<p>Our invites were of standard size and the handwriting was legible. We’ve had other pieces of mail go missing from this particular post office over the years. Either the mail isn’t delivered to us or mail we drop in the box, never arrives.</p>
<p>In fact, I filed a complaint about a year ago when our debit cards and bank cards for my parents never arrived. They were sent out on separate days. We have different banks/credit unions and live in separate zip codes but use that same post office. Too many coincidences to be explained away.</p>
<p>The invitations were standard-sized. I believe all were mailed at the same post office and don’t know why some were delivered and others went missing. I’m glad the air was cleared because sometimes folks can’t believe the mail was delayed. As far as we know, those missing invitations never arrived!</p>
<p>A couple years ago the postman on our route bailed.
About 45 pieces of mail were dumped in our mailbox, only a couple were ours.
I put it in a bag and took it to the post office, but they looked at it like they wanted to throw it out.</p>
<p>My son received a card in the mail the other day addressed to the previous owner who had died eight years ago. The card had been mailed over 20 years ago.</p>
<p>We own a business and send thousands of postcards twice a year. I always get complaints that the card never arrived. We used to get at least a dozen back every time as undeliverable, but apparently now the post office just throws those out. Although sometimes we get one that says “address unknown” when it was sent to a house that we have actually been to.</p>
<p>Our D’s wedding is one week from today. We had several pieces of mail get “lost” or ridiculously delayed. We ended up following up on all the RSVPs that we had not yet received by phone. </p>
<p>I’m just a-sittin here by my mailbox. I did find a gift registry with several items purchased, so I’m assuming the wedding is still on. H doesn’t seem to care if he’s invited or not. It’s in Florida and I could really use a trip to Florida right about now. H has a prior commitment in Florida the day before, so it would be easy for him to attend. The STD was really creative, including a lucky penny to make a wish at the wedding. What should I do with this penny? </p>
<p>Take that penny and wish for your invitation to arrive ASAP :)</p>
<p>Only several items purchased off the registry? I’ve waited until a few weeks before a wedding and NOTHING was left on the registry…nothing at all. </p>
<p>I really appreciated the Save the Date cards a young couple sent us last June advising us of a September wedding – plane tickets, hotels and other travel arrangements were a lot better set up sooner rather than later, and H has to schedule vacation fairly carefully. We had already planned to take vacation that week, and thus (sadly) had to cancel Old Faithful Inn reservations that had been on the books for almost a year, but so it goes. </p>
<p>There have been 3 times in the last 5 years where we will end up getting a “baggy” from the post office. Inside the “baggy” will be the remains of what is left after the post office machines has “ate” the envelope. </p>
<p>We STILL get mail addressed to tenants who lived in this house for a year–in the 1980s! We also get mail addressed to dead relatives–died 2-20 years ago!</p>
<p>UPDATE…The groom-to-be called H about some business and casually mentioned “seeing him at the wedding”. H told him he hadn’t received the invitation, to which GTB said he was the second person today who said he hadn’t recieved the invitation. He was going to talk to his fiance. H quickly added that it may have gotten lost in the mail. GTB said invitations were sent out late, two weeks ago. The wedding is in 3 1/2 weeks and unfortunately my airfare to FL would now be about $650. I don’t know if it’s worth it.</p>
I could be wrong, but it almost sounds as if the groom was becoming concerned about the lack of RSVPs to the wedding and was finding reasons to call invitees. I’m basing that on the fact that he said it was the second person today that said they hadn’t received an invitation. The odds of that happening are low, unless you are making a lot of phone calls. I’m not sure whether to put any stock into the groom’s knee jerk response that he needed to check with his fiance.</p>
<p>I’m sorry that the airfares are so expensive at this point.</p>
<p>My H and I were invited to and attended an engagement party in which we of course gave a gift. We were never invited to the wedding! It seems we were supposed to be invited to the wedding but were cut from the guest list. I felt that was really nervy.</p>
<p>When I was in college, several friends and I were invited to another friend’s engagement party. No one in these parts had engagement parties, but we figured that if we got invited to the engagement party, we’d be invited to the wedding. Nope. We thought that was really strange. </p>
<p>In my family, engagement parties are not for gifts; they are to celebrate the engagement, and to allow family members and friends on one side to meet the fiance/fiancee. They are normally scheduled right after the happy couple gets engaged, perhaps before any wedding planning has taken place.</p>
<p>I thing the groom may have had an inkling that there was an invitation problem. He also made a comment about understanding how one invitation could get lost, but not two. After hearing all of your stories, I also think the post office has problems. Maybe it’s wise to make calls to people that don’t RSVP. You don’t want anyone thinking they were purposely left out.</p>
<p>I’m surprised to see the new advice is 8 weeks. Used to be mail them about 6 weeks, to arrive about 5 weeks before. Ema, think about mailing them from your local main PO. It’s worth a trip to a PO now, to confirm postage-- and to see if they have pretty stamps. At your target send date, you could have fewer options. You may not want Harry Potter stamps or Liberty Bells. </p>