially if the mom isn’t even in the bedroom. One of my roommate’s moms stayed a week with us before. I can see them getting a little worked up over something like that, but to be honest, her mom was a better roommate than our actual roommate was so we didn’t mind it as much.</p>
<p>I’d recommend that your daughter hold her ground against their ridiculous “rules,” and then find new roommates as soon as she can.</p>
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<p>If that’s the case, that just underscores the 3 roommates’ ridiculousness and lack of maturity. I for one feel such emotional reactions should have been left behind by the end of 8th grade at the absolute latest …</p>
<p>OPs D needs to learn to stand up for herself and for what is right. Otherwise people will walk all over her.</p>