<p>^^^ Destroys mine too! Nice to know. Must have been an accepting, nurturing one.</p>
<p>Question for those with waitlist hopefuls…are you or your child doing anything further to try to enhance the status with the AdCom or is all about the waiting now? My S finished exams on Friday so ostensibly if he does well he could send grades in…but at this point, would it really matter?
PS-- This is not my idea. I would like him to be happy with the school he has selected because it’s a great choice for him. But a parent I know mentioned this and it got me thinking.</p>
<p>2forcollege,
Have been sending quiet vibes to Chicago to LET YOUR D IN NOW!!!</p>
<p>acme - My S immediately sent a letter of continued interest after the waitlist notification and an update on a state award. About three weeks later, he sent another update with his third quarter grades. He has not sent anything since.</p>
<p>acme: There are several waiting list threads I have meandered through on CC (daughter is waitlisted at three schools) and the advice seems varied depending on the college and circumstances. I’d take a look at them, and at the individual college thread(s). It’s so hard to know what to do or not do, isn’t it?</p>
<p>jnsq-- my S’s schools threads don’t seem to have much action except people asking each other “have you heard anything”. I just don’t want him to be sitting around in a holding pattern because school is out so he won’t be in gc office…but still waiting for something that may never come.</p>
<p>When the phone rings, I jump-- sooo ridiculous.</p>
<p>C’mon, c’mon … melt melt melt … get these students off the waitlists.</p>
<p>Well, when the phone rings I jump too…for a different reason! My S’s endless travels are making me sick to my stomach. He spent the last 11 hours in the Paris airport and better be on the plane for his flight to Tel Aviv as we speak. Sure hope he didn’t fall asleep! He lands in Tel Aviv around midnight, will go spend the rest of the night in Jerusalem with a friend, then head out tomorrow at 3:20pm for Tashkent, via Istanbul. At least that layover is just about 3+ hours…will seem like a breeze! For LI mom…he’s traveling both because he’s interested and because one of his professors hooked him up with an Italian colleague who is part of an archaeological excavation team. He is an anthropology major and will be interning/observing with this team for a month as well as doing some traveling the country. Then he heads back to Israel to meet a friend from home (and some of our relatives) for 9 days. After that he and his friend will be traveling in Europe for a month, returning home in late July.</p>
<p>runnersmom, I feel for you…it’s not easy when a child is out there in strange places without much opportunity to connect and let you know he’s ok. We will send “safety” vibes out to him and “relax” vibes out to you.</p>
<p>Thanks, I really appreciate it. My eldest traveled to Vladivostok, Russia for a summer, then overland on his own through eastern and western Europe to London for his semester abroad. Like college admissions and child raising, you’d think it’d get easier…but it doesn’t! Anyway, his Paris-Tel Aviv leg is in the air…yeah, 1/2 way there.</p>
<p>runnersmom: Thinking of you today! Hang in there, and keep us posted as he travels halfway (or more!) around the world. Are you checking the flights online from time to time? Your kids travel to some exotic-sounding places! Praying for peace in Israel. </p>
<p>acme: Sorry the phone’s ring is jangling your nerves. Even though my daughter has given up the ship on her waitlisted schools, I guess I haven’t, and am petrified I will miss a call and they will move on to the next name! I’ve been tempted to call the admissions offices and ask them point-blank: what are her chances, and when can we stop thinking about it? Have you thought about calling, acme?</p>
<p>At some point will we know the gates are closed? I don’t recall any “If you haven’t heard by” dates being mentioned.</p>
<p>jnsq: I have thought about calling but fear the backlash from my S if he found out…</p>
<p>He and I just discussed that there are no indications his top waitlist school will notify him definitively either way. Some schools seem to be posting things on their admissions sites but not S’s waitlist school.</p>
<p>I explained the summer melt concept to him and he wasn’t happy about that prospect.</p>
<p>runnersmom: What an amazing adventure!!! And you get to have it vicariously. I used to worry more than I do now. Well, that’s not accurate. I still get anxious, but I know I’m being irrational. Here’s why. I was driving DS through local State U where he was to have a violin lesson. I missed a stop sign. Yup. Got to admit it. (I didn’t see it. Would never intentionally run a stop sign.) The student on the cross street didn’t even look and barreled into me on the same side of the car where DS sat. He could have been seriously injured right next to me!!! With me driving. Luckily the car struck just behind me. So realize we just can’t keep them safe.</p>
