Good day parents!
I would like to ask for your help on how to ask my mom to let me go on a road trip with my friends!
The problem is I’m currently 17, however some of my friends are 18. About 10 of us would be going, and only around half are 18. She knows all of my friends and most of their parents. Most of my friends are guys so idk how she would feel about it.
The trip is about 3 hours away. I really want to go because it is my senior year and by the time I’m 18 we will all be in different places.
I would give her everyone’s contact information, and an itinerary, as well as estimated costs. I could FaceTime and text her as well. Most of my friends are driving. I have even thought of asking her to come along if she will not allow me due to age? What do you all think?
I am a parent. If my 17 year old wanted to go on a road trip with ten friends…the answer would be NO. And I can’t imagine I would want to be the ONLY parent on such a trip.
When do you plan to do this? Where are you planning to stay (some hotels, and places like Airbnb won’t allow you because you are too young). Who is paying and how much.
Isn’t there something you ten friends could do closer to home?
I think this would be detail specific. What, where, how why? Who’s at the other end.
My kid wanted to go to his buddy’s lake house. We where hesitant, but got to speak with his mother who gave us all the info he wouldn’t. Turned out it was a family affair, including grandma and grandpa – so no teenage shenanigans.
I would say no unless there were adult chaperones. Too many things could go south.
No. Ten 17-18 year old guys on a road trip? And are you female? How many days is this road trip for? Where exactly are you going that’s three hours away? I assume that drinking will be involved. No. Never going to happen in my home, not even if you are all guys. Nothing good will come of it. If all the other parents are happy with it, good for them. Sorry if that isn’t what you want to hear.
You are under 18, and in many places, you would be breaking a legal curfew after a certain hour.
@thumper1 is right, most places don’t allow kids to reserve hotel rooms for young adults.
Have your friends even thought that through? Where would you stay? How would you budget for food and expenses? I’m suspicious of a trip where you are exactly 3 hours away. Where are you going: to Tijuana or to Canada?
Ten children on a road trip is a dangerous recipe for disaster.
we’re planning on doing this on a three day weekend coming up, and staying in a cabin. we would all split up the costs, no drinking or anything illegal.
we could make a reservation, you need to be 18 and half of my friends are already of that age. yes it is guys and girls.
the roadtrip would be 3 days, leave friday and come back monday.
we’re still calculating how much we would need to pay, and rooming because there are guys & girls. most of my friends would drive and take one friend in the car with them
overall i just would like to know what could get me a chance of my mother saying yes, what could i do to improve the plan? we are all pretty responsible.
I’d be more likely to approve if everyone was catching a bus to get to destination. I’m sorry, co-Ed sleepovers of large groups is asking for trouble. I’d say no.
there isn’t any to there, and yeah maybe. i’m just looking for tips.
honestly we’ve just wanted to go on a roadtrip forever and all of our other friends do it. we want to have the best time possible before college, and by the time half of us are 18, we won’t be together, we’re all gonna be in different cities.
like we have an itinerary for the trip, we would visit museums, take pics, go to parks, skiing, etc
we can also fish and go to their downtown area as well
it’s about 169 miles away from home
My D’s would never have asked this question at 17 because they know the answer would have been no.
i feel like it would serve to prove i am responsible and everything since I am moving away in 6 months for college, at the age of 17.
There aren’t any “magic words” to get permission in this case. Your mom will decide all on her own with no help from
you or anyone here. Most of that will be dependent on how responsible she perceives you to be and how well she knows your friends.
Travel plans are important–driving is a biggie .
Accommodations.
Having a planned agenda is good. But every parent knows agendas are “subject to change”.
It is true that you’ll be off to college soon…but “last fling” party definitely isn’t a selling point.
“All our other friends do it” is also not a selling point.
@yikespa The problem here is that you are asking a bunch of people who can remember what it was like to be 17 -18 and who can remember all the dumb and dangerous things kids often do at that age. Your mother fits that description too. And the odds of 10 teenagers going off on an unsupervised three day road trip without at least one of them doing something really foolish and/or dangerous during that time are pretty low.
My daughters were the most responsible kids I’ve known, but unless there were a lot of adult supervision on such a trip my answer would be No.