<p>I’m stunned. Just found out a friend of my d’s took her life last weekend. She attended middle school and the first two years of h.s. with ldgirl and then was accepted to TAMS. Brilliant, beautiful girl who won awards for epidemiology papers/projects and was on track to graduate this year. Just so sad. :(</p>
<p>oo no, that’s so sad
what made her want to do something like that?</p>
<p>So sorry to hear this. We had the same experience with my dear friend’s son. Horrible. Prayers from PA</p>
<p>Suicide is always tragic. Go give your daughter a hug.</p>
<p>It was very unexpected. My d was showing me her Facebook and the Facebook tribute group and in every photo there she is smiling or laughing. She kept her pain hidden well which makes the whole situation even more sad.</p>
<p>So so sorry ldmom. This happened in our small town, but to a schoolmate of DS who was not such a close friend as your D’s friend. It is so tragic, so sad, so stunning. We will all be thinking of what you and yours are going through in the days to come.</p>
<p>Im sorry to hear about that- kids are so impulsive and sometimes very short sighted.</p>
<p>Give a hug to your daughter from me.
Let her know that it is not anyones fault- those who commit suicide are not ( usually) trying to hurt anyone- but sometimes they are just in so much psychic pain that the only way they can think of to stop it is to die.
They are also often very intelligent and are great at putting up a front- they can be very convincing, and sometimes even convince themselves- but it takes an awful lot of energy to keep that up- and even young people get tired.
encourage your daughter to talk about it- or write about it- it helps.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry to hear this ldmom. :(</p>
<p>I’m so sorry.</p>
<p>Idmom06. Oh, what can one say when something like this happens? I’m so sorry.</p>
<p>I so sorry for such tragic and sad news. The loss of the life of such a young person in their prime is unthinkable and unbearable. It will be such a difficult time for her family and friends. I hope your D happens to be home now (I mean this week) and can have the support of the entire group of people who are grieving the loss of this young girl. Thinking of you and those who are touched by the loss of such a fine young lady.</p>
<p>Hope you can give your d all the support she needs. This is always such heartbreaking news to everyone. Thinking of you…</p>
<p>I am so sad and sorry.</p>
<p>In case it helps you or D, here’s a site for those left behind, to help understand: </p>
<p><a href=“http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/[/url]”>http://www.survivorsofsuicide.com/</a></p>
<p>especially click on the right menu, “helping a survivor heal”</p>
<p>Idmom, what a tragedy, just heartbreaking. I’m so sorry.</p>
<p>Thank you all so much…I will definitely pass along your good advice and websites to my d. </p>
<p>ldgirl had not been in touch with her friend recently, so she is not sure exactly what happened to make her so despondent over the last few months. She graduated from TAMS and was accepted to quite a few good schools, apparently the front runners being Rhodes and Texas A&M. She opted for A&M and according to my d, was set to graduate sometime this year. Her friend was an exceptional scholar, but I can only wonder about the pressures of pushing toward adult responsibilities so quickly. My d was also invited to apply to TAMS, which is a wonderful program, but not for everyone…and definitely not for her. (For those who don’t know, TAMS is a program where h.s. students complete 11th and 12th grade and college freshman/sophomore year simultaneously. Students live in dorms away from home.) Of course, this is only speculation on my part. ldgirl’s friend may have thrived under pressure and had problems completely unrelated to college and career.</p>
<p>Gosh…my heart hurts for this girl’s parents. I cannot even imagine.</p>
<p>I hurt for this girl and her family. We have had a few freinds go through TAMS and I’m sure the community is crying today.</p>
<p>What a tragedy. My condolences to you and your daughter.</p>
<p>Also sorry.
I think the saddest thing, especially for a parent, would be realizing how hopeless this poor person felt to take such a step. If only they could give it one more chance, one more day, maybe life could get a little better. It’s final and heartbreaking.</p>
<p>I am so sorry to hear about this. Hugs to your daughter, I hope she is willing to talk to you about her feelings.</p>
<p>Not to sound trite, but what is TAMS? I’m not familiar with the term.</p>
<p>Hugs to you and your daughter. Such a terrible tragedy. As adults we see this act as so senseless…what must she have been feeling to think this was her only way/the best way out of her pain? When I look at my kids I think they are well-adjusted, and then I hear another story like this, and I question what I am seeing.</p>