<p>jnsq: I would tell your daughter, not in specific terms with actual mean acts but in general terms. I think it’s important for her to know that people don’t operate on the same plane she does. You can stress that hers is the higher plane.</p>
<p>I would let her know that there are many creatures on this planet earth who do things to hurt others and don’t care that they do. You can tell her that she doesn’t have to be hurt by their behaviors but that most people would be. And you can let her know that other people don’t always understand the way she reacts, that she is so accepting of others.</p>
<p>I think I might finish with, “Thank goodness you’re such a beautiful person who is not damaged and does not have to hurt other people. I’m so lucky. Too bad not all mothers are so lucky,” or some such.</p>
<p>This is why we read literature, study psychology etc. to understand others. I really think being clueless is not a gift, although being impervious to the emotional pain is. They don’t have to be the same thing. After all, I don’t know what it’s like to want to kill someone, but it is helpful to know that there are other people who do feel this.</p>
<p>Maybe I’m wrong, but that would be my approach.</p>
<p>College is a change to meet people without history and baggage, even if those mean girls are going, too.</p>
<p>Your D will probably always be different (hallelujah!) but she can become more street savvy.</p>
<p>For those helping to keep me sane…he landed in Israel. Now to go through customs and immigration. Off to Uzbekistan in about 15.5 hours…</p>
<p>runnersmom, so glad your S is safe…hope the trip to Uzbekistan is the same!</p>
<p>acme, thanks! He’s safely ensconced in his friend’s Jerusalem apartment for the rest of the night and will return to the airport tomorrow for his flight to Tashkent, Uzbekistan via Istanbul. I do hope tomorrow goes as smoothly as today has gone.
For all those waiting on wait lists, hang in there. Though its hard to tell from my neurotic ravings about travel, I am a believer in things happening for a reason. The kids I know who have gone to schools other than their first choice schools have been beyond happy where they land. That school becomes their school very quickly. I do wish these schools would recognize the angst they put these kids through and, as they say, “fish or cut bait” sooner rather than later.</p>
<p>Wow, this thread has been busy today! </p>
<p>runnersmom - what adventurous sons you have. This trip to Uzbekistan sounds like an opportunity that was too good to pass up - and I’m sure it will be an amazing experience for him. I truly hope his travels go smoothly and I am sure he will have a most awesome time.</p>
<p>jnsq - your D sounds so sweet and very innocent. My D is also sweet, and she used to be a bit naive when it came to her friends - but she is now very aware of social nuances. I think that her awareness probably kicked in around 6th grade. Before that, she really was clueless about those things. S, on the other hand, was just born knowing that stuff. </p>
<p>I really like what acme said, about your D being able to forge her own path without worrying what others will say (I feel that my D has that quality as well). I also like 2forcolleges advice about helping your D develop self-confidence (if you feel that she needs the boost). </p>
<p>I’m sorry - but I’m having trouble keeping my eyes open tonight - will catch up with you all again tomorrow. Have a good night.</p>
<p>Good morning! I started the day with the good news that my S has at last formally given up on waiting for 2 of his wl schools and written to them to be removed from their waitlists. Still wants to stay on 1, but at least we are getting a little closure!</p>
<p>Busy day today for me and hope all who are still keeping the vigil, whether for wl news, or just the whole pre-graduation process, has a great day in store.</p>
<p>acme, congratulations. Doesn’t it feel good when it looks like they really think about a situation and come up with mature, reasoned conclusions on what’s best for them! I think choosing the school he’s already committed to over 2 of his WL schools shows that he’s really moving forward towards embracing that decision. I hope the other WL school responds to him sooner rather than later so he (and you) can enjoy the whole run-up to graduation!</p>
<p>runnersmom, thanks! Did your son’s flight today go smoothly? That is quite a trip he’s on.</p>