<p>I agree however I feel that blaming their parents for their deaths is like blaming the young women who apparently thought they were going to be dancing at a bachelor party for what looks like turned into “gang rape”
I think we all try and look for a reason why horrible things happen so that we can “control the situation” so that it doesn’t happen to our kids
I frankly have always been comfortable with where my kids were and what they are doing- now that my oldest is almost 24- I can’t quite say that- I certainly do not always know where she is or what she is doing- but when she was in high school I generally did.
That has earned me scorn at times from some on the board- who profess to “know” that all kids do this or that at one time or another.
But I also would argue that it depends on temprament- my oldest only participated in school activities- activities with her 4-h group or events with friends and parents from above. She didn’t have a drink till she was a senior in high school and she felt so guilty and upset about it, that I finally coaxed out of her what the matter was.( she was at an overnight in preparation for a school trip- the mother was in her room ill)</p>
<p>I agree that the parents of the young girls optimally should have known more about what was happening- but the fact that they were out all night isn’t what caused their deaths.</p>
<p>The shootings could easily have happened at 9pm as 7 am.
It wasn’t like it was a high crime neighborhood either- actually it is a pretty nice neighborhood about a block or so from Holy names, in an area of some very nice houses- the fact that the shooter had been in trouble before with weapons and the extent of his collection is much more troubling.</p>