<p>On the other hand, if you have decided to leave already, F&M’s great pre-med program is a moot point. So, let’s assume that you will be leaving. Transfers are lucky, in a way, because they have real, concrete experience on a college campus. That experience <em>can</em> help them pinpoint what they want/need in order to feel comfortable, happy, and successful in a way that high school students don’t have. Unfortunately, the big mistake that I see transfers make is that they start by saying, “I am not satisfied here, there must be something better” without ever really figuring out what “something better” means to THEM individually.</p>
<p>The truth is no college is perfect. Even if you land at a school that is “better,” it still won’t be perfect. Keep that in mind.</p>
<p>But more importantly, I would suggest you start your transfer search not with a long list of colleges that range all over the place, but rather, with YOU.
Here are the questions I would spend time seriously mulling over and answering before deciding to transfer or trying to put together a college list:</p>
<p>What have you LIKED about F&M? Be specific, and think about both large and small things. INclude both concrete things (I like being able to walk to downtown Lancaster or I like being close to home) to less concrete things (I felt happy when my professor said my paper was good) “I hate everything” isn’t the right answer, because as I said every school has SOME redeeming factors. Knowing what you have liked about your experiences at F&M is just as important as knowing what you have disliked. Spend a week or so just noticing F&M’s positives.</p>
<p>Once you have made a list of the things you have liked about F&M, both large and small, take that list and ask: Which of these positive aspects of F&M are ones that I wouldn’t want to give up? Which of these positive aspects would I like to keep at my next college? Try to rank the ones you hope to keep from “can’t do without” to “don’t really need”</p>
<p>After you have evaluated the positives, ask yourself these questions: </p>
<p>What situations and places have I found most comfortable for myself here at F&M? Why? </p>
<p>What situations and places have I found most uncomfortable? Why?What characteristics have those situations/places shared?</p>
<p>What type of people have I enjoyed getting to know at F&M? Why? What characteristics do they share? </p>
<p>What type of people have gotten on my nerves at F&M? Why? What characteristics do they share? </p>
<p>Overall, how do I feel I fit in at F&M? Why? What would make me feel more comfortable or less uncomfortable? </p>
<p>Write the answers down. Try to rank the importance of your answers to the last one.</p>
<p>Next questions:</p>
<p>What do I dislike about F&M or wish were diffferent? As with the things you like, be as specific as possible, and include things both large and small, concrete and less concrete. Which of the items on the list do you most hope will be different at your next college? Which ones would you be able to live with if your next college still had them?</p>
<p>Rank the ones you hope will be different from “I absolutely must have this at my next school” to “I can live with this at my next school if I have to.”</p>
<p>Last questions:</p>
<p>If you woke up tommorrow and a miracle had occurred and you had suddenly been whisked off to your absolute perfect college, what would it be like? What would it look like? Who would you sit with in the cafeteria? How would students be dressed? What would they talk about outside of class? Who would be teaching your classes? What would those classes be like (not just the type of classes, but how would those classes be conducted)? What would you be doing for fun on Friday night? What would you be doing on Sunday? What would the surrounding community be like? What would you feel when you mentioned you attended Perfect College to your family, your friends, your next door neighbor? How would you describe it? Why would you be happier there than F&M? And, just as importantly, what things off of your :dislike: list would you be willing to accept as part of your Perfect College?</p>
<p>Most important questions of all: If you woke up tommorrow morning and an even bigger miracle had occurred and F&M had metamorphized into your Perfect college, what would be different about the school? What would be different about you? Think of FIVE things you could do to nudge your experience at F&M over towards the perfect college side — try one of them in the next few weeks. What happens?</p>
<p>And, finally, give some thought to how tolerant you are of change. Are you the type of person who thinks of change as a positive, exciting thing? Or are you the type of person who feels uncomfortable when faced with a decision to change things? You didn’t say how long you’ve been at F&M, but if you have been there for less two years: could part of your disatisfaction be because you are still adapting to the change of being at college?</p>
<p>Write down all of your answers, and don’t rush. Think before you answer. I don’t get to cC much, but if you would like to PM me the answers, we can talk more and I can give you some more ideas about schools to consider. But, if you only answer these questions for yourself, you will find yourself having a clearer picture of which schools might fit you, and why. And, that’s when you’ll be ready to not only make the decision about whether transferring is right for you, but also which schools should be on your list if you do decide to transfer.</p>