What an interesting conversation. My parents never complimented. Unless my Mother was bragging about one of our accomplishments to brag about her parenting skills. Both parents were quick to jump on you if you screwed up though. My H is from a large family and although his parents weren’t looking to call the kids out on the bad they did, they did not do much complimenting either. When I was younger I would always deflect compliments: “oh, it was a team thing”, or " I missed that goal", or “I stumbled during the beginning of the speech”. I never felt deserving. Now, I accept the compliment without exception, but still wonder if I really deserve it. My kids are 180° of me and H